Relaxed Hair Thread

Saludable84 · Oct 19, 2014

Murqui

I would be upset if someone was ripping out knots as well. That's just pure laziness.

If you want to do your own relaxers, just look into it more because it's not as easy as it sounds. It gets better over time, yes, but I still don't find it easy, just systematic. I've actually seen the paul Mitchell relaxer in beauty supply stores. I was about to buy it, but I had never tried it so got some design essentials Lo-Lye.

Murqui · Oct 19, 2014

Thank you for all of the comments and advice! I just needed to vent and also see if I was being unreasonable. I think that I will research self-relaxing methods over the next few months and come to a decision. With my schedule, the 4+ hours at the salon are becoming less and less appetizing. Thanks again! (Back to lurking...)

divachyk · Oct 19, 2014

RT: I really like how MileHighDiva browses relaxed threads and is always so positive and encouraging although she's a natural chica. I see you thanking posts MHD. Thanks for loving healthy hair and not just natural hair.

divachyk · Oct 19, 2014

Murqui, thank you for your gift to medicine. I'm sure you're an awesome surgeon.

Regarding your hair, I'm sorry this happened. I too am salon relaxed. I prefer going to a salon, if possible. I would politely inform the stylist of what happened....

To keep the peace, I wouldn't say your mom ripped through my hair. I would say something like, my hair was tangled more than normal on my last visit and that never happens when you're doing my hair. I noticed I lost a lot of hair during that detangling session and I just didn't feel comfortable with the amount of hair lost. I only want to visit the salon when you're able to do my hair from start to finish....or something like that.

iLurk · Oct 20, 2014

Murqui I'm sorry to hear about your last visit. I used to have similar problems when I let others relax my hair but I kept letting them do it because I was afraid I would mess up on my own. And my stylist had a shampoo girl that would literally beat clients heads against the sink while washing it... x_x you should talk to your main stylist though. you could be saving another client from the same fate by doing so.

As for self relaxing it actually seems more scary than it actually is in my experience. I memorized all the steps and took it from there and by me doing it myself I can be sure the relaxer is completely rinsed out. Not only can it be better for your hair but wallet too.

pre_medicalrulz · Oct 20, 2014

divachyk said:
RT: I really like how MileHighDiva browses relaxed threads and is always so positive and encouraging although she's a natural chica. I see you thanking posts MHD. Thanks for loving healthy hair and not just natural hair.

LOL! She is?! All this time I thought you were relaxed chica! Hilarious!

**waves**

Lilmama1011 · Oct 20, 2014

Murqui said:
Hello Everyone,

This is my first post even though I’ve been a member here since ~2008erplexed. I am posting because I need some advice. Thanks to all of you ladies, my hair has thrived for the past few years and is currently the longest and healthiest it has ever been. I do a good enough job taking care of my hair on my own, but I am dependent on salons for relaxers. I absolutely love my stylist, but I had an awful experience today. As she was overbooked (as usual), she had her mother (also a stylist in their home salon) do my set after she applied my relaxer. I felt like I was in a horror movie. She started detangling my hair in the back and kept referring to the fact that it was very knotted. When she got to the front of my hair, I realized what she was doing. She would get down to the knot and start ripping out my hair. I don’t think I’ve lost that much hair over the past 13 weeks since my last relaxer. I swear I went blind when I saw the clump of hair. I asked her to be more gentle and she was better, but still not what I'm used to. While the end result looked okay, I’m pissed! I am now at a crossroads: do I tell the daughter that only she can touch my hair or do I learn to relax my own hair. I figure that if I can operate on patients I should be able to put a relaxer in my hair. My stylist uses Paul Mitchell relaxer which my hair absolutely loves and if I self relax, I would like to continue this. Have any of you ladies been able to purchase salon products without a cosmetology license? Also, am I over exaggerating and being too sensitive? I have attached some pictures of my hair journey and my hair today. I'm an extremely slow grower...

Pic #1 - January 2013

Pic #2 - May 2013

Pic #3 - August 2013

Pic #4 - Today

Yeah, I buy mizani offline and self relax. Well my SO helps me. Murqui

Evolving78 · Oct 20, 2014

Murqui said:
Hello Everyone, This is my first post even though I’ve been a member here since ~2008erplexed. I am posting because I need some advice. Thanks to all of you ladies, my hair has thrived for the past few years and is currently the longest and healthiest it has ever been. I do a good enough job taking care of my hair on my own, but I am dependent on salons for relaxers. I absolutely love my stylist, but I had an awful experience today. As she was overbooked (as usual), she had her mother (also a stylist in their home salon) do my set after she applied my relaxer. I felt like I was in a horror movie. She started detangling my hair in the back and kept referring to the fact that it was very knotted. When she got to the front of my hair, I realized what she was doing. She would get down to the knot and start ripping out my hair. I don’t think I’ve lost that much hair over the past 13 weeks since my last relaxer. I swear I went blind when I saw the clump of hair. I asked her to be more gentle and she was better, but still not what I'm used to. While the end result looked okay, I’m pissed! I am now at a crossroads: do I tell the daughter that only she can touch my hair or do I learn to relax my own hair. I figure that if I can operate on patients I should be able to put a relaxer in my hair. My stylist uses Paul Mitchell relaxer which my hair absolutely loves and if I self relax, I would like to continue this. Have any of you ladies been able to purchase salon products without a cosmetology license? Also, am I over exaggerating and being too sensitive? I have attached some pictures of my hair journey and my hair today. I'm an extremely slow grower... Pic #1 - January 2013 Pic #2 - May 2013 Pic #3 - August 2013 Pic #4 - Today

I can see the pics, but just leave next time.

kikisf · Oct 20, 2014

irisak said:
Congrats on the little one! I had a loss at 30 weeks in April. My hormones are finally starting to balance out but the shedding was a beast and my edges had some breakage.

irisak I am so sorry for your loss. I have been there and it sucks. Having all the postpartum hair problems without the joy of a take home baby just made everything worse for me. Hang in there. It takes a loooong time for the hormones to balance out and even though I finally had a successful pregnancy I still think about how old the first one would have been.

Murqui That is some gawgeous hair!!

Saludable84 · Oct 20, 2014

divachyk said:
RT: I really like how MileHighDiva browses relaxed threads and is always so positive and encouraging although she's a natural chica. I see you thanking posts MHD. Thanks for loving healthy hair and not just natural hair.

She great. She never has shade. I really admire that.

irisak · Oct 20, 2014

kikisf said:
irisak I am so sorry for your loss. I have been there and it sucks. Having all the postpartum hair problems without the joy of a take home baby just made everything worse for me. Hang in there. It takes a loooong time for the hormones to balance out and even though I finally had a successful pregnancy I still think about how old the first one would have been.

Murqui That is some gawgeous hair!!

kikisf It is hard. I have two other children but I never suffered a loss before.
Everyone thank you for the prayers and well wishes. You have no idea how much they mean to me.

Jobwright · Oct 20, 2014

Still using Aphogee 2 minute at every wash. Didn't feel like getting in and out of the shower for a DC today so I just rinsed the Aphogee out, moisturized, oiled and sealed. Finger detangling now on 75% air dried hair. No tangles, hair is soooooo soft, barely any shed hair!!!!! WOW!!!!! And I am 10 weeks post!!!!

MileHighDiva · Oct 20, 2014

divachyk pre_medicalrulz Saludable84

You ladies know that I'm here for any and all hair p0rn! I don't care if it's natural, textured, chemically, or thermally relaxed. I just want hair p0rn! :look:

I go to any threads where it's potentially posted at. I appreciate all hair, as long as, it isn't a HAM!

Hopefully, Murqui will not go back into super lurker mode. I :pray:

that she will, at least provide us with a quarterly update on her beautiful hair and hemline, :yep:

Evolving78 · Oct 22, 2014

I relaxed. I couldn't take it anymore. I went out at 5am and got my a box kit. Lol everything went fine and I have plenty of texture. I am deep conditioning now. I plan on flat ironing my hair to see what is going on. I'm doing my nails too. I just needed to feel like me and cute.

Fotchygirl · Oct 22, 2014

Murqui that is some beautiful hair! We all have horror salon stories hey, my last relaxer was also a disaster, the stylist basically ignored everything I was telling her and just did her own thing. The result was me leaving with some very thin hair ( as a result of her blowdrying my hair and ripping through my NG ) and a 2 inch cut ( which I hadn't requested). Needless to say I won't be going back there.

danysedai · Oct 22, 2014

I relaxed too. I posted on the transitioning without BC and was all ready to do this, but my newgrowth is kicking my bum,and right now I can't do this. I also got bangs for my birthday and bangs and NG of 16 weeks do not mix well. It was my first succesful self relaxing session. I had already had about 2 inches cut due to damage from last year's corrective relaxer :sad:

and I still have about 3 more inches of thinner ends to cut but I'm leaving them be for now.

I relaxed (texlaxed) with Affirm as always, DC with a mix of Affirm 5-in-1,Salerm Wheat Germ, Silicon Mix and a vial of Kerastase Vita Ciment. Did my rollers and flat ironed the bangs and roots.

3 people (2 women and 1 man) have asked if my hair is a wig :lachen:

Guinan · Oct 22, 2014

danysedai said:
I relaxed too. I posted on the transitioning without BC and was all ready to do this, but my newgrowth is kicking my bum,and right now I can't do this. I also got bangs for my birthday and bangs and NG of 16 weeks do not mix well. It was my first succesful self relaxing session. I had already had about 2 inches cut due to damage from last year's corrective relaxer and I still have about 3 more inches of thinner ends to cut but I'm leaving them be for now.

I relaxed (texlaxed) with Affirm as always, DC with a mix of Affirm 5-in-1,Salerm Wheat Germ, Silicon Mix and a vial of Kerastase Vita Ciment. Did my rollers and flat ironed the bangs and roots.

3 people (2 women and 1 man) have asked if my hair is a wig

Your hair looks freaking GORGEOUS. It does look like a wig (but in a good way)

Evolving78 · Oct 22, 2014

pelohello said:
Your hair looks freaking GORGEOUS. It does look like a wig (but in a good way)

it does! It looks so thick and healthy!

irisak · Oct 22, 2014

So I've realized now that my hair is on autopilot. I relax when the new growth is getting on my nerves although usually at 12 weeks or more. I wash and dc once a week. I style how I want, even with* cringe* heat. I don't really have a length goal anymore because I've surpassed most of the goals I set. Basically I'm just seeing where this journey takes me and trying to enjoy. Every minute of it. #Ilovebeingtexlaxed.

I put my mini photographers to work (my 8 and 12 year old) because I haven't had a hair photo that included the top of my head in so long! Here's my hair last night while Bantu wrapping. I got this idea from a poster on here because Bantu knots never come out right. I wish I could remember her name so I could thank her because this has made styling my hair so easy!!!!!

And here's the finished product.

pre_medicalrulz · Oct 23, 2014

I want to try a hot oil treatment but a little nervous at 17 weeks post relaxer. I just want to give my strands a little bit more love since I don't know when my next relaxer will be. I try to avoid over manipulating this far into a stretch.

shasha8685 · Oct 23, 2014

I need to find a stylist here in Greenville to do my relaxers. I hate that the minute I found a great stylist in Birmingham, I left...

FemmeFatale · Oct 23, 2014

pre_medicalrulz said:
I want to try a hot oil treatment but a little nervous at 17 weeks post relaxer. I just want to give my strands a little bit more love since I don't know when my next relaxer will be. I try to avoid over manipulating this far into a stretch.

I know your hair has to be at your ankles by now, what is your secret missy!

pre_medicalrulz · Oct 23, 2014

FemmeFatale said:
I know your hair has to be at your ankles by now, what is your secret missy!

BOL! My ankles; I wish!

divachyk · Oct 23, 2014

Hey ladies, as some of you already seen from my blog post, I did a light self trim on my hair. I will be trimming more but I'm pleased with my first try.

pre_medicalrulz · Oct 23, 2014

divachyk said:
Hey ladies, as some of you already seen from my blog post, I did a light self trim on my hair. I will be trimming more but I'm pleased with my first try.

That's looks good! It's going to fill in nicely.

SuchaLady · Oct 23, 2014

I got my hair blown out and curled. I would add pictures but some of y'all evil :look:

pre_medicalrulz · Oct 23, 2014

SuchaLady said:
I got my hair blown out and curled. I would add pictures but some of y'all evil

LOLOLOLOLOOO we aint evil up in this thread!

Evolving78 · Oct 23, 2014

SuchaLady said:
I got my hair blown out and curled. I would add pictures but some of y'all evil

if I can show pics of my crown breakage, you can show us your blow out!

divachyk · Oct 23, 2014

TY pre_medicalrulz :kiss:

SuchaLady pics, pics, pics! :yep:

SuchaLady · Oct 23, 2014

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