*NEW* SELF RELAXER SUPPORT: WHAT WORKS, WHAT DOESN’T

taz007

Well-Known Member
@ojemba

First of all, what a precious cutie pie in your avatar! :)

Secondly, great growth and retention in your first year! :)

Thirdly, I thought about going back to a salon for some hair pampering, but I changed my mind. I can pamper my hair better than anyone and I just don't trust stylists like I used to.

Now getting pampered by getting a massage or mani/pedi is another story altogether! :yep:

I feel ya! Whenever I think of the work involved with doing my hair, I want to just pick up the phone and call a stylist. Then I remember what my hair looked like when they "took care of it" and put the phone right back in its holder. :look:
 

ojemba

Well-Known Member
@ojemba

First of all, what a precious cutie pie in your avatar! :)

Secondly, great growth and retention in your first year! :)

Thirdly, I thought about going back to a salon for some hair pampering, but I changed my mind. I can pamper my hair better than anyone and I just don't trust stylists like I used to.

Now getting pampered by getting a massage or mani/pedi is another story altogether! :yep:

Now that you mention it you're absolulty correct. I have to master self roller setting then I'll be straight. Awww thanks. check out her 2 months progress - my new siggy. My DD is on her hhj. lolll
 
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ScorpioLove

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has anyone put roux porosity control on all of their hair before relaxing? it says to put before a chemical service and its good if you want even result. when i have it in my hair it shows my coils/curls and i still want that just a little looser and even all around..
my last "texturiser" (Just for Me Texture softener) the stylist kept aiming for bone straight when i said at least 50 million times i dont want that. so now i will do it by myself
 

Nix08

Relaxed, 4B
Going to get my creamy crack fix tonight:woohoo: Advised dh that I needed at least 1 hour of uninterrupted time:yep: Just based my scalp with wgo. Will put vaseline around the nape later. I also cut down my sprush (as advised by Myjourney2009). I'm getting excited:grin:
 

Myjourney2009

Ready to be APL
Going to get my creamy crack fix tonight:woohoo: Advised dh that I needed at least 1 hour of uninterrupted time:yep: Just based my scalp with wgo. Will put vaseline around the nape later. I also cut down my sprush (as advised by Myjourney2009). I'm getting excited:grin:


Nix08
I cut colored part of mine to make it thinner I did not cut the black part to make it shorter.

I was getting excited as well to relax my hair (was due in 2 weeks) but I pushed it back to a month.
 

Myjourney2009

Ready to be APL
Myjourney2009 yep, that's what I did too:grin: It seems to be the perfect size:yep:
I saw that you pushed it back...well just imagine how much growth you'll have then:grin:

Nix08
Yup cutting it also prevents the relaxer from flying all over the place.


I'll only have a bit extra, just over an 1 1/2 in back and a bit over 3/4 inch in the front.
 

kupenda

Well-Known Member
Ok ladies I'm a lil lost and in need of help. I hope to relax my hair in the next two to four weeks. I'm stuck between design essentials and mizani. I've used mizanis butter blends and it left me underprocessed. So I figured I would go with the regular strength. But I keep seeing the other products like the milk bath and blah blah blah. Do I need all that stuff in addition to the standard relaxer cream and activator? And what would I need with the design essentials? Thanks!


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Nix08

Relaxed, 4B
Currently steaming after self relaxing:yay: The one thing I did differently this time was
rinsed the ends of my hair first. Oh, and also for my DC I put aloe vera gel in my roots 'just in case'. I applies in record time for me...about 13 minutes then let it sit then worked it in with my fingers and I was still at 18 minutes when I got in the shower. so far I'm very happy with this go round:yep:
 

beloved1bx

Well-Known Member
Definitely keeping an eye on this thread. The stylist that i've used for my last 2 relaxers, who i was actually happy with, has probably given birth recently and might not be taking any appointments right now. yikes, because i'm about to be 11 weeks post.

I've tried self-relaxing in the past and failed horribly. Severely under-processed. I'm not sure if I didn't smooth long enough or the ORS relaxer I used is just not the one for me. My stylist used Mizani (which I had never used before) and I really liked the results. But i've always wanted to master self-relaxing so that i knew i didn't have to depend on someone else. Might have to give it a shot if I don't figure something else out.
 

morehairplease

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Myjourney2009, Nix08

Ladies do you mind me asking what you cut your sprush with? My dh commented that he felt it was too long but it never occured to me to cut it.....my duh moment for sure :spinning:.

Thanks in advance for your response,
tishee
 
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Sweetgirl08

Well-Known Member
Great thread! I'm new to the self relaxing trend (I've been natural 10 yrs and I've only self relaxed once) Subscribing!!!


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JeterCrazed

New Member
I see some self relaxing members are adding oils to their relaxers. The reason they feel their hair is more conditioned is because caustic soda and fat makes soap. You're creating a chemical reaction that is creating a lush, conditioning soap. Those who do this may notice the consistency thicken as the process of soap hardens. This is the reason relaxers are petroleum based. Lye or other caustic sodas cannot "eat" petroleum. By basing your scalp with coconut oil, you're basically giving the relaxer something to eat other than your skin and sebum. This is also the reason you should NEVER RELAX DRY HAIR OR SCALP.

Instead of diluting this way, I use much less activator. Homemade soap can be dangerous as it can contain lye pockets that can burn the skin when cured improperly or mixing is not uniform. HOWEVER, if you go with this method, do mix the oil in before the activator and use a hard fat not soybean oil or olive, etc.

What else works for me?
Using Summit Sensitive Scalp when I've scratched. (Or peppermint flavoring before basing)
Sitting under a cold dryer to dry any sweat.
Chi Deep Brilliance Sensitive Scalp Relaxer. Takes like 40 min to get my hair straight. Not everybody is the fastest application in the Wild West. I like to relax in slow motion without Malcolm X flashbacks. Relaxers contained too much lye back then. That's why it burned and created thay stigma against lye. 100% lye is a salt that burns on contact if your skin is moist.
ORS is good, too with using 3/5 the recommended amount of activator.
Aphogee hard protein is good, too, but it burns >.<
I use Affirm Step 1 Protecto to protect my length no matter what relaxer I use.
Affirm relaxer is good, also.
I DC for an hour after.
Last rinse after shampooing is with the coldest water possible for 1 min.
Protein before moisture.
I always wash the very next day.
No heat for 24 hours.

Don't s:
NEVER put shampoo in without rinsing everything out. You don't want your hair jumping from a pH of 12 to 6 in 30 sec.
NEVER relax within 3 days of shampooing or saturating your scalp in water or water based substance. Bad bad.
NEVER wear gloves. To each his or her own.
If my nails are yellow, the relaxer is too strong. Hurry up and wash!



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Napp

Ms. Nobody
does anyone self relax without doing the half and half method? i cant see myself trying it without getting my hair wet
 

Cocoeuro

Active Member
Bumping....I'm thinking about laxing, I need all the info I can get..

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Napp

Ms. Nobody
againstallodds i actually watched the video and thats what made me think the method isint for me.thank you for showing your process though! The results were awesome!

I dont think i would have an issue doing my whole head at once. Ive done it before but since i am not looking for straight hair so im not worried about underprocessing. I will try presectioning though and starting from my coarser areas first.
 
I self relaxed for this first time this weekend and I think I did a pretty good job. Here's what I did:

1. I pre-sectioned my hair and based my scalp at 2am on Saturday (since the baby woke me anyway).
2. At 7am, I applied Vaseline to my edges then applied relaxer, Mizani Butter Blend, starting in the back of my head. My goal was to have it applied to the back in 5 minutes. I did that and moved on to the front and also had that applied in 5 minutes. I smoothed for another 5 minutes.
3. Next, I rinsed and did a protein treatment with Aphogee 2 Minute Recontructor.
4. After I rinsed, I neutralized with both Isoplus and Mizani Balance Hair Bath. This took about 20 minutes.
4. Then I applied French Perm Stabilizer and rinsed after one minute. My hair felt soooo soft after this.
5. DC with Alter Ego.
6. Roller set.

I think I did a pretty good job! It took me 6 years to get up the nerve to do it, but after reading this entire thread at work on Friday :look: I felt I could handle it. Thanks so much for this thread! I learned something from each and every post!
 

Queenmickie

Always thinking about my next hairstyle.
:yay::woot:My sprush arrived today! I was going to buy the set of five but then I read here that they always send extras:surf:
I bought the gold and they sent an extra gold AND the green:party:
My last stretch was 13 weeks and I am currently 10.5 weeks. I just sprayed down my NG real good with S Curl a few minutes ago. It was very puffy and tangled.:ohwell:
 

LiciaB

Well-Known Member
:yay::woot:My sprush arrived today! I was going to buy the set of five but then I read here that they always send extras:surf:
I bought the gold and they sent an extra gold AND the green:party:
My last stretch was 13 weeks and I am currently 10.5 weeks. I just sprayed down my NG real good with S Curl a few minutes ago. It was very puffy and tangled.:ohwell:

Queenmickie do you mind sharing where you ordered your sprush? I plan to self relax in a couple weeks. Thanks you!
 

Queenmickie

Always thinking about my next hairstyle.
Hi fyvettew!

Templeclean.com is where I ordered my Sprush. I did a conditioner test run on Wednesday. I applied condish the way I would a relaxer, and was able to go a lot faster. Tomorrow is relaxer day!
 
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