Argument w/Ex-BF and the only time I got MAD was when he mentioned my hair!
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I am usually a pretty laid back lady. Not a hot head at all. I let people say whatever they want and most of the time let it slide. Other time I want to rip someone's head off. Case in point:
My ex (white guy, if anyone finds this pertinent to the story) and I have been arguing through text for a while now. It is just the normal "end of the relationship drama". So this guy is completely arrogant and super know it all. (Just my type) In one text message he goes off on me for taking a break from school and he's "beating me". He is going for his Ph.D. and I won't start mine probably for another 2 years. I am 27, he is 30 so still young. I kept ignoring him writing back "mhmm, yeah, whatever, have a nice life" Then he sends one final dig. "That's why you don't have any hair!"
I...SAW...RED!!! Our entire relationship he knew how important my hair was to me. When he and I met I wore weaves all the time. He actually encouraged me to wear my real hair out and "let it breathe" I cut it twice while we were together and it is just now reaching shoulder length again. I griped to him a week before our break up about how fast it is growing but I am still impatient. He used this against me ya'll. Seriously? I immediately went into defense mode. I started telling him how he'll never find another woman that wants a man under 5'8! with small lady like hands and feet - if you know what I mean.
The point is, I cannot believe how his teeny tiny insignificant comment turned me crazy. You had to see me, I called him and started hollering at him like I had lost my mind...cuz he talked about my hair.I actually love my hair and know he said it just to make me mad. I'm over it now and kinda wish I didn't react that way because that is what he wanted. Just thought this was funny and wanted to share.
I absolutely HATE when someone brings up something I discussed with them in confidence - ANYTHING!
0live0il
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lamaria211
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Girl change ur number and make him history!
LoveBeautyKisses
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Hit him where it hurts.
Tell him "That's why you don't have a d!ck."
He will shut the phuck up then.
Tell him "That's why you don't have a d!ck."
He will shut the phuck up then.
PinkSunshine77
New York's Finest
What a low blow!!? 
I'm sorry
I'm sorry
TamaraShaniece
Ayurvedic Life
Ok.... :whew: glad i'm not the only one cause i started laughing also. No he didn't come at you with the hair. he knew what buttons to push.
Sunshine77
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Lol! He asked for it!
danniegirl
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lol that was funny at least you told him
and just an fyi if he decides to still bother you let him know your hair will grow but his d--- never will
and just an fyi if he decides to still bother you let him know your hair will grow but his d--- never will
SUPER SWEET
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Im mad and he didn't even say it to me....
dollface0023
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I hate when men throw out low blows when their feelings get hurt,lol.
empressri
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Why are you arguing with this fool?! I would IGNORE everything he says and he's 30 with the mentality of a three year old to take personal digs at you like that.
WTF are we in fourth grade?? He's only doing that to purposely piss you off and you're falling right into his trap. I had an ex trying to dog me OUT via text message and I refused to reply to anything. I acted like I didn't see squat.
WTF are we in fourth grade?? He's only doing that to purposely piss you off and you're falling right into his trap. I had an ex trying to dog me OUT via text message and I refused to reply to anything. I acted like I didn't see squat.
EbonyCPrincess
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Oh now see for ME the school thing would've sent me over the edge!!! I'm rapidly approaching 30 and not finished with my education so that comment right there got me FIRED up...then to throw in the hair comment? Yep there are some things that make you just go for the jugular, he asked for it!
Anavrin
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Same here. Im gonna be in school for the next decade getting my Doctorate so idda lost it.
But that's kind of my point. All the other stuff he was saying I was just brushing off but only defended my hair. lol Besides his comment about me "beating me" is stupid (so was the hair comment. ha). I'll start my Doctorate at 30 just like he did. He has 3years on me. He is such an idiot.
cmw45
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I am usually a pretty laid back lady. Not a hot head at all. I let people say whatever they want and most of the time let it slide. Other time I want to rip someone's head off. Case in point:
My ex (white guy, if anyone finds this pertinent to the story) and I have been arguing through text for a while now. It is just the normal "end of the relationship drama". So this guy is completely arrogant and super know it all. (Just my type
The point is, I cannot believe how his teeny tiny insignificant comment turned me crazy. You had to see me, I called him and started hollering at him like I had lost my mind...cuz he talked about my hair.
This.
Whatever, he is immature and he obviously was trying to make you feel as bad as he did. Transfer of energy and all that. If I were you, I would send him a pair of those basic gloves they make for girls/women and sell for a buck everywhere...something to keep his tiny hands warm now that you won't be around.
Just kiddin'...not really.
ETA: As an academic, the doctorate thing might have upset me...if he wasn't wrong. He just started and he's 30...you are taking two years off and you are 27...which means you will start at 29...how is that "behind" him?
Hopefully his area of academic study is not in math.
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IMFOCSD
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beingofserenity
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I was worried this would be a sob story, glad you realized how ridiculous he is 
Anyway, greater education is the kind of thing you want to do when you are ready and not because you're trying to finish some race. Getting your doctorate is no joke and not for everyone! What field are you in, may I ask?
Anyway, greater education is the kind of thing you want to do when you are ready and not because you're trying to finish some race. Getting your doctorate is no joke and not for everyone! What field are you in, may I ask?cmw45 well, i'll be turning 28 next month so i'll just hit 30 when I start. But he is still wrong since he has 3 years on me! And as academics we both kinda hurl insults at each other about our work when we're mad. "your research is unoriginal" or "do you have to guess why you didn't get that fellowship?" ya know, common geek fights. He tried me and then I had to break fool on his behind!
beingofserenity My undergraad was in liberal arts but gave me all the writing courses I needed and then some. My graduate was in clinical psych and for my doctorate program I am thinking of maybe psycholinguistics. Mainly because I do not want to be a linguist and I love psychology; and there is a topic that I have been researching for years as a hobby. I would like to explore that more. But somewhere in the middle I will probably switch to neuroscience...who knows, I will be a student for life!
beingofserenity
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