Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

Guinan

Re-Branding
I didn't want to write this rant in the challenge that I am in b/c I didn't want to discourage anyone.

But what's the point of having long hair if you constantly PSing and only wear it out for one week once a yr. I think I am done with PS and I will just let the chips fall where they lay. If I want to wear my hair in a ponytail or mini twists then I will, but if I want to where my hair down for 3wks, then so be it. I don't really get the point of having knee length hair but you never really enjoy it.

I will still commit to caring for my hair by properly: finger detangling, low heat, DCing, clarifying, trims etc... but I am going back to enjoying my hair. I am contemplating on going back to relaxers; but I want to color my hair first. If I go back to relaxers; then I will be saying bye to the blonde. While relaxed my hair grew to MBL and I had fun with it for the most part. I do like my natural hair, but it's really a lot of work and my styles are too inconsistent. Sometimes my wng's or twistouts look great then there are days when I look homeless.

I want to rant more but this post is getting too long, lol.
 
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Bette Davis Eyes

The "OG" Product Junkie
I didn't want to write this rant in the challenge that I am in b/c I didn't want to discourage anyone.

But what's the point of having long hair if you constantly PSing and only where it out for one week once a yr. I think I am done with PS and I will just let the chips fall where they lay. If I want to wear my hair in a ponytail or mini twists then I will, but if I want to where my hair down for 3wks, then so be it. I don't really get the point of having knee length hair but you never really enjoy it.

I will still commit to caring for my hair by properly: finger detangling, low heat, DCing, clarifying, trims etc... but I am going back to enjoying my hair. I am contemplating on going back to relaxers; but I want to color my hair first. If I go back to relaxers; then I will be saying bye to the blonde. While relaxed my hair grew to MBL and I had fun with it for the most part. I do like my natural hair, but it's really a lot of work and my styles are too inconsistent. Sometimes my wng's or twistouts look great then there are days when I look homeless.

I want to rant more but this post is getting too long, lol.


Im tired of my hair. If I PS, it grows but I cant condition like I want to so I wind up having to trim. If I Washngo, it tangles eventually and I have to trim, if I alternate with twistouts and bun, then its too much manipulation. I cant hit BSL if you set it on my back.. AND, to top it off, Im shedding from postpartum still.

I give up. I'm going to get a crochet style on Saturday and to heck with it. After 6 weeks, I'll figure something out.
 

Evolving78

Well-Known Member
I didn't want to write this rant in the challenge that I am in b/c I didn't want to discourage anyone.

But what's the point of having long hair if you constantly PSing and only where it out for one week once a yr. I think I am done with PS and I will just let the chips fall where they lay. If I want to wear my hair in a ponytail or mini twists then I will, but if I want to where my hair down for 3wks, then so be it. I don't really get the point of having knee length hair but you never really enjoy it.

I will still commit to caring for my hair by properly: finger detangling, low heat, DCing, clarifying, trims etc... but I am going back to enjoying my hair. I am contemplating on going back to relaxers; but I want to color my hair first. If I go back to relaxers; then I will be saying bye to the blonde. While relaxed my hair grew to MBL and I had fun with it for the most part. I do like my natural hair, but it's really a lot of work and my styles are too inconsistent. Sometimes my wng's or twistouts look great then there are days when I look homeless.

I want to rant more but this post is getting too long, lol.
I want to bun! I didn't get a chance to enjoy bunning enough, and I wanna do a bun drop! Lol I had a horrible setback in 2013. My hair was knotted so bad that I had to do a major haircut to a bob. Then I decided I wanted to be trendy and I got an ugly haircut! Lol then I experienced a terrible setback with my hair falling out in the back of my crown!
Then 2015, I had a funky setback using a cowash product that jacked my hair up so bad.
My hair would be longer right now, but I neglected it, especially having color. Plus I was using too much protein (I didn't realize all the products I was using had protein in them) on top of doing protein treatments.
Yeah I just wanna bun again! Lol
 

irisak

Well-Known Member
IRL, I only discuss hair with those who hring up the topic, usually other naturals. Why do I get the comments, talking about, "You know, I should go natural, but..." or "I keeping wanting to go natural..." Some of these women were around when I gave up the thio and no-lye 20 years ago.

Mentally, I am perplexed because I rarely mention hair. "What? Did my hair tell on you or something?" I say nothing, none of my business.

Still plucking greys; they pop out easily with my fingers, yet another reason I hate them. My dark hairs need lots of force to come out and it is painful.

Hair, stay dark.
Hair, stay dark.
Hair, stay dark.
You are lucky then because my greys is skrong and shall not be moved.
 

Guinan

Re-Branding
Im tired of my hair. If I PS, it grows but I cant condition like I want to so I wind up having to trim. If I Washngo, it tangles eventually and I have to trim, if I alternate with twistouts and bun, then its too much manipulation. I cant hit BSL if you set it on my back.. AND, to top it off, Im shedding from postpartum still.

I give up. I'm going to get a crochet style on Saturday and to heck with it. After 6 weeks, I'll figure something out.

ME TOOOOO!!! I'm soooo tired of my hair to the point where it's not fun anymore:( I'm trying to wait until I figure out what I REALLY want to do next. But the plan for now is: Color, then cut, then texlax. I'm trying to decide if I want to texlax myself or go to the salon.

****I'm sooo glad I'm not alone in this feeling. I had been advoiding the hair forum b/c I didn't want to seem like the dark cloud

I'm def going to have to go darker if I relax. The two colors I am contemplating are:

# 1 CHOICES:

this is the cut I WANT AND COLOR!!!

2ND CHOICE COLOR:
 

Sharpened

A fleck on His Sword
How so? My grays are new short hairs which is weird to me. I always thought the existing hair turned gray I didn't expect to grow replacement hair.
Hairs should not be that easy nor painless to pluck, so that makes me wonder if the follicles are slowly shrinking and dying.

I have had three gradually fade to silver; others seemed to have replaced a shed hair along the edges.
 

Bette Davis Eyes

The "OG" Product Junkie
ME TOOOOO!!! I'm soooo tired of my hair to the point where it's not fun anymore:( I'm trying to wait until I figure out what I REALLY want to do next. But the plan for now is: Color, then cut, then texlax. I'm trying to decide if I want to texlax myself or go to the salon.

****I'm sooo glad I'm not alone in this feeling. I had been advoiding the hair forum b/c I didn't want to seem like the dark cloud

I'm def going to have to go darker if I relax. The two colors I am contemplating are:

# 1 CHOICES:

this is the cut I WANT AND COLOR!!!

2ND CHOICE COLOR:


I love the second picture! My second favorite is Queen Latifahs!
 

HHSJ85

Regla degla shmegla girl from Jerz
Annoyed :mad: had shoulder length half texlaxed half natural hair, got annoyed with it then finally chopped it all off into a pixie in october. Now im annoyed with the cut, all the heat, the frequent relaxers and slow growth. So now i want a sew in and regret cutting my hair in the first place. *throws my hands up*
 

spacetygrss

Well-Known Member
Okay.
1. I can't really measure hair well right now with TWA, but it's obviously growing like crazy. The change in 1.5 weeks in amazing. Collagen and vitamins for the win.

2. My hair texture is doing some wild stuff with age. I have entire areas of type 1 and 2 hair on my head (previously in my random 3c patches) and then rest of my reliably 4a hair has new patches of 3c mixed in. I've been natural for 16 years. I know my hair like the back of my hand. So odd. The only new "vitamin" that I'm taking is Collagen. Hopefully, it all sorts itself out as my hair grows out. I prefer one fairly uniform texture. Preferably thick 4a, medium strands, etc, since that's what I know how to work with after all of these years. I'm just patting everything down right now.
 
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Daina

Well-Known Member
ME TOOOOO!!! I'm soooo tired of my hair to the point where it's not fun anymore:( I'm trying to wait until I figure out what I REALLY want to do next. But the plan for now is: Color, then cut, then texlax. I'm trying to decide if I want to texlax myself or go to the salon.

****I'm sooo glad I'm not alone in this feeling. I had been advoiding the hair forum b/c I didn't want to seem like the dark cloud

I'm def going to have to go darker if I relax. The two colors I am contemplating are:

# 1 CHOICES:

this is the cut I WANT AND COLOR!!!

2ND CHOICE COLOR:

@pelohello, sis you are not alone and I appreciate hearing about the struggle others experience because it validates my own feelings sometimes. I had a very emotional hair week last week, it wasn't long enough, thick enough, no style wanted to act right and it was as dry as straw! The thought of going through my wash day routine made me weary thinking about it. I finally got around to doing it and decided to blow-dry it for the first time in over a month to stretch it some...just seeing some length gave me the boost I needed and made me feel better to keep pushing. My 2-year old rubbed and patted my hair for like 20 minutes as he went to sleep and kept saying pretty, :kiss:bless his little heart since he sees my hair blown or pressed out so infrequently. Of course hubby got on the bandwagon to because he loves to see my hair loose, but he also acknowledged how much growth and healthier my hair had become since I started my HHJ. Sometimes we all need a change, a break, or to see the fruits of all the time, energy, money and effort put in to keeping our hair healthy and growing.

Whatever you decide to do if it makes you happy then rock on! I love the color in the first 2 pictures and the cut on the 2nd is adorable, angled and graduated bobs just look so chic and classy to me - I know you would slay in a cut like that! Hugs sis :bighug: and good luck on deciding on what to do.
 

ScorpioBeauty09

Well-Known Member
I took my braids out, washed my hair and am now deep conditioning for later when my stylist will straighten it for a wedding I'm flying out for. If I wasn't a bridesmaid I wouldn't bother. I'm looking forward to seeing and showing off my length but as always I miss my braids. I'm having my stylist re-braid it as soon as I get back.
 

Evolving78

Well-Known Member
I have a bathtub full of hair.

I don't know what happened, one minute I'm watching YouTube videos and the next minute I'm washing every wig, bundle, and extension hair I own at once. It never occurred to me to only wash a little at a time.

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You are a riot! :lachen: :lachen: where are you gonna dry that stuff at? Lol you are gonna have towels and hair laying flat everywhere! Lol you remind me so much of myself! Lol
 

DarkJoy

Bent. Not Broken.
can't wait to quit this job and for a telecommute position that I am adamantly starting to look for beginning tomorrow. then I can get back to crochet and braids for protective styles. hate answering/ignoring/ducking white women coworker 5011 questions when I switch my hair up, so it's been tuck and rolls for 1.5 years which has not given any retention at all.
 
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