Attention America: In case you didn't know, black women ARE beatiful!!

[petiteNunique]

I am writing this post because it seems to be the case that we black women are being portrayed as undesireble in the media. I mean, I don't even see black women with black men on tv anymore. what's up with that??!! For example, I turn on the Ochcinco season premier to find that he overlooked so many beautiful black women when choosing them for the show!! I even heard that there was already a group of women who were pre chosen before the show even premiered. The group consisted of five white women, 5 latino women, 5 black women, and one middle eastern woman. He told the producers that he didn't want any of the chosen black women. The producers had to beg him to at least keep two or three of them. What the heck!! Im tired of the media portraying us as undesireable and that we are all loud, ghetto, unattractive, etc. I just wanted to let all my fellow sisters know that YOU ARE BEAUTIFULL!!!!!

Thank you for the comments, guys...i'm really enjoying reading how you all feel about this issue.

 

[ellebelle88]

Thanks for that encouragement/inspiration hun!

 

[kmn1980]

Personally, I think the BW got off easy on that Ochocinco thing. It's not like he'd be faithful.

 

[petiteNunique]

Ur welcome guys, i mean, i don't even see black men with black women anymore.

 

[ellebelle88]

I feel kinda sideways about that show. In one light it's like OK, so no black women were harmed in the making of that show but then once again white women were cast in this angelic light where they were shown to be the epitome of what it means to beautiful and wanted. In one instance on the show, he had to choose between a black woman and white woman and he says to the black woman:

"You're cool, we connect, we have a lot in common. I really dig you but I'm wondering if you can keep that up and keep me interested."

Then he turns to the white woman and he says, "You're beautiful and I like that about you."

WTF? As if being white is the only requirement for keeping his attention. So yeah, I see what the OP is talking about. There is a lot of unconscious degrading of the black woman if you pay attention.

 

[petiteNunique]

good point, ljbee

 

[SlantedEyezMiss2003]

girl, I agree blk women are VERY BEAUTIFUL, no matter what size, shape, dark or light skin, natural or relaxed, we are all beautiful, God's beautiful creation, I do agree, I don't see too many blk men with blk women, and their reasons, I don't know, but I think blk women are very beautiful, yes there are some *special ones, but there are some *special ones in every race, so I don't see why the media is trying to make us look bad, EVERYONE needs to keep their heads up and continue to be confident regardless, blk women: we gotta stay strong and independent as always NO MATTER what, and of course we need to stick together.......also I wanted to add, don't watch those dumb shows (RAY J, TO SHOW, Ochcinco, etc) cuz they don't do nothing for me, and personally they are not that cute to me....but my opinion......

 

[ConstantlyDynamic]

i completely agree and thanks for the post i don't pay attention to the negativity anymore. at the end of the day, i can't respect a man like that so it's not a loss by any means. what black women need to do is remember that these men aren't worth their time anyway. especially when there are so many good men out there who don't have those types of hangups. when women complain about lil wayne's lyrics that promote colorism, i'm like, it's lil' wayne- there's nothing he could give me that i would want so who cares. for every guy like chad, there's an obama

 

[EllePixie]

LOL we don't want no dang Ochocinco...what kind of idiot changes his name to his jersey number anyway? Fail on that!

 

[ConstantlyDynamic]

girl, I agree blk women are VERY BEAUTIFUL, no matter what size, shape, dark or light skin, natural or relaxed, we are all beautiful, God's beautiful creation, I do agree, I don't see too many blk men with blk women, and their reasons, I don't know, but I think blk women are very beautiful, yes there are some *special ones, but there are some *special ones in every race, so I don't see why the media is trying to make us look bad, EVERYONE needs to keep their heads up and continue to be confident regardless, blk women: we gotta stay strong and independent as always NO MATTER what, and of course we need to stick together.......also I wanted to add, don't watch those dumb shows (RAY J, TO SHOW, Ochcinco, etc) cuz they don't do nothing for me, and personally they are not that cute to me....but my opinion......

and i don't think they're all that either! their personalities are the main things about them that are so unattractive. i bet every woman on this forum has had better

 

[davisbr88]

I think the OP just used him as an example. I don't think ANY of us would want any of those type of men but the reality of the fact is those type of men are men that other black men look to, and though they definitely didn't start the whole concept of black women not being viewed as beautiful, it's not like they are doing anything to not continue to perpetuate it. As someone who was told I was ugly and stuff like "I don't bang with dark-skinned girls unless they givin' it up," I know what effect the media can have on a regular person's daily life and even though we may be above these examples, not everyone is, and it really sucks.

 

[UrbainChic]

I think the OP just used him as an example. I don't think ANY of us would want any of those type of men but the reality of the fact is those type of men are men that other black men look to, and though they definitely didn't start the whole concept of black women not being viewed as beautiful, it's not like they are doing anything to not continue to perpetuate it. As someone who was told I was ugly and stuff like "I don't bang with dark-skinned girls unless they givin' it up," I know what effect the media can have on a regular person's daily life and even though we may be above these examples, not everyone is, and it really sucks.

Thats horrible. Im sorry anyone ever uttered any such thing to you. You are so cute, esp with your dimples, so i am doubly shocked to read about your experience.

 

[davisbr88]

^^ Yeah, I was told that a lot. No one recently - the last time was probably in like 11th grade or so, but it took a lot for me to overcome feeling completely worthless. And I think the part that made it crazy was that lots of older people would tell me I was the cutest little thing or whatever, but to this day, I have only been told I was beautiful by one guy my age in my entire life. Guys at school or around me were not trying to date someone who looked like me unless she was "givin' it up" like I said earlier, and even then, it still wasn't really dating. I have days when I feel like I look really nice and I have the confident facade down pat, but truthfully it's a daily struggle and though I don't blame people for expressing their preference, I do blame those who cut down an entire race or a portion of an entire race while doing so and therefore making some guy somewhere feel it was his right to make women of that race feel completely worthless for not fitting into that preference. You can build your own self up, but if you have a ****ty foundation, it's hard to completely keep yourself up all the time, and that's something a lot of us have to deal with not only because of other races of men viewing us this way, but our OWN men (and the media AIN'T helpin)

 

[ellebelle88]

^^^Agreed. I think for me being told "You're the first dark skinned girl I've ever dated" is equally as degrading. I have had guys tell me that like it's a compliment. What the heck? What they're really saying is, "Dark skinned girls aren't attractive but you managed to catch my attention until the next light skinned girl comes." That's your problem that you don't know how to appreciate black women in all shades when your mama is black. #ontothenextone

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

LOL we don't want no dang Ochocinco...what kind of idiot changes his name to his jersey number anyway? Fail on that!

Considering that he also change his name to the wrong number, he's an idiot.

 

[ebonylocs]

It's a really strange thing to hear on here all the time how WW are standard of beauty. I don't live in the US, and most of the white women here are not attractive at all - either huge with wide droopy flat arses or skinny with narrow droopy flat arses, all of them with bad skin - crispy / mottled / wrinkled / rough. Very little sex appeal. I will admit that here mixed / light brown girls are considered ideal. But white girls??? Nah. Black and mixed girls are just so much hotter, fitter, shapelier, better groomed. So it's just puzzling to me that it's supposedly so different in the US. (I've lived in the US BTW - I think the difference there is you have a larger sample of WW to choose from, plus in the US media nearly only good looking people are shown, so people see a lot of goodlooking white people on their TV sets and movie screens and it somehow blocks out what they actually see when they go out on the street.

 

[EllePixie]

It's a really strange thing to hear on here all the time how WW are standard of beauty. I don't live in the US, and most of the white women here are not attractive at all - either huge with wide droopy flat arses or skinny with narrow droopy flat arses, all of them with bad skin - crispy / mottled / wrinkled / rough. Very little sex appeal. I will admit that here mixed / light brown girls are considered ideal. But white girls??? Nah. Black and mixed girls are just so much hotter, fitter, shapelier, better groomed. So it's just puzzling to me that it's supposedly so different in the US. (I've lived in the US BTW - I think the difference there is you have a larger sample of WW to choose from, plus in the US media nearly only good looking people are shown, so people see a lot of goodlooking white people on their TV sets and movie screens and it somehow blocks out what they actually see when they go out on the street.

I see what you're trying to say, but insulting one race to compliment another is just as bad IMHO.

 

[ellebelle88]

It's a really strange thing to hear on here all the time how WW are standard of beauty. I don't live in the US, and most of the white women here are not attractive at all - either huge with wide droopy flat arses or skinny with narrow droopy flat arses, all of them with bad skin - crispy / mottled / wrinkled / rough. Very little sex appeal. I will admit that here mixed / light brown girls are considered ideal. But white girls??? Nah. Black and mixed girls are just so much hotter, fitter, shapelier, better groomed. So it's just puzzling to me that it's supposedly so different in the US. (I've lived in the US BTW - I think the difference there is you have a larger sample of WW to choose from, plus in the US media nearly only good looking people are shown, so people see a lot of goodlooking white people on their TV sets and movie screens and it somehow blocks out what they actually see when they go out on the street.

Interesting...where do you live ebonylocs?

 

[Aisling~Siahbon]

I've been noticing this too. How the media makes the least desirable woman the black woman. It's crazy. I also just watched a Youtube video where this Asian guy was talking about the same thing. It was eye opening American culture does it to the point that it's so noticable even by non- black women. We do have to encourage each other and know we are beautiful to dis-credit the stereotype. The show is isane and all shows like it. I don't watch them the will not get my rating points!

 

[Harina]

^^^^ He was talking about how he notices black women are portrayed in that light? Do you have a link?

 

[Aisling~Siahbon]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBNu-G3NFWc

He goes a little further than that. He talks about how black women are beatiful. He talks about his crush on a Black Woman but they way he talks about her is so cute! WARNING: Lots of cussin though!

 

[discodumpling]

Men like Ochocinco,Terrel Owens, et al...are not worthy of Black Women. They still carry grudges from when they were broke and the black chicks in their hoods wouldn't give them the time of day.

I am glad when they get with Becky...she gon' take ALL their $$$!!

 

[petiteNunique]

In addition, what is this teaching our daughter, or future daughters?? I dont want my future daughters thinking that only non-black women are desireable. And come to think about it, I dont want my sons seeing all their favorite black male celebrities limiting their dating pools to solely non-black women.

 

[Vashti]

I hate to see black women lowering themselves to even be on shows like that in the first place! I hate dating shows. It's a meat market and black women were treated like meat for centuries. Why lower yourself to be "chosen" by some jackass on a show? I can't even watch them because they always set it up so that we lose out. It's like a big joke played on us all of the time.

I refuse to watch them!

 

[jenaccess]

I agree totally! Yes each and everyone of us is beautiful.
And That Ochochino or whatever his name is, just make my boil! He doesn't like black women because he doesn't like himself.

 

[Embyra]

If he had a true preference for other races then fine whatever but the fact is he has how many kids ALL with black women .....suddenly when he has a tv show his sexing preference has changed dramatically

When he was on wendy he was saying to her yeah im glad you brought it up i wanted someone to address it *side eye* he clearly looking for attention and he wanted to make it clear to black women he is not interested

The more i see these type of black american men publicly casting aside black women im glad i live in europe

 

[jenaccess]

These kinds of topics really get me going because this type of ignorance by black men is affecting our black daughters. Yesterday my daughter said to me, mommy what is wrong with us? Why don't black men love us. This really sadden me when said this, but I said to her that there are plenty of black men that love us and the ones that don't most of the times don't really love themselves.

 

[jenaccess]

In respose to coconut reply.
When they aquire success, a Bentley and a Black card there preference always change drastically.

 

[Dijah]

[I think the OP just used him as an example. I don't think ANY of us would want any of those type of men but the reality of the fact is those type of men are men that other black men look to, and though they definitely didn't start the whole concept of black women not being viewed as beautiful, it's not like they are doing anything to not continue to perpetuate it. As someone who was told I was ugly and stuff like "I don't bang with dark-skinned girls unless they givin' it up," I know what effect the media can have on a regular person's daily life and even though we may be above these examples, not everyone is, and it really sucks.] Original Quote davisb88



I was justing thinking about something similar that happened to me when I was young. I was at the holding hands and laughing hanging out stage with this boy who was a lighter than me. I may have been in my second year of high school?
Anyway, we attended this after school program together and he introduced me to his parents.
The next day he said we couldn't hang out anymore. His parents said we had no future together and I would give him ugly babies.
I was thinking of him looking at my beautiful boys.
At the time it was very painful.
But his loss.
I am beautiful no matter what they say.

 

[bravenewgirl87]

[QUOTE=petiteNunique;11911569]Ur welcome guys, i mean, i don't even see black men with black women anymore.[/QUOTE]

That's because there are plenty of IRR unions between blk women in the media. We're not helpless victims of the meany black lathario. Not to mention, there are very few fictitious or real black couples in the media at all. However, NBC has a new show with a black couple lead called Undercovers.