I think I'm at the point where I can contribute to this thread, since I'm starting to experience a lot of the things that you ladies are talking about, especially my hair starting to get caught in or in the way of everything.
Even though I'm only between APL and BSL (my AVI is a little out of date), I am starting to feel like I am on the way to having long hair.
I am also starting to love how my hair feels hanging down on my upper back. Even though I protective style most of the time when I go out, I love letting my hair hang free around the house, where I don't have to wear a shirt that my hair can snag on.
The weirdest thing that happened to me though, was that because of where I live (in the southern part of the country with a large hispanic population), my "race" suddenly changed once my hair got to a certain length.
erplexed I went from Haitian American black to Dominican Republic hispanic in just a couple of inches as far as other people's perceptions are concerned, which surprised me. This is bad enough, since I have always been proud of my heritage, but it irks me even more because people think they are paying me a complement by saying that I don't "look black."
What annoys me the most, however, is when this assumption ends up negating all the hard work I have done to get to the length I am now. Instead of being admired for my long hair (it is longer than most black women's hair in my area), it becomes okay to even on the short side for hispanic girls. My hair has NEVER been this long before, but a lot of the time I don't get credit for it, and it can be a bummer.