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SmartyPants · Sep 22, 2008

This (black) woman at my job has this really greasy, stringy looking hair. Today was the first time I got a close look at her hair. Stuck to that greasy stringy mess was dandruff--and not just on the scalp, it was all down the strands!

I alternated between wanting to throw up and wanting to ask her when was the last time she washed her damn hair. :wallbash:

How can you show up for your job--she's a social worker for the juvenile court--looking like that on a Monday morning when you've been off the whole weekend?!

~*Tigget*~ · Sep 22, 2008

Yea I grew up w/ a girl that didn't believe in washing her hair. But sistah girl had the longest thickest hair. She wore a "jerry" curl, so it was always STANK!!! Her mother had long waist length hair, but it was natural. I don't think she washed her hair very much either.

Did you notice a smell from her hair? You know a lot of ppl don't like to wash their hair, because they say it helps it to grow. But if it is visibly dirty and has a smell.....BE COURTEOUS & WASH IT!!

Divine_Order · Sep 22, 2008

In between hair appointments? I'm sure there are still some folks out there whose hair only gets washed when they are getting it done. Other than that, they don't fool with it. :ohwell:

dlewis · Sep 22, 2008

Tigget75 said:
Yea I grew up w/ a girl that didn't believe in washing her hair. But sistah girl had the longest thickest hair. She wore a "jerry" curl, so it was always STANK!!! Her mother had long waist length hair, but it was natural. I don't think she washed her hair very much either.

Did you notice a smell from her hair? You know a lot of ppl don't like to wash their hair, because they say it helps it to grow. But if it is visibly dirty and has a smell.....BE COURTEOUS & WASH IT!!

My coworkers mother believes this.

I met a member here who's brother girlfriend only washed twice a year and her hair was waist length. :yep:

SmartyPants · Sep 22, 2008

Divine_Order said:
In between hair appointments? I'm sure there are still some folks out there whose hair only gets washed when they are getting it done. Other than that, they don't fool with it.

My mom only gets her hair washed every two weeks. This mess is much longer than two weeks worth of greasy mess! It doesn't help that she's overweight and dresses sloppily. Her whole appearance is unprofessional. the hair just capped it off. I didn't get close enough to smell--but she looks like the kind of person who would stink!

BrownEyez22 · Sep 22, 2008

I have a close friend who always had nice length hair BSL-Mid Back. During that time she hated washing her hair. If her beautician or mom did not wash it, it did not get done. Thankfully she went regularly to have it fixed. It never smelled or looked dirty though.

Now she has it cut a shorter length and she will wash it.....IF SHE HAS TO.

Edit: Oh...I forgot to say that lady just sounds gross though, some ppl at least rinse or brush out visible dirt

Zenobia61 · Sep 22, 2008

It all just sounds NASTY....maybe a discreetly left note would help

Neith · Sep 22, 2008

At one time, my mom didn't wash my hair much either. It was some weird phase she went through, trying to grow my hair. She would wash my hair maybe once a month. She would braid it and grease it up once a week.

HOWEVER, if my hair was ever stink or full of dandruff like that, I would have to get it washed.

I don't see how a grown woman could walk around with any part of her noticeably dirty like that... ignorant of good hair care practices or not. Hopefully some day she'll figure it out!

wannabelong · Sep 22, 2008

That is just nasty. I hope she washes it sooner rather than later.

~*Tigget*~ · Sep 22, 2008

dlewis said:
My coworkers mother believes this.

I met a member here who's brother girlfriend only washed twice a year and her hair was waist length.

You know I've never heard that not washing your hair inhibits it from growing. But it sure is not the most attractive method to haircare. I have braided hair of ppl who refuse to wash and had to clarify my nails afterwards. I have stopped that though. If the hair is not clean IM NOT DOING IT!

naijamerican · Sep 22, 2008

If a woman is walking around with such severe dandruff problems, looking unkempt and whatnot (based on the OP's description of her), she probably has some other issues going on that need to be dealt with. If that's the case then her hair is but a manifestation of the jackedupness in her life. It doesn't make logical sense to walk around like that. Perhaps she's depressed and/or is working through some other mental health issues. Maybe she's grieving. Who knows?

Or maybe, just maybe, she doesn't have a mirror and thinks its cute to have dirty hair and/or things crawling in it? I mean I'm at a loss. Wouldn't your scalp itch? Mine would. :perplexed:

seashell · Sep 22, 2008

I heard that!

Ramya · Sep 22, 2008

yuck. I had to tell a girl in one of my classes to wash her hair. It was gross. i offered to do it for her for free b/c I couldn't take it :nono:

bermudabeauty · Sep 22, 2008

OMG. Maybe you can send her a link to LHCF keep up your hygene thread. LOL

Divine_Order · Sep 22, 2008

SmartyPants said:
My mom only gets her hair washed every two weeks. This mess is much longer than two weeks worth of greasy mess! It doesn't help that she's overweight and dresses sloppily. Her whole appearance is unprofessional. the hair just capped it off. I didn't get close enough to smell--but she looks like the kind of person who would stink!

Well dang

Um...well, if her hair is a mess...and if she's coming to work any old kinda way she either has some personal issues going on in her life (depressed), or maybe she just don't care. I wonder how the supervisor's feel about her unprofessional appearence though.

apemay1969 · Sep 22, 2008

My 16 yo stepdaughter won't wash her hair when she has micros in. Sometimes she keeps them in for 4 or 5 months. Sometimes I think she does this to drive me crazy. :lachen:

Casarela · Sep 22, 2008

I remember in highschool this black BRITNEY adopted by a white french canadian family. She was wearing this darkkk brown purple...ish greasy foundation over her serious acne . She would wear extensions for 8-9 months in a row w/o washing. People would make fun of her so badly.. even her own friends behind her back. Ive always wanted to tell her that its not right what shes doing and help her out but the girl was such a OHMYGOD girl ..I avoided her. I remember as a teenager my mouth was really dirty and one bad comment or something I wouldve insulted her real bad. Butshe wasnt the only one ...plenty of girls were wearing braids and not washing for 2-3 months EASILY....but black britney set the GUINESS record in the school .

SmartyPants · Sep 22, 2008

And just to show I am not one to preach but not practice, I am off to wash my hair. I just spent four hours in a place where people were smoking--a lot. I took off the clothes and I can still smell the smoke in my hair.

{{{{{shudders}}}}}

BostonMaria · Sep 23, 2008

The description just made me gag

MA2010 · Sep 23, 2008

She needs to go ahead and wash that mess! That's so unprofessional. Try to slip her a note on the sly!!!! Please!!!

la flaca · Sep 23, 2008

SmartyPants said:
This (black) woman at my job has this really greasy, stringy looking hair. Today was the first time I got a close look at her hair. Stuck to that greasy stringy mess was dandruff--and not just on the scalp, it was all down the strands!

I alternated between wanting to throw up and wanting to ask her when was the last time she washed her damn hair.

How can you show up for your job--she's a social worker for the juvenile court--looking like that on a Monday morning when you've been off the whole weekend?!

Give her the the website woman!! That's what I do, when I see the need I just tell them about the board :grin:

anon123 · Sep 23, 2008

Now, now, let's be careful. Weight does not have anything to do with a professional appearance. But the dirty hair and sloppy clothes, yuck. I don't care how much anyone's hair is growing, hygiene is far more important. I think one's values are misplaced if one would rather have stinky dandruff hair than shorter clean hair. Normally I would say to each his own, but other people have to be around you and no one should be made to vomit in their mouths every time you pass by. :nono:

Perhaps she does have issues and these are a manifestation of them, but let her go to the bar and drink it off / sit in the closet and rock back and forth / burn effigies of past lovers for emotional release like the rest of us.

Wow, I just reread that, dang I sound mean. And coming from someone who went through depression. Still, being hygienic is a very basic part of life and that needs to be taken care of before it impacts her ability to keep a job.

DanaDane · Sep 23, 2008

mwedzi said:
I don't care how much anyone's hair is growing, hygiene is far more important. I think one's values are misplaced if one would rather have stinky dandruff hair than shorter clean hair .

I totally agree--the thanks button wasn't enough.

MissMeWithThatIsh · Sep 23, 2008

I'm starting to think the reason why people think never washing your hair is good is due to the fact that your hair will possibly grow from the low manipulation regimen.

d-rock · Sep 23, 2008

I would call out sick before I'd come to work with dirty, smelly hair. And when your hair is that dirty, you know it. You can smell it too, I'd be too self-conscious to walk around like that all day.

SparklingFlame · Sep 23, 2008

Divine_Order said:
In between hair appointments? I'm sure there are still some folks out there whose hair only gets washed when they are getting it done. Other than that, they don't fool with it.

I used to do that. :giggle:

Channie · Sep 23, 2008

Divine_Order said:
In between hair appointments? I'm sure there are still some folks out there whose hair only gets washed when they are getting it done. Other than that, they don't fool with it.

My mom does that, and only gets her hair done once a month. Her hair is shoulder length and it's damaged up to her jawline. I want her to cut it off so bad, but of course she won't. And she wonders why she gets the "frizzes" when she hits some humidity, talking about she needs a perm (on her ends). Clearly it's heat damage cause she flat irons it every morning, dirty... Man, I could go on... :wallbash:

Neith · Sep 23, 2008

mwedzi said:
Now, now, let's be careful. Weight does not have anything to do with a professional appearance. But the dirty hair and sloppy clothes, yuck. I don't care how much anyone's hair is growing, hygiene is far more important. I think one's values are misplaced if one would rather have stinky dandruff hair than shorter clean hair. Normally I would say to each his own, but other people have to be around you and no one should be made to vomit in their mouths every time you pass by. Perhaps she does have issues and these are a manifestation of them, but let her go to the bar and drink it off / sit in the closet and rock back and forth / burn effigies of past lovers for emotional release like the rest of us.

Wow, I just reread that, dang I sound mean. And coming from someone who went through depression. Still, being hygienic is a very basic part of life and that needs to be taken care of before it impacts her ability to keep a job.

I agree. Of course there are some sloppy, overweight people, but there are also sloppy, skinny people.

Being bigger or being fat doesn't automatically mean ugly or less attractive. We all come in different sizes and shapes. Maybe you don't personally feel that overweight people are the most attractive, but that doesn't mean that everyone finds us to be less attractive or undesireable. That is a personal preference, not a rule of the land that everyone abides by.

Not that I'm very offended, but being a big girl myself... I'm just tired of letting little comments like that go. As if skinny women rule the world. :lol:

Not meant to offend anyone.

There I go getting off topic yet again. :spinning:

Sounds like the woman needs some help. If you are friendly with her, why not give her a little pep talk? Sometimes the smallest acts of kindness make all the difference in someone who is depressed.

Neith · Sep 23, 2008

sorry, repeated posting

Neith · Sep 23, 2008

sorry, repeated posting

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