Relaxed Hair Thread

coolsista-paris

Well-Known Member
im at 20 weeks post now. i was aiming 16 but hey here i am. i was gonna relax next week but i wont i guess. im again in a love and hate relationship with my hair. as ive got fine hair.... its just not looking big enough which is annoying me. im never satisfied no matter what i do.... it seems like its thinning too (medication)?? i dont know. i low manipulate although i do take hair doNw everyday... im even thinking of transitionning back to natural and becoming a straight hair natural (like when i was a kid.... that long beautiful full hair) ... :-( wanna cry. anyway im not relaxing for now because im not sure of what im gonna do.... transition or not.

oh and i see my curls at roots just making me miss my natural hair. :-/

the time it takes to do natural hair though i do not miss! lol but it seems to be less fragile than my relaxed hair.
if i had thick hair maybe relaxing wouldve been a little more simple
 
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Saludable84

Better Late Than Ugly
im at 20 weeks post now. i was aiming 16 but hey here i am. i was gonna relax next week but i wont i guess. im again in a love and hate relationship with my hair. as ive got fine hair.... its just not looking big enough which is annoying me. im never satisfied no matter what i do.... it seems like its thinning too (medication)?? i dont know. i low manipulate although i do take hair doNw everyday... im even thinking of transitionning back to natural and becoming a straight hair natural (like when i was a kid.... that long beautiful full hair) ... :-( wanna cry. anyway im not relaxing for now because im not sure of what im gonna do.... transition or not.

oh and i see my curls at roots just making me miss my natural hair. :-/

the time it takes to do natural hair though i do not miss! lol but it seems to be less fragile than my relaxed hair.
if i had thick hair maybe relaxing would've been a little more simple

From experience, thick hair doesn't make relaxing easier because I cannot relax it too straight. Im also starting to reconsider if I have high density hair because I have a lot of hair, something I didn't realize when I was bone straight. Perhap you should relax the hair so straight and roller set it during the weeks? I find that its the actual styling that causes my hair to be unbearable or determine what I will do with it next. I don't think you should relax if you don't need to :nono: but perhaps reevaluate styling and seeing if maybe is causing your hair to be fragile.

FYI: my hair is more fragile air dried versus when it is straight.
 

divachyk

Instagram: adaybyjay
Saludable84, my air dried hair breaks more than my straight hair. I need to reevaluate my process and perhaps wear straight hair weeks 7-10 when breakage is an increased possibility b/c I'm def getting my fair share of breakage right now.
 

greenandchic

Well-Known Member
I'm going on 9 weeks post and I already have to be extra careful with my hair from the new growth. I'm wearing twist outs these days and need to twist my hair more often between washes...
 

Babygrowth

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This touch up is going to be a little rough with all this newgrowth... no more long stretches for me ever! 16 weeks is my max!
 

Saludable84

Better Late Than Ugly
Saludable84, my air dried hair breaks more than my straight hair. I need to reevaluate my process and perhaps wear straight hair weeks 7-10 when breakage is an increased possibility b/c I'm def getting my fair share of breakage right now.

When I do twist outs, I love them, but I mostly do them to give my hair a rest from roller setting though I fail to believe that the dryer is doing that much to my hair. I do it for no more than two weeks because after two weeks my air dried hair gets too unmanageable. It's also easier to handle the textures when it's straight. I have just noticed I'm less frustrated with my hair when it's straight. I also manipulate it less.
 

divachyk

Instagram: adaybyjay
When I do twist outs, I love them, but I mostly do them to give my hair a rest from roller setting though I fail to believe that the dryer is doing that much to my hair. I do it for no more than two weeks because after two weeks my air dried hair gets too unmanageable. It's also easier to handle the textures when it's straight. I have just noticed I'm less frustrated with my hair when it's straight. I also manipulate it less.

Makes perfect sense Saludable84. :yep:
 

Babygrowth

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Just based my scalp with ORS scalp protector and that cooling sensation feels sooo good. I will never use plain Vaseline again!
 

halfindian

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Tomorrow will be exactly 12 weeks since my last relaxer and I need to do my hair bad!!!!! I have so much growth and can't manage it anymore!!!
 

naija24

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Cruising to nine weeks, still in my sew in, with no urge to relax. Sew ins are awesome. No plans to reinstall until the end of June at the earliest when I'll be at 5 months post.

Still debating if this is a transition or not. I am kind of itching to chop.
 

greenandchic

Well-Known Member
9 weeks and no strong urge to relax other than just the fun of it. I've been pineappleing my hair since Monday - wearing it loose and trying to keep the new growth puffiness down...
 

ChannieBoo3

Active Member
Don't notice much growth this round of having relaxer but I have been maintaining straight hair these past few weeks .. Currently 8 weeks post and may go 10-12 weeks depends how I feel lol .

Also cut my hair into a slight bob that I don't quite like anymore lol so hopefully it will grow back quickly !
 

halfindian

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Yesterday my hair dresser told me I should use a cleansing shampoo to wash my hair since I use the serum. I asked her if it would not dry my hair she said no. I could use a moisturizing shampoo after then a very good deep conditioner. Sounds like something I could do once a month maybe.
 

PureSilver

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halfindian well then you have a good stylist. I have the stylist of all stylist, telling me everything i use is not good for my hair and will dry my hair out. Trying to sell me on coming to her every 2weeks. She's full of S**%.

I'm just mad. Still upset about last Saturday's relaxer.
 

Saludable84

Better Late Than Ugly
halfindian well then you have a good stylist. I have the stylist of all stylist, telling me everything i use is not good for my hair and will dry my hair out. Trying to sell me on coming to her every 2weeks. She's full of S**%. I'm just mad. Still upset about last Saturday's relaxer.

And that's what started my journey and blog. Just being done ALTOGETHER!
 

Jewell

New Member
Silly question, but does lye relaxer expire? I have a container for Silk Elements Olive Oil relaxer purchased and first used in early February. I probably won't relax my hair for another month or so and wonder if I should just purchase another container then...

How long do you keep your lye relaxers?

I have kept and used one up to 10 months old with no issues. However, if I have added oil to it, I just buy another if it has been sitting more than 4 months. I add oil to all my relaxers before I apply it to my hair. I only add the oil if I know I will use the relaxer. To avoid waste I will just start pre-portioning it into a color mixing bowl so I don't contaminate the whole jar with oil before I get to finish it.

It's lye so I don't think any bacteria or fungi will grow in it...if anything it may not process your hair as well if it's more than one year old and has been opened/partially used. Remember many products sit on store shelves and in warehouses for a year or years before they sell. That's the great thing about preservatives!
 

halfindian

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PureSilver thanks my girl. I do have an angel of a hairdresser. She had midback length hair too but it was shedding due to circumstances beyond her control. SHe BC'd and is now relaxed again with thick shoulder length hair. I could not believe it. Soon as I came in a passed my hand through her hair to see if it was weave. lol lol lol.
 
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