Your hair grew because...

Should she return the ring?


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Tracy

New Member
I chose conditioning and vitamins...but I have to say what really helped me retain growth wasn't a choice here.

I stopped trimming my hair so much...

That was the turning point for me.
 

Lorraine

Active Member
Tracy,
That is the first time I have ever heard that. Is your hair really healthy because the first thing people tell me is get your ends trimmed regularly and I wonder if it's necessary all the time.

 

Isis

New Member
No heat and washing every 3 days has made all the difference in the world in retaining length for me. It all boils down to keep more moisture in my hair.

I intend to get a good flat iron one of these days to use on occasion.
 

moneychaser

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That was the turning point for me also. I went to this stylist for an entire year who would CHOP my hair off after my relaxers. Once I ditched her my hair took off!
 

Tracy

New Member
Lorraine - it IS necessary all the time. But all the time is different on different people's hair. And all the time isn't necessarily "once every 8 weeks" or "with every relaxer" just because that's what we've always been told to do.

By limiting my trims to only when I need them (which is really only about 2x a year - for me) I stopped cutting off HEALTHY hair and allowed my length to accumulate. I understand - it sounded counterintuitive to me as well. But when you take the kind of care with your hair that we do on the board, if you really stop and evaluate your hair before you go trimming you MAY just find that you can wait. The key is also finding a stylist who won't "make up" for the trims you opted not to have by cutting 3 inches when you only need an inch, just because you didn't get one last time.

My ends are completely healthy. I have pics on the board - the thread is called "progress pics". Check 'em out for yourself.


Also have a look at Supergirl's Scissor Happy Stylist's thread - I'll try to bump it up for you - but it goes into great detail about trimming complete with why trimming WITH your relaxer is bad (I never do that anymore) etc....

Supergirl does it, Adrienne does it...I know few women with very long hair that trim every six weeks - and their lengths are no less healthy than if they did, if they take care of their hair.
 

Lorraine

Active Member
Thank you, Tracy. I hope you don't mind but I sent your post to my best friend. We have a lot to learn, girl.

Thanks!
 

katie

Well-Known Member
I get a trim every 6 -8 weeks usually.I still accumulate length since my stylist trims only 1/8 of an inch.
 

BrEE

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katie said:
I get a trim every 6 -8 weeks usually.I still accumulate length since my stylist trims only 1/8 of an inch.

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you have a good stylist. mine would cut off at least an inch. thats why i'd only let her do it every time i relaxed.
 

katie

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bree said:
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katie said:
I get a trim every 6 -8 weeks usually.I still accumulate length since my stylist trims only 1/8 of an inch.

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you have a good stylist. mine would cut off at least an inch. thats why i'd only let her do it every time i relaxed.

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I used to have a stylist like that.She would be like"Don't worry!I'm only gonna cut 2 inches"
Imagine that happening every 6-8 weeks.My hair just kept getting shorter and shorter.
She was good otherwise but I had to leave her because of that.
 

Angelicus

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i chose not to answer the poll. my hair grew because thats what it is supposed to. it was ALWAYS growing.

now, i have been RETAINING my length because i stopped trimming so much, became empowered instead of letting stylists doing whatever they wanted to do with my hair, co-washes and protective styles. i guess i shampoo my hair maybe once a month or whenever i have way too much buildup
 

moneychaser

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katie said:
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bree said:
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katie said:
I get a trim every 6 -8 weeks usually.I still accumulate length since my stylist trims only 1/8 of an inch.

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you have a good stylist. mine would cut off at least an inch. thats why i'd only let her do it every time i relaxed.

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I used to have a stylist like that.She would be like"Don't worry!I'm only gonna cut 2 inches"
Imagine that happening every 6-8 weeks.My hair just kept getting shorter and shorter.
She was good otherwise but I had to leave her because of that.

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Same here!
I loved my FORMER stylist too! She could do an awesome roller wrap.. Her only downfall was trimming, if I didn't know any better I would think she was hatin
 

Lindy

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anky said:
i chose not to answer the poll. my hair grew because thats what it is supposed to. it was ALWAYS growing.

now, i have been RETAINING my length because i stopped trimming so much, became empowered instead of letting stylists doing whatever they wanted to do with my hair, co-washes and protective styles.

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Good point, Anky. We all grow hair, it's how much of that hair we keep that counts.


I shampoo once a week, and I attribute the length I've been able to retain to minimal use of heat. Ever since I've stopped using curling irons & blow dryers, I truly am retaining length like I NEVER have before!!
 

Tracy

New Member
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Britt said:
Tracy what black color is that in your hair now? It is very pretty!

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It's Sebastian - Neutral Brown.
 

Chaya

New Member
I have to say putting down the blowdryer and curling iron is number 1!
Rollersetting has really helped my hair to retain moisture as well.
Good products are very important as well as silk scarves.
 

LABETT

Well-Known Member
Extending Relaxers,frequent washing and a good vitamin regimen has help my hair.
I dont trim my hair often and need to airdry more.
 

phynestone

Well-Known Member
I've increased the vitamins I take as well as using much less heat and protective styling. Oh, and not letting people who think they know a lot about hair do whatever they want to it.

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I just took my braids out on Saturday b/c they were getting a little old and now my hair will be in a braidout for the week. My friend saw me and said, "What did you do to your hair? It looks nappy." Now keep in mind that her hairline is almost non-existant but she continues to wear lots of glued-in tracks and uses a lot of heat on her hair. She then proceeded to give me a lecture on how my hair doesn't look professional and that people are going to talk. I defended myself and told her that there are many girls on my campus who don't have room to talk about MY hair and what I do with it is my business. Ever since I stop letting people do whatever they wanted to on my hair, it has flourished, so yes, I can testify to that. Thanks for listening to my rant.
 
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Tracy said:
I chose conditioning and vitamins...but I have to say what really helped me retain growth wasn't a choice here.

I stopped trimming my hair so much...

That was the turning point for me.

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I agree.. Also good word choice "retain" growth.
 

deeplyrooted

New Member
i would say that becoming napptural all over again has been the main factor in me retaining a lot of length. easing up on the trims i used to get all the time also helped for me. taking vitamins has helped me in keeping the thickness/volume of my hair.
 

pookeylou

New Member
I definitly feel that my growth is do to going natural.
Other factors have helped...no heat, good eating, Surge...but going natural was definitely the catalyst.
 

Lorraine

Active Member
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19sweetie said:
(off topic)
I just took my braids out on Saturday b/c they were getting a little old and now my hair will be in a braidout for the week. My friend saw me and said, "What did you do to your hair? It looks nappy." Now keep in mind that her hairline is almost non-existant but she continues to wear lots of glued-in tracks and uses a lot of heat on her hair. She then proceeded to give me a lecture on how my hair doesn't look professional and that people are going to talk. I defended myself and told her that there are many girls on my campus who don't have room to talk about MY hair and what I do with it is my business. Ever since I stop letting people do whatever they wanted to on my hair, it has flourished, so yes, I can testify to that. Thanks for listening to my rant.

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Pay no attention to your 'friend' girl. You are treating your hair well! Sometimes I think 'friends' and stylists want to keep us nice and short -- if not bald! LOL.

Now I apologize. Sorry for MY rant.
 

shoelover1972

New Member
For me I think that re-educating myself by obtaining info from you kind ladies has been a major factor. The things I have learnt are extending relaxers, lots of moisture especially on the ends and frequent washing. I started doing conditioner washes last week. I have also taken the plunge and I am now wearing my hair in a bun using the baggie technique - so far so good.

Ms Jennifer - I have looked at your progress. You have retained alot of length from your 1st picture to Dec 03
 

brittanynic16

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NO HEAT! My hair was really dry and underprocessed but even under these condtions as soon as a cut out the heat it grew like mad.
 

brittanynic16

Well-Known Member
NO HEAT! My hair was really dry and underprocessed but even under these condtions as soon as a cut out the heat it grew like mad.
 
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