Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud
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PlanetCybertron
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Shout out from the North Side! I JUST got done walking in the rain. Sun was shining clear as day like an hour ago. So I figured no need for an umbrella. Nope. Wrong. Lol
Prettymetty
Natural/4b/medium-coarse
Oh hey boo!! H town in that thang lol
PlanetCybertron
Well-Known Member
Yesterday I came into work and I had a few compliments on my twists. Granted I think I always do a sad job of self-installing pretty much anything. It’s day 3 and I’m looking like I have dreads trying to form, but I’ll take the compliments.
One lady in particular asked me if this was my hair or if I had extensions. I replied it was my own hair, and the look on her face was a cross between curiosity and disbelief. I’m happy that I’ve reached a milestone of my twists reaching hip unstretched an untouched, but I’m also kind of disappointed that folks can’t seem to fathom regular, simple hair care. Old maybe I don’t find my own hair length impressive? Maybe, idk. Or maybe I just find to be easily attainable. I still don’t know.
I wish I could’ve recorded that lady’s face. I really do. She asked what I do to my hair, and I gave her a simplified version: Wash and condition as needed, air dry, leave ins, protect hair. For the last 3 years.
And what’s more this lady had a nice head of hair. Roughly just above BSL, light brown natural color, bit of natural layering going on, but nonetheless well taken care of. I mentioned how I found her hair very pretty too and she just kind of shrugged. I was two breathes away from giving her the URL address to this site. I wish for everybody to see their goals through.
Idk maybe I’m being insensitive, but it’s really not rocket science to figuring out basic hair care.
And I really don’t mean to sound like a grouch, I do understand everyone has setbacks, I’ve had a couple, and I do realize folks have health issues that they may or may not be able to control and that’s understandable and deserving some respect, but the average person who has general good health and access to like 5-20$ worth of products, it’s just not that hard
One lady in particular asked me if this was my hair or if I had extensions. I replied it was my own hair, and the look on her face was a cross between curiosity and disbelief. I’m happy that I’ve reached a milestone of my twists reaching hip unstretched an untouched, but I’m also kind of disappointed that folks can’t seem to fathom regular, simple hair care. Old maybe I don’t find my own hair length impressive? Maybe, idk. Or maybe I just find to be easily attainable. I still don’t know.
I wish I could’ve recorded that lady’s face. I really do. She asked what I do to my hair, and I gave her a simplified version: Wash and condition as needed, air dry, leave ins, protect hair. For the last 3 years.
And what’s more this lady had a nice head of hair. Roughly just above BSL, light brown natural color, bit of natural layering going on, but nonetheless well taken care of. I mentioned how I found her hair very pretty too and she just kind of shrugged. I was two breathes away from giving her the URL address to this site. I wish for everybody to see their goals through.
Idk maybe I’m being insensitive, but it’s really not rocket science to figuring out basic hair care.
And I really don’t mean to sound like a grouch, I do understand everyone has setbacks, I’ve had a couple, and I do realize folks have health issues that they may or may not be able to control and that’s understandable and deserving some respect, but the average person who has general good health and access to like 5-20$ worth of products, it’s just not that hard
sunflora
Flowah Powah
I respectfully disagree with you. I won't base your experience off of being relaxed, since I think I've seen in your postings that you have had natural hair before, but I do think you are making light of why it isn't exactly easy. If it were easy, this forum would probably not exist, and neither would other similar forums for other ethnic pools.
I'm sure you don't need a history lesson either, but in the U.S. it still isn't always socially acceptable to wear natural hair styles. I went natural in 2010 and was a laughing-stock of my black class mates because my hair was 'nappy'. The social pressure to have hair that looks a certain way did not vanish into thin air after the natural movement. As such, caring for natural hair is still a bit difficult while still trying to assimilate with whatever our social circles deem as 'well groomed' or 'work appropriate'. I do believe society is more accepting, but I think the biggest part of the natural hair process is becoming comfortable with hair that is foreign to everyone else.
Not trying to sound preachy, I just felt that was a really odd thing to say on a hair forum. It takes years to grow hair to that length, and when a lot of people have just started understanding their hair, it's a very frustrating road to begin driving on. Now imagine someone who doesn't know anything about the hair practices on this board or on YouTube (because not everyone spends that much time researching hair, and that's perfectly understandable), seeing hip length hair may be a shock to them.
Lastly, on a daily basis, if I go outside and spend a day in the city, I might see 10 out of 100 people that day (being very generous) of any ethnicity that have hip length hair. With black already being a minority, it isn't really that common.
I hope I didn't sound snippy, my tone is sort of made to be matter-of-fact and a polite disagreement, I think it is hard to type it out and not have it read as salty. In a TL;DR: your hair is very long, it is unique, and that is probably all that the lady thought.
Bette Davis Eyes
The "OG" Product Junkie
I’ve been natural a long time. It would take 365 protective styling for me to get to beyond BSL.
I don’t have the patience nor the lifestyle right now.
I don’t have the patience nor the lifestyle right now.
NaturalShe94
Well-Known Member
Are you relaxed or natural?
PlanetCybertron
Well-Known Member
That’s understandable. Perhaps I should’ve worded things differently, because I don’t think I got the intended message across.
I’m always under the impression that if you wish to figure something out, in this day and age, the info is out there. I say easy in the sense that eventually, you can get some sort of routine down pat, even if it’s more than one routine.
That part is also very understandable. Which again, I feel like I probably should’ve been more detailed in what I said. Concerning the work place, that’s understandable. Perhaps if I said something along the lines of being in a workplace that’s on the more liberal side of things. I do believe there’s plenty of jobs that are like that, as well as jobs that are how you described. Perhaps I should’ve added that to exceptions that are respectable.
For clarification, and sake of just generalizing, I would go so far as to say it’s easy for people who have very limited social restrictions concerning how they express themselves and wear their hair. That I do stand by.
Perhaps I should’ve honed in how I was feeling specifically towards the lady I was talking to. Since it was a one on one interaction anyways. For her I felt a bit disappointed. Concerning where we both work which is Costco, they are extremely cautious concerning offending people and how they wish to represent themselves (so long as you aren’t naked and all that). In other words, they wouldn’t dare tell anyone to do anything with their hair unless they’re willing to catch a discrimination case. I should’ve also mentioned that the lady was (is) relaxed too. Which is where that initial generalization came from, through association concerning similarities between me and her.
I’m not disagreeing with you at all concerning certain areas where Black is the minority and also rarely seeing longer lengths concerning Afro textured hair but those things you mentioned aren’t what I was trying to convey. I do think it was error on my behalf because I probably over generalized when I shouldn’t have and didn’t specify where I should have.
And no apologies. I didn’t take it the wrong way, I do understand not everyone agrees with me, and that’s okay too, but if I can rephrase something or correct myself to get a mutual understanding, I try to.
I’m not sure if what I said made any sense though lol.
PlanetCybertron
Well-Known Member
Relaxed my good ma’am.
Bette Davis Eyes
The "OG" Product Junkie
So, Im going to take these crochet braids down probably sometime next week. I dont like how it looks to be honest. Especially around the edges.
Thinking about getting a wig and rocking it for awhile but I want kinky twists too. I guess I'll order a wig and see how it looks on me and go from there.
Thinking about getting a wig and rocking it for awhile but I want kinky twists too. I guess I'll order a wig and see how it looks on me and go from there.
Bette Davis Eyes
The "OG" Product Junkie
GettingKinky
Well-Known Member
I was at Rite Aide looking for Miele Organics avocado moisture milk and they didn’t have any so I got Curls creme brule whipped curl cream. I love the consistency and the smell is AMAZING. I hope it does good things for my hair. I just want to use it as a leave in, not for wearing my curls out. I don’t think it has enough hold for me for that.
FadingDelilah
Well-Known Member
Me three days ago: I love my hair so much. For the first time I feel like I'm content with it.
Me today: Its crutch time. I want one inch a month for the next 12 months, end of story. I can't wait years for my hair to be long anymore. I needssss length immediately!!!
I'm always swinging in between these two moods. LOL. Still haven't gone back to "content" mode yet. Somebody help.
Me today: Its crutch time. I want one inch a month for the next 12 months, end of story. I can't wait years for my hair to be long anymore. I needssss length immediately!!!
I'm always swinging in between these two moods. LOL.
Still haven't gone back to "content" mode yet. Somebody help.
I Am So Blessed
I'm easy going.
Me listening to this while imagining my future husband (Head of the house and true Alfa black man) turning this on, on the stereo and turns toward me while I'm cooking neck bones with my long HL hair hanging down and no make up on....He starts to sing the words to me..."Girl i want you to know, you're more than beautiful....."
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I Am So Blessed
I'm easy going.
Shoot...it takes so long for hair to grow. From scalp to WL took me three years exactly and I'm 5' 1". But when I was doing all the right things I gained 8 inches in the first year.Me three days ago: I love my hair so much. For the first time I feel like I'm content with it.
Me today: Its crutch time. I want one inch a month for the next 12 months, end of story. I can't wait years for my hair to be long anymore. I needssss length immediately!!!
I'm always swinging in between these two moods. LOL.
Things that got me to 8" in the first year:
*I prayed for long hair. (Every day)
*I took vitamins plus MSM powder.
*I Used wild growth hair oil.
*I moisturized EVERY DAY. I was crazy with all that activator in my hurr.
*I believed....
You won't have to wait "Years". One year.
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I Am So Blessed
I'm easy going.
I'm taking a long walk tomorrow on the Atlantic City boardwalk.....after I blow dry my hair straight.
I may find my man...
Imma have this theme song in ma head tho...
I may find my man...
Imma have this theme song in ma head tho...
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RossBoss
Well-Known Member
I have not been on the Atlantic City boardwalk in years. I didn't even think it was still there because last I heard the city had gone downhill.
niknakmac
Well-Known Member
Still working on growing out this tapered cut. It's a process for sure. I took my braids out after 9 weeks. It was a good break but I am ready to do something else. I was thinking about crochets but for the price they are charging I rather have something that I can leave in longer. I bought some Brazilian deep wave to weave it but it's still average 90 degrees everyday here and it's too straight for my hair. So on to plan B. I'm going to buy some kinky curly type hair and get my weave on.
Bette Davis Eyes
The "OG" Product Junkie
I don't think this bounce wig is going to go with work.
I need a realistic wig that I can wear that doesn't look wiggy to go under this hat. I have a feeling the bounce wig is going to be a weekend look.
My fall/winter routine is wigging it Monday- Friday. Braids under wig.
Every 7 days take my braids down ( wash, treat and braid back up)
Every day spritz Xcel Revitalizer/ Oil on Scalp , along with cream on edges/napes ( rotate oils every week)
I need a realistic wig that I can wear that doesn't look wiggy to go under this hat. I have a feeling the bounce wig is going to be a weekend look.
My fall/winter routine is wigging it Monday- Friday. Braids under wig.
Every 7 days take my braids down ( wash, treat and braid back up)
Every day spritz Xcel Revitalizer/ Oil on Scalp , along with cream on edges/napes ( rotate oils every week)
Nightingale
On the Grow and Keeping it Simple
I need one really nice, human hair wig that I don't have to pluck and bleach. I'll have to troll the beauty supply and check out some units...
Nightingale
On the Grow and Keeping it Simple
Aloe Vera does wondrous things for my hair. Its to the point that if a product isn't aloe based or at least has aloe in the top 3 ingredients, I don't bother.
FadingDelilah
Well-Known Member
When I read the bolded I hollered "yes!!!" This was my exact thought yesterday. I'm feeling frustrated out of nowhere. I thought I had accepted my 4 inches a year. Clearly I haven't. You are so lucky you got 8 inches in one year.
I really want to grow one inch a month for the next 12 months.... but Ill probably just get my feelings hurt trying. LOL. At least my hair routine for work has been going well.
VictoriousBrownFlower
Well-Known Member
Great routine. Your hair is gonna be looking bomb once spring rolls around.
RossBoss
Well-Known Member
Did the technique of "hair dusting" and the term originate in Black circles? Just saw an article about it in Yahoo:
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/hair-dusting-secret-healthier-longer-190000682.html
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/hair-dusting-secret-healthier-longer-190000682.html
nerdography
Well-Known Member
I’ve flat ironed my hair for the last three weeks, I’m just bored with my natural hair.
I’m thinking of relaxing again after three years. The last time I got it relaxed was at the JcPenny salon, and they did a good job. But, the stylist was trying to convert me into being a Hewbrew Israelite, so that was the last time I went back.
I’ve been looking at the Walmart salon; they have three black stylist. I always see people getting touch ups and blow outs and their hair always looks nice. I’ll have to think about it.
I’m thinking of relaxing again after three years. The last time I got it relaxed was at the JcPenny salon, and they did a good job. But, the stylist was trying to convert me into being a Hewbrew Israelite, so that was the last time I went back.
I’ve been looking at the Walmart salon; they have three black stylist. I always see people getting touch ups and blow outs and their hair always looks nice. I’ll have to think about it.
I've been natural for 10 years and just started having the same feelings of boredom and being tired and over it all. Never once before now have I ever considered going back...I'm hoping for me it will pass, if not a light texlax may be in my future.
sunflora
Flowah Powah
^ This is funny. I've been a straight-hair natural for 10 years and only now am I on a brand new journey to be curly. I think it's always like that, those with straight hair want curls and those with curly hair want straight hair. I'd just be careful doing anything permanent. You never know when you'll change your mind again. 
ItsMeLilLucky
NotLucky no mo' just blessed.
So, I was wearing a hood at work because I didn’t comb my hair and one of the guys mentioned that he thought I never comb my hair. I told him “it’s called shrinkage, I know you heard of that.”
Get tf out of here with that bro. You wanna talk slick, well my mouth is reckless too
Get tf out of here with that bro. You wanna talk slick, well my mouth is reckless too
KinksAndInk
Professional Napper
I need to get more serious about this hair journey. I had too many hair lazy moments this year. Actually too many lazy moments in general. I also didn't take any real length check pics. My eating habits and physical activity sucked, water intake sucked, supplement intake sucked. Yeah...I need to do better.
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