First of all.... if you are a relaxer-bashing or natural-bashing person with nothing positive to say.... please STAY OUT out this thread... I don't need any drama.
As most of you (who know me) know, I was natural for like 4 years, but was very very unhappy, near depressed about my hair... but was afraid to relax cos I have a YT channel (and was afraid of the blow-back) + I feel like I just failed to "love myself" in a weird kinda way.... Well, I decided that my mental health was way more important than all of that, relaxed my hair... and have been happy as a bird for almost a yr and a half...
My relaxed hair is waaayyy easier to care for (time-wise), I feel so much more confident in how I look (constantly rocking braids/cornrows just made me feel juvenile), I am retaining every inch.... hit bsl, 1/2 inch from mbl, and on track for wsl all in this yr.... have my reggie solid, self relaxing etc....
So what's the problem? To be clear, I think that people should do what they please with their hair (relax,color,cut... whatever makes them happy) and it has no effect on their level of "black love" (for lack of a better term) ....
BUT I feel like my hair type (very fine cnapps, 4c, very kinky 4b) is still out there when it comes to making it look glamorous especially.... caring for it since it's so breakage prone, all the time it takes to style it etc... and I feel like almost every other hair type... 4A and below have figured it out, and we haven't... I know that chopping off my MBL hair and starting again is a recipe for disaster given how I felt with my natural hair.... but I feel I should be part of the "movement" to figure out how to EASILY care for this hair and make it look sexy and glamorous in every modern type of way (vs an abstract inner beauty ish).... The only way I know to care for it is rock twists 24/7... but there has to be another way.... I feel like we at least have to give people with our hair type a choice to be natural knowing that they will look gorgeous ........ I feel like we have to figure out a way for our old fashioned parents (mine included) who thinks natural hair looks unkempt need to proven wrong and the only way is to show them how outwardly pretty our hair can be.... I dont know... I have a lot of feelings I guess.... I feel like even though I dont know how, I should try to help make this happen, especially since I have a YT channel (no matter how small the following).......
Am I crazy for feeling like this? I'll probably get to Waist lenght before I do anything crazy to my hair...
Pinging some ladies to chime in.... Feel free to tag more positive people...
Nonie NappyNelle faithVA virtuousNow sunnieb Mslala mwedzi Allandra Supergirl againstallodds divachyk
As most of you (who know me) know, I was natural for like 4 years, but was very very unhappy, near depressed about my hair... but was afraid to relax cos I have a YT channel (and was afraid of the blow-back) + I feel like I just failed to "love myself" in a weird kinda way.... Well, I decided that my mental health was way more important than all of that, relaxed my hair... and have been happy as a bird for almost a yr and a half...
My relaxed hair is waaayyy easier to care for (time-wise), I feel so much more confident in how I look (constantly rocking braids/cornrows just made me feel juvenile), I am retaining every inch.... hit bsl, 1/2 inch from mbl, and on track for wsl all in this yr.... have my reggie solid, self relaxing etc....
So what's the problem? To be clear, I think that people should do what they please with their hair (relax,color,cut... whatever makes them happy) and it has no effect on their level of "black love" (for lack of a better term) ....
BUT I feel like my hair type (very fine cnapps, 4c, very kinky 4b) is still out there when it comes to making it look glamorous especially.... caring for it since it's so breakage prone, all the time it takes to style it etc... and I feel like almost every other hair type... 4A and below have figured it out, and we haven't... I know that chopping off my MBL hair and starting again is a recipe for disaster given how I felt with my natural hair.... but I feel I should be part of the "movement" to figure out how to EASILY care for this hair and make it look sexy and glamorous in every modern type of way (vs an abstract inner beauty ish).... The only way I know to care for it is rock twists 24/7... but there has to be another way.... I feel like we at least have to give people with our hair type a choice to be natural knowing that they will look gorgeous ........ I feel like we have to figure out a way for our old fashioned parents (mine included) who thinks natural hair looks unkempt need to proven wrong and the only way is to show them how outwardly pretty our hair can be.... I dont know... I have a lot of feelings I guess.... I feel like even though I dont know how, I should try to help make this happen, especially since I have a YT channel (no matter how small the following).......
Am I crazy for feeling like this? I'll probably get to Waist lenght before I do anything crazy to my hair...
Pinging some ladies to chime in.... Feel free to tag more positive people...
Nonie NappyNelle faithVA virtuousNow sunnieb Mslala mwedzi Allandra Supergirl againstallodds divachyk