Maracujá
November 2020 --> 14 years natural!!!
Some of the macro solutions have been discussed/suggested in various thread.
In the US (macro level)..... longer parental leave. I mean 12 weeks is nothing. Minimum of 9-12 months for moms and 6months for dad’s. I think there are groups advocating for this already in some form.
This one is harder..... but there has to be some sort of revolution to stop this widening economical gap. It is ridiculous.
On the individual level..... it depends on a person situation, culture, and other factors.
I’m Nigerian..... so before my mom has her health crisis, she stayed with me and DH for about 6months with my 1st and we stayed with my MIL for about 6mnths also.
I took a lower paying job to have flexible time and also I knew I was going to have my second child wanted the a very flexible schedule without too much worry about taking time off.
I hired a nanny for the 4-5 months after my second baby. I have a cleaner come once a month. My 2nd is almost 2yrs and I just started a new job with standard 8-5pm hrs. I hired a part time nanny to come in the weekday evenings 6-9pm. She helps with the kids, so this enables me to go do my errands, exercise or just relax if needed.
More deliberate thought and preparation before kids. My first I wasn't as prepared but I had my and DH family and extended support to get me through.
You played it smart, then again you are Naija for a reason . I believe the bolded is key at this point, since there's no telling when there will be change at the macro level. Thank you for your answer.