Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

[Evolving78]

Why does it feel so good when someone else washes your hair? I might have to put this in the budget

What are you getting done?

 

[Alma Petra]

Why does it feel so good when someone else washes your hair? I might have to put this in the budget

It just feels good when someone touches me and does things for me (I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way lol) that's why I used to let kids play in my hair

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

What are you getting done?

I got a trim, wash and blow dry and a steam/deep condition. Idk who taught the dudes at Mena’s Hair Design, but they got it lol. It’s all bouncy and stuff.

Fun fact: my aunt thought my Thor shirt said Thot

 

[Evolving78]

I got a trim, wash and blow dry and a steam/deep condition. Idk who taught the dudes at Mena’s Hair Design, but they got it lol. It’s all bouncy and stuff.

Fun fact: my aunt thought my Thor shirt said Thot

Lmbo at your aunt!
Yeah they got that hair lookin right! It looks shiny and healthy!

 

[FadingDelilah]

Ummm don't mind me I'm just bumping this thread because I had a mini panic attack when I saw it on the second page.

 

[ms.blue]

I used too many new products on wash day that I'm having little bumps all across my scalp.

 

[Evolving78]

I used too many new products on wash day that I'm having little bumps all across my scalp.

Oh no! I hope it goes away soon!

 

[YvetteWithJoy]

Can I make a suggestion in her memory? (Forgive the extra post, this has turned my emotions upside down)

One of the things that characterized my friendship with her is that we would often reach out and say hi without an agenda. We didn't always have good or bad news to share. Sometimes we just wanted to see how the other was doing or offer a little word of encouragement.

I used to feel self-conscious and think I was corny or "doing too much" by sending letters, emails, and text messages for no real reason other than to say hi or I love you. But of all people, black women need this kind of connection and support. Allandra had an easiness about her that made it feel okay to just be connected, and she managed to balance being authentic and optimistic.

So I suggest that we all make staying kind and connected more of a priority. As we've just been reminded, life is so fragile, and it doesn't wait for our personal agendas. Sometimes little efforts go further than we realize.

As someone who was known for spreading joy and positivity, I think Allandra would appreciate us being more consistent and enthusiastic in our connections.

This is a huge part of why I am always encouraging people to step out and reach for their dreams. I know from my own experiences, this all too well: that life is short and tomorrow is not guaranteed for anyone.

I hope people use the gift of Allandra's Spirit and presence to fortify their courage to enable them to go after their dreams, and go for what you want in life.

I had been interacting via pms with Allandra. Suddenly the activity stopped. Since her last note to me was positive, I made the assumption that she didn't want to interact anymore and that she didn't want to be bothered. From this day forward, I will reach out to folks here even if I may be bothering them.

Thank you so much for sharing this, @Divine Inspiration and @Chicoro. I didn't want to post this in the original thread, so I'm posting it here.

Your posts mean a lot.

I had been PMing with someone regularly--a very sweet and kind soul--and all of a sudden she now avoids me. I reasoned it was something I inadvertently said? I didn't know. But I've been so worried. I can only hope she's okay.

Anyway, I decided that once my two-year LHCF subscription was up, I wasn't going to renew because of how people can treat each other online. I wouldn't intentionally hurt anyone and that should be known I feel, and IRL in my circles we (friends, black women, etc.) talk through misunderstandings, give people the benefit of the doubt unless they are truly horrible people, etc. We are more responsible with each other's feelings and hearts.

Then, someone disagreed with me here and did the round-about name calling thing, and that, coupled with the situation I described above, made me feel like maybe I am expecting too much from social media.

Allandra was able to remain at LHCF for a very long time and stay very positive, encouraged, and encouraging. That says a lot, especially along with all of those kind posts to her thread. She must have been an amazing spirit. I plan to go back and read her posts and learn from her.

 

[FadingDelilah]

Thank you so much for sharing this, @Divine Inspiration and @Chicoro. I didn't want to post this in the original thread, so I'm posting it here.

Your posts mean a lot.

I had been PMing with someone regularly--a very sweet and kind soul--and all of a sudden she now avoids me. I reasoned it was something I inadvertently said? I didn't know. But I've been so worried. I can only hope she's okay.

Anyway, I decided that once my two-year LHCF subscription was up, I wasn't going to renew because of how people can treat each other online. I wouldn't intentionally hurt anyone and that should be known I feel, and IRL in my circles we (friends, black women, etc.) talk through misunderstandings, give people the benefit of the doubt unless they are truly horrible people, etc. We are more responsible with each other's feelings and hearts.

Then, someone disagreed with me here and did the round-about name calling thing, and that, coupled with the situation I described above, made me feel like maybe I am expecting too much from social media.

Allandra was able to remain at LHCF for a very long time and stay very positive, encouraged, and encouraging. That says a lot, especially along with all of those kind posts to her thread. She must have been an amazing spirit. I plan to go back and read her posts and learn from her.

I had no idea she passed away. I haven't been an active member for very long on this forum but I remember lurking for a long while and seeing her messages in numerous threads. She was always kind and optimistic. May she rest in peace.

 

[LovelyRo]

I straightened my hair last week and this week I wore it in a twist out... I was testing out wearing it straight one week and then coverting it into another style the following week. I just didn’t like my hair the week I wore it straight. It doesn’t flow/lay right.

 

[FadingDelilah]

If it wasn't for this forum being a place for me to vent, I would have been entirely bald all of about five minutes ago.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

I have not washed my hair in 4 weeks! Hair still feels good, but this weekend Is definitely wash weekend. This is my first time going this long and I love it! I will go another 4 weeks after this wash. Since being WL I really don't fuss with it. At least I know that every wash I'll have 1/2" longer than the last wash.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

If it wasn't for this forum being a place for me to vent, I would have been entirely bald all of about five minutes ago.

LOL!! Don't be BALD, we are here.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

Oh I know why I have not wash my hair in so long! Duh, I have been focusing my attention on losing weight and I have lost 6lbs in the past two weeks. That can take a lot of attention from hair care. Hair is thriving tho! Time to have a thriving body to match. Ima get that "Big haired natural melanin curvaceous cutie pie" look going this spring.

 

[Soaring Eagle]

I had a dream that I flat ironed my hair and it was BLUNT Waist length. My hair also had a lovely natural gloss. It was so beautiful and all eyes were on me.

Now, what I did next in my dream was super surprising; I cut it all off (probably left about 3 inches of hair) and made a wig out of the hair that I cut. Ummmmm what?! I then proceeded to wear the wig, and made it known to those who asked, that the wig was made with my own hair. Creepy.

 

[Platinum]

I was talking about doing my hair 2 weeks ago and still haven't re-twisted my locs yet. I want to do it today but it's so beautiful outside today. I guess I'll do my hair tonight.

I would love to come home one weekend, get glammed up, and do a photoshoot. I really need to hang out in the makeup forum more often.

 

[Blessed&higlyflavoured]

@shortdub78

Hey lady. I also have a tree nut allergy. Did you find any products that work?
Does that include coconut oil? Because technically it's not a nut

 

[I Am So Blessed]

It has been four weeks since last wash and I STILL DON'T WANT to wash my hair this weekend! *whiny baby voice*


Mmm mmm mmm *pokes lip out*

No! *stomps feet and crosses arms*

 

[shasha8685]

Wait.....is my unstretched hair touching my shoulders/slightly past my shoulders now?

When did that happen?

 

[Cattypus1]

My hair and scalp do not like oils. I thought it was coconut but today I used olive oil and the itch was back. It started about 15 minutes in. When I was rinsing my hair felt stiff and coated until I got my clay on. I’m gonna have to use oils in small doses.

 

[GGsKin]

I was talking about doing my hair 2 weeks ago and still haven't re-twisted my locs yet. I want to do it today but it's so beautiful outside today. I guess I'll do my hair tonight.

I would love to come home one weekend, get glammed up, and do a photoshoot. I really need to hang out in the makeup forum more often.

It's fun but you always end up spending.

 

[lalla]

I don't know if I should be happy or sad about my cut/trim. I have lost length but the ends are blunt now, and my hair is very shiny and strong. It will grow back, but I am back to a few cms below MBL.

 

[Chicoro]

I don't know if I should be happy or sad about my cut/trim. I have lost length but the ends are blunt now, and my hair is very shiny and strong. It will grow back, but I am back to a few cms below MBL.

Don't be sad! You'll be at waist length by end of year, right?

 

[lalla]

@Chicoro
At least WL I think. I'm hoping for HL!

 

[Evolving78]

My hair and scalp do not like oils. I thought it was coconut but today I used olive oil and the itch was back. It started about 15 minutes in. When I was rinsing my hair felt stiff and coated until I got my clay on. I’m gonna have to use oils in small doses.

Oh no! Has the itching stop?

 

[Daina]

I don't know if I should be happy or sad about my cut/trim. I have lost length but the ends are blunt now, and my hair is very shiny and strong. It will grow back, but I am back to a few cms below MBL.

Were you expecting to have to trim that much or did they take more than expected? I self-trimmed off the last of some heat damage in January and am just below MBL. Hoping to be back at WL when I straighten again mid-year. Prayerfully HL by YE.

 

[lalla]

Were you expecting to have to trim that much or did they take more than expected? I self-trimmed off the last of some heat damage in January and am just below MBL. Hoping to be back at WL when I straighten again mid-year. Prayerfully HL by YE.

Actually I was ok with a trim. But my january relaxer left my hair very underprocessed and I usually wear it in a bun. This was my first time straightening it in several weeks and I didn't get a good look before she cut it.
It'll grow back, I guess.

 

[LushLox]

Lovely sounding products, never heard of him but I may try some out.
https://www.vernonfrancois.com

 

[Fine 4s]

I’mtrying to get back on my hair caremore consistently after years and years and it shows. I definitely have breakage and my twists aren’t the same thickness throughout the twists so I know I have breakage. Anyway, back in the day I used my Denman brush and then stopped because I was concerned with breakage using the brush. But that darn brush removes so much shedded hair that I think I’ll go back to it once per month to remove shedded hairs.

I washed on Saturday, DCed with cholesterol (so over this DC) and was too lazy to rinse out so it stayed in overnight. I just rinsed, detangled, applied detangling ghee and Shea butter. I also ordered deva curl DC and the design essential rosemary and mint DC. Going to try and DC every week and get my moisture levels up as well as do my routine protein treatments.
I don’t plan to trim my hair in salons for the rest of the year...the last time I flat ironed was in 2011. Wow. 7 years and it doesn’t even show. Breakage is a beeeeyyyyyyyaaaaa......

 

[CurlyWhoCrux]

I don't know what to do after I've deep conditioned my hair, and I think it's why my hair is always dry.