Problem with My Stylist-What Do I Do?

scorpio

New Member
Ladies,

I need some advice. I wen to the salon this weekend, and after doing the April1 challenge, needed a trim. I asked if she could just clip my ends, which I didn't really have many split ends, just a few. And what happens? I get my length cut off. This exact same thing happened when I got my last trim on Dec 31 and I was mad as crap!

I really like my stylist, been with her for over 8 years, but I am so frustrated. Everytime I get near midback length and need a light trim, I end up right back where I started, shoulder length. It didn't help that I had these layers cut in last year, which really made my 4a/4b fine-hair suffer.

I mean, I was just getting back to being happy with the length and then this again. I do not know how to communicate properly when I just want the split ends taken off and then end up getting too much length gone instead. Also, my hair grows naturally into a V, but every time I get a trim, I end up getting it cut all the way across even. I am so pissed off because that is work down the drain.

I don't want to switch stylists, but honestly, this is really getting me down. i don't trust myself to cut my own ends, and I definitely don't run the risk of going to a stranger and getting something worse.

I just started taking MSM two weeks agao, so I am hoping that will accelerate the growth a little.

I am sorry for being so long-winded, but I am so pissed right now.
 

Carla From VA

New Member
Your best bet is to learn to dust your own ends, and don't let anyone take scissors to your head. A lot of us have had to learn to cut our own so we could keep some of our length.
 

balisi

New Member
I think it would have been helpful to both you and your stylist if you'd let her know that you want to keep the V, since that is how your hair grows. She was probably under the impression that you wanted it evened out.
 
I feel so sorry for you ! I had this problem last fall when I was almost apl length the FIRST time. Not only did my stylist cut my hair back to shoulder length , SHE LAYERED IT ! :mad: She also told me that my hair WASN't healthy and streching relaxers wasn't good .My hair is still recovering from that " trim " . If she's a good stylist then I remind dusting your own end. haircare mistakes is a part of your haircare journey- You'll learn from them :)
 

lana

Well-Known Member
I stopped going to a stylist about one year ago. I'm through because they don't listen to me and I felt like I was to blame. I was tired of getting my hair cut so that it could "hold a curl". I was tired of getting a trim and losing three or four inches of healthy hair! I was tired of not being respected.

So now I do my own trims, my hair has really grown out and I do my own maintenance and care. Next month I will be giving myself my very first touch up (texlax), three months ago I went texlaxed after 6 years natural and I did it all by myself. I'm of the opinion that if anyone is going to mess up my hair, it will be me! But so far, my hair is healthy, shaky and beautiful.

I would suggest dropping the stylist and doing everything yourself. Or if you like being pampered just go in for touchups, wash & styles.
 

Junonia

New Member
Carla From VA said:
Your best bet is to learn to dust your own ends, and don't let anyone take scissors to your head. A lot of us have had to learn to cut our own so we could keep some of our length.

ITA...I dust my ends to keep my length. My stylist is very good but each time I get a touch-up he basically trims my new growth. This time around I told him not to trim and I actually see progress.
 

SvelteVelvet

Well-Known Member
I agree to learning to trim your own ends and don't be afraid to speak up if you want to keep her as a stylist without leaving angry constantly kept out of reach of your personal goal. I know you've been with her for a long time but some relationships aren't meant to last forever, I'd learn to take care of it myself, or at least 'test' out other stylists.
 

nicki6

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Are you telling us that she cut your hair from MBL to shoulder length?:eek: :mad:

If so, don't EVER go back!!! You explained what you wanted perfectly to my understanding. Find a stylist that 'listens' or find a member here that you can trust to help you.

That is ridiculous and shameful that she violated you that way:nono:
 

janeemat

Well-Known Member
Girl, I know how you feel. Same thing happened to me in Dec. Scisscors have not been near my head since. I do have a trusted white stylist that waxes my brows that can trim me when I decide to get a trim again. She does just what I ask. It pissed her off when I showed her how my hair had been cut. You'd better take control because it's going to happen every time.


Nicki6, looking good girl! I was just browsing your fotki. Not only have you creeped past shoulder but you're on your way to BS!
 
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trulyurangel82

New Member
Same thing happened to me except my hair was shoulder length.
Months ago I went to the salon and she trimmed my hair without asking. My hair went from shoulder length to chin length. I was really pissed. She then said,"u needed your ends trimmed." That was a trim?:perplexed

Im actually looking for hair salons to call for a corrective this week and im scared. I havent been the salon in months.
Im going to go to somewhere different but I know that whoever does it is prob going to say,"yeah this is so much underprocessed hair. I will need to cut off some parts."

Im hoping to be assertive and just say,"No thanks. Thats k ill trim my ends myself when I get home."

I do not trust hair stylists with scissors. Everytime I would ask for a trim they would cut more than what was expected. No wonder my hair stayed the shortest.

Its now growing out from that cut and I dont want to start over.

Basically like everyone else said drop the stylist since shes not listening or just trim your ends yourself.

The first time I trimmed my ends it wasnt that great. But i got the hang of it. I basically just had my hair in sections with rollers and each time I took the rollers out before flat ironing I would take my scissors and cut a little off each section. Not 2-3 inches off.!
 

Amour

Well-Known Member
The stylist got your hair to shoulder length from Mid back length? Please tell me you didn't pay for it?

This BS is getting beyond ridiculous, women are paying to get their hair jacked up... its not fair... hell would have broken loose in that salon that day. I would have been like a bull in a china shop. I'm getting upset just thinking about it... It's hard to advise what you can do now, as your already left and i guess its been assumed you have accepted it.

Do not be afraid to stand for yourself and your hair against a stylist, I can only imagine how hard to worked to get you hair to MBL, for some 'dresser to set u back..

Coming to think of it, I think I remember someone was starting a petition/ lawsuit against scissor happy stylist I didn't have the time to sign it..... but I do now :fan:

BEST OF LUCK FOR WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO DO... AND I HOPE THIS DON'T EVER HAPPEN TO YOU AGAIN
 

nicki6

Well-Known Member
janeemat said:
Girl, I know how you feel. Same thing happened to me in Dec. Scisscors have not been near my head since. I do have a trusted white stylist that waxes my brows that can trim me when I decide to get a trim again. She does just what I ask. It pissed her off when I showed her how my hair had been cut. You'd better take control because it's going to happen every time.


Nicki6, looking good girl! I was just browsing your fotki. Not only have you creeped past shoulder but you're on your way to BS!

Thanks girl!:kiss:
Its still a LONG way to brastrap. I just want full APL all the way around:wink2:
 

baby42

New Member
nicki6 said:
Are you telling us that she cut your hair from MBL to shoulder length?:eek: :mad:

If so, don't EVER go back!!! You explained what you wanted perfectly to my understanding. Find a stylist that 'listens' or find a member here that you can trust to help you.

That is ridiculous and shameful that she violated you that way:nono:
wow i sorry to hear this but this the second time know way would i let her cut a gain what is she trying to be funny?:mad:
 

HERicane10

New Member
I've found that the most "tactful" approach is to give a definite length i.e. "I want 1/4 inch trimmed". Having an exact measurement makes it more straightforward and harder for them to act like they don't comprehend what "trim" means. :)
 

sweetpuff

New Member
My eyes got all watery when I read the story.:covereyes
Midback to shoulder length....Give us the adress and we'll take care of it. cut her hair with kids scissors(sp) or something. I mean...that's like 10 inches!!!!!

I understand you thgough when you say she is good. But if you want to go back, be assertive, bring friends, family who can bad mouth her just a little...
"heya... those scissors are kinda high for a clip... dang! good thing a chin length girl don't come here to get trimmed... the poor thing would have her head chopped off! :nuts:. hey here I got the definition of trim in a hairstyling book... wanna check and see where you failed in your exam???"
 

Chromia

Well-Known Member
This is why I dumped my stylist last week. :D I had been going to her for 13 years. My mom first took me to her when I was in high school. When I came home for breaks during college I still went to her. When I moved back here a couple of years after college I started going to her again. Last week I called her and told her I won't be coming in anymore.

She was adamant about trimming every 6 weeks. When I started taking better care of my hair 2 years ago and I saw a lot less splits, I started telling her to trim less often and to trim less hair. I told her that I don't want my hair to stay the same length. She said "Some hair just doesn't get any longer". There were times when she pressured me into getting a trim or she became very upset when I said I didn't want a trim and scolded me.

It was frustrating trying to tell her that I don't want a trim. It was like she thought she owned my hair. There were some trims where she cut off more than what had grown in.:mad:

The last straw was at my last appointment. I had just had a touch up and trim 6 weeks earlier. I was getting a touch up and she goes "I'm just gonna trim a little bit". That was odd, because there were actually times when she asked me "Are you getting a trim this time?". I told her I wanted to wait. Then she said "You know when you wait I have to take off more the next time". :perplexed :confused: It sounded like a punishment or a penalty. She had never said that before. And it was odd because last year, after I had been getting trims less frequently, 2 of my friends noticed that my hair was getting longer, so obviously she hadn't been taking off more when I waited.

I remember one time, 2 weeks after a trim one of my friends said "You got your hair cut?" as soon as she saw me. One time when I was in college my mom told me to tell her not to trim - she said it seems like she takes off so much. I was sooo stupid to go to her as long as I did. People tell me I'm nice and I'm patient. I actually hate being that way, and this is one situation where being nice and patient did not benefit me at all.
 
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