Everything Zen
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^^^ Good. WTH is wrong with people?!
I understand where the mom is coming from but she just made things worse for her child.
Hopefully mom has a strong support system because her daughter needs 1) to be homeschooled and 2) taken off any social media platform where they can reach her and 3) get her in therapy. No she shouldn’t have to but if her daughter is suicidal waiting for the bullies to see the light of day or be scared straight isn’t an option.
Another mom protecting her baby. If the wiring is right, it’s instinctual to protect your babies.
I don't think anyone is disputing that protecting our babies is instinctive...that comes with the territory.
But there are times, the mom's irrational actions can do more harm to the child than protect, as she may have intended.
I think it takes a village...The US may be a melting pot but it's not one big village. Not every parent would take well to an adult fighting their child. I know I'd have a problem with that.... Take it up with the parent.
@Shula... your daughter told me! lol.. I ain't messing with her.. I get where she is coming from, though. It's not all milk and cookies. She is right... that is "village action" Unfortunately, we're not in a village. Otherwise, mom wouldn't have been banned from the school and daughter wouldn't have a suspension on her record. The "village" punished them. The village concept IMHO is more effective in monethnic communities.
I looked up the demographics for Laguna Niguel... 80% are white; 73% are NonHispanic white; 1.2% are African American; 0.3 are American Indian; 8.7% are Asian; 0.1% are Pacific Islander; 4.8% are from other races and less than 5% are two or more races.
Dem white folks didn't take too well to sistagirl talking to their kids about no cans of whoop.. she wasn't speaking their language so the point didn't go across. How unfortunate that the daughter "violated authority" when the authoritative figure head - aka teacher - condoned it and was in the same classroom with her. We can't put ourselves in positions to get set up like that...
The we are a village concept never included black folks as residents if the village includes or is ran by others.
That school is bad for her. I hope the mother realizes that now and get that girl out of there. Some of the public schools are miniature youth detention centers. Learning how to defend and protect should not be a part of daily school curriculum.
Where is that child's father??
His mama probably ain't spit but that's neither here nor there if the other parent didn't contact her about the problem. Are parents cool with other parents just randomly popping up on the bus or in the classroom and not spanking (which is bad enough) but actually putting up them dukes and fighting their kids?^^^ but why is your 9 year old out here begging to catch a case?
Why wouldn’t the school contact the 9 y/o’s Parent about him bullying her kid? IMO that’s the start.His mama probably ain't spit but that's neither here nor there if the other parent didn't contact her about the problem. Are parents cool with other parents just randomly popping up on the bus or in the classroom and not spanking (which is bad enough) but actually putting up them dukes and fighting their kids?
Dang, she wrapped her hands around his neck. Look, I can understand wanting to fight for your child but dang. The way that boy is laid out on the couch next to his mama like he can’t be bothered with this interview, I can tell he’s a handful. I could never, ever, ever, ever be a teacher. I have to stay my hand with my own kids, I dont know about a stranger.So here's the natural progression.
Please ladies understand I do not condone this type of behavior. That delusional enabling mother IS the problem. I want to predict that her nine-year-old son has reduced his chances of becoming a career criminal as a teenager and adult due to this incident. None of it should have happened and hearing that a woman beat a child is weird and embarrassing. However I have zero energy to defend the nine-year-old bully who hit the five-year-old or his manipulative mother. The other mother should deal with her simple battery because that was extreme. At the same time parents need to get some type of charge anytime a child in their household fights another. The bus driver should not be involved in this case.So here's the natural progression.
This is why I will never have my kids attend an all black or majority black school. Yes whites bully too but I have seen the most disorderly conduct, fighting and bullying on the busses and at schools with the majority black kids. The black kids will talk about your hair, shoes, clothes, and everything. While the white kids can wear pajamas to school with uncombed hair and no one says shi*.
Poverty and lower educational standards at the black schools are other reasons.
The young girl in the original post attends a predominately white school. Her bullies are white and hispanic.