LittleMissScientist
New Member
Good morning ladies,
So I am sitting here with my hair in six fat plaits (request of my stylist) in anticipation of a 1:00 pm appointment to get my hair relaxed. I got my first, and up to this point, only, relaxer the summer before 8th grade. I remember the date so clearly because I was BEGGING my mother for a relaxer before school started because I was so tired of the kids teasing me about my natural hair, and after all, I was going into the EIGHTH GRADE (I felt SO grown at the time
). My hair looked great for about two months- so much so that different people would want to "style" my hair every morning during homeroom. But over time the lack of knowledge and care lead to extreme breakage- I would always have these little pieces of hair all over my shoulders. My hair went from midback to just brushing on my shoulders.
After an unintentional transition (I just flat-ironed the new growth and never got another relaxer), I estimate that all the relaxed ends had fallen off by the time I was a junior in high school. Now, almost ten years later, I am "ready" to relax again.
...or maybe I am not. I have learned so much from this board, but I still have so much anxiety and apprehension about adding the chemicals. Last night my heart was literally racing as I thought about all the things that could potentially go wrong. I really thought I was going crazy a couple of days ago at work because I was thinking about the appointment and I felt like my hair was crying
. Yes, I know that is ridiculous, but it was "saying", "WHY are you doing this to us? What have we done to you? We have been growing so healthy and strong all this time."
My two reasons:
I am so tired of shrinkage. So, so, so, so, so tired of shrinkage. I like long hair. I like to SEE long hair. I HATE the way it starts off well below shoulder and then curls up into a non-moving, above-shoulder tent-like fro
. To make matters worse, it does not shrink evenly. It looks like a tent because the hair on top is much looser and will only shrink about 50%, and the hair on the back will shrink about 75%. The only way to show even a little more length is to twistout, braidout, or blowout. All of these are time consuming, and if I want the hair to stay stretched than I cannot get it wet. This is not cool with me because I like to keep my hair well-moisutrized and I also work out frequently. I DON'T want straight hair, but I do want to show some length after all these years of growing.
I am so tired of the detangling time. So, so, so, so, so, so, SO, SO tired of taking an hour plus to detangle fully. I know that one solution- suggested by friends who do not want me to perm- is to cut my hair. But this defeats the whole purpose of growing it long. I do miss the days when it took only five minutes to comb through in the shower and pull it back into a gorgeous puff. No more
. It is way too long and does not maintain shape.
Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I am sorry for this long post. I guess I just need to see my thoughts in writing so they can stop swirling around in my head
. The crazy thing is my hair feels sooooooo soft and supple right now since I have been prepping it with extra moisture for the past few weeks in anticipation of my appointment. And now I am going to get it relaxed.
I pray this turns out well. Support please (or discouragement if you feel so inclined
).
So I am sitting here with my hair in six fat plaits (request of my stylist) in anticipation of a 1:00 pm appointment to get my hair relaxed. I got my first, and up to this point, only, relaxer the summer before 8th grade. I remember the date so clearly because I was BEGGING my mother for a relaxer before school started because I was so tired of the kids teasing me about my natural hair, and after all, I was going into the EIGHTH GRADE (I felt SO grown at the time
After an unintentional transition (I just flat-ironed the new growth and never got another relaxer), I estimate that all the relaxed ends had fallen off by the time I was a junior in high school. Now, almost ten years later, I am "ready" to relax again.
...or maybe I am not. I have learned so much from this board, but I still have so much anxiety and apprehension about adding the chemicals. Last night my heart was literally racing as I thought about all the things that could potentially go wrong. I really thought I was going crazy a couple of days ago at work because I was thinking about the appointment and I felt like my hair was crying
My two reasons:
I am so tired of shrinkage. So, so, so, so, so tired of shrinkage. I like long hair. I like to SEE long hair. I HATE the way it starts off well below shoulder and then curls up into a non-moving, above-shoulder tent-like fro
I am so tired of the detangling time. So, so, so, so, so, so, SO, SO tired of taking an hour plus to detangle fully. I know that one solution- suggested by friends who do not want me to perm- is to cut my hair. But this defeats the whole purpose of growing it long. I do miss the days when it took only five minutes to comb through in the shower and pull it back into a gorgeous puff. No more
Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I am sorry for this long post. I guess I just need to see my thoughts in writing so they can stop swirling around in my head
I pray this turns out well. Support please (or discouragement if you feel so inclined