I Have No Words. What Would You Have Done?

F8THINHIM said:

Wow!

That is gong to require a lot of therapy.

1. My first reaction was shock at the thought of a child smacking hie mother.

2. My first thought was what did she do to make him so frustrated and angry.

But the last video was more telling. When he apologized, I noticed that he apologized for making her depressed. It seems that there has never been a healthy grieving process after the death of the daughter/sister. So much blame, accusations and denial. Very Abusive.

I could see he was so frustrated at her denial or lack of recollection to his claims of abuse by her, while she seemed so calm/smug when stating that she did not recall these incidents. Also, noting that she came from an abusive family life, she needs healthy parenting skills.
I know there is such a thing as vows and judgements and she judged her family and vowed not to be like them. But she seems to have recreated the same atmosphere in her home.
They need to learn what a healthy family relationship looks like. They are both in such pain.

I pray they find the help they need to come through this before Noah gets older/bigger.

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Iwanthealthyhair67 said:

Wow, there is no respect there at all, she created that monster...parents and children can never be on the same level and this is where some of the problem is.

Dr. Phil referring to the mother as a girl is wrong he just brought the gravity of him slapping his mother down to him slapping a classmate. Checking out the rest of the vid...

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mrselle said:

1. Your first reaction My first reaction was "wow". This is a very defiant little boy. Then I realized that he lost his sister, so I felt like a lot of his behavior was him not knowing how to deal with the loss of his sister. When he slapped his mother I thought that she was pretty calm, which lead me to believe that that might not have been the first time that he has hit her. I wasn't surprised by her calm demeanor. Most adults know how to practice self control when they know they are being watched.

2. Your first thought I wondered if this was staged or if they had been through therapy before because the words he was using didn't seem like words that a typical 8 year old uses. Some of his words and phrases seemed like he had been coached by therapist on how to communicate with his mother.

3. What would you have done as the parent? As a parent I probably would have flung his little round body across the room.

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kaykari said:

That made me so angry when he slapped her. It was like he was trying to provoke a response. Can you imagine slapping your mom? Mine woulda choke slammed me. And that would have looked abusive.

I feel sorry for that kid tho. He needs something he cant get from her. She seems off and cold somehow

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Misseyl said:

For a 10 year old he has a lot of opinions. I would have draped him up long ago. I don't know what goes on in his house but he has an opinion about everything and he's not paying any bills so I would have suggested that he gets emancipated before I stomp him.

Reminds me of the 9 year old stow-a-way, the kid who hopped a plane from Minneapolis to Las Vegas the other day. You can't tell them anything because they know everything.

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