Can there be TOO MUCH attention??

model_chick717 · Feb 3, 2005

Hey ladies...lately, I've been wearing my hair in buns a lot and I try to fool myself in to thinking it's because I'm "protecting" my hair with protective styles....but really, it's because it seems like lately my hair is getting too much attention--and I feel like I'm being stared at on the street. Don't know if they're good or bad stares--but, stares, no less.

THx to all the info that I get on here--my hair is growing like a weed and when I wear it loose, it does look rather big. I'm sure with all the ladies on the board with such beautiful and long hair, someone can relate. Are you finding that as you reach your hair goals that you're hiding your hair more because of the attention it gets?

kombov_dymond · Feb 3, 2005

*LOL* MC is getting those.."I know she's got some tracks in there" kinda looks...prolly 'cause your hair is so THICK...and pretty....

Cut out the bunning and let it FLOW!! :yep:

KinksnCurlz · Feb 3, 2005

I think the stares r probably more along the lines of "is that all her hair", "can't be hers", "she must be mixed" and the other dumb @ss statements that women of color usually receive. I myself hate it when ppl try to imply that my hair isn't all mine and make dumb @ss comments like I'd be stupid enuf to pretend weave hair is mine... :look:

Sorry, I digress :rofl:

I wear my hair in protective styles basically b/c it's easy for me to handle. When I wear my hair out, i'm swinging it like the hips on a gay dude partying all nite at a Rave. :rofl:

Sorry, i have to much time on my hands today. Back to your question... i think u should be proud of your hair... wear it out more... shake that thang... don't be ashamed of what God gave you, be proud girl. You have very pretty hair, don't hide it.

*sorry for the rant... LOL

melodee · Feb 3, 2005

Model, my daddy always said " People are looking at you because you're pretty" whenever I'd ask about staring. I think that is applicable to your situation.

Miss_Jetsetter · Feb 3, 2005

Well actually Model, when I saw you that day at the mall, it was your hair that caught my attention before I actually saw your face!! I was like "Greeeat DAY that's a lot of hair!!"

But I found it interesting how my sis, who isn't even into hair like that, walked away saying "Dang, i wish i could get mine to do that...it's so pretty" So go figure.

i guess that people just like looking at things that intrigue them.

Lindy · Feb 3, 2005

model_chick717 said:
lately my hair is getting too much attention--and I feel like I'm being stared at on the street. Don't know if they're good or bad stares--but, stares, no less.

I don't know... I think I would try to determine whether they're good stares or bad... it would make me feel really self-conscious if it seemed like people were staring at my hair all the time... :look:

Sometimes you can tell by the expression on people's faces what they're thinking...

AllMine · Feb 3, 2005

melodee said:
Model, my daddy always said " People are looking at you because you're pretty" whenever I'd ask about staring. I think that is applicable to your situation.

I agree, they're probably wondering if you are someone famous they recognize...as much as I stalk your BP page :sekret:

I'd be staring too if I saw you in person

model_chick717 · Feb 3, 2005

Thx ya'll for the compliments--but seriously, I'm not trying to "brag" in this thread. haha There are many on this board that if I saw you on the street, I'd probably stair at your hair too! So I was just wonderng if sometimes the stares, questions, comments, etc. sometime deter you from wearing your hair loose at times....

model_chick717 · Feb 3, 2005

AllMine said:
I agree, they're probably wondering if you are someone famous they recognize...as much as I stalk your BP page I'd be staring too if I saw you in person

haha...Well, sign my guestbook, girl! haha :lol:

sassygirl125 · Feb 3, 2005

CaramelHonee said:
I think the stares r probably more along the lines of "is that all her hair", "can't be hers", "she must be mixed" and the other dumb @ss statements that women of color usually receive.

I agree. I know I look at women with big hair because I like big hair. :yep:

I stopped complimenting women on their hair because most of them got mad or were kind of nasty in their responses.

I think some of them even thought I was hitting on them. :ill:

So when I look I'm sure they are wondering, "Why is she looking at me?"

KAddy · Feb 3, 2005

melodee said:
Model, my daddy always said " People are looking at you because you're pretty" whenever I'd ask about staring. I think that is applicable to your situation.

I would have to agree. Your Avatar is fabulous!!!!

brownhaired_bonanza · Feb 3, 2005

model_chick717 said:
Hey ladies...lately, I've been wearing my hair in buns a lot and I try to fool myself in to thinking it's because I'm "protecting" my hair with protective styles....but really, it's because it seems like lately my hair is getting too much attention--and I feel like I'm being stared at on the street. Don't know if they're good or bad stares--but, stares, no less.

THx to all the info that I get on here--my hair is growing like a weed and when I wear it loose, it does look rather big. I'm sure with all the ladies on the board with such beautiful and long hair, someone can relate. Are you finding that as you reach your hair goals that you're hiding your hair more because of the attention it gets?

I feel your pain, girl. I'm afraid to wear my hair down straight because people stare. Sounds petty, but it's true. When my hair is curly and big (in-between salon appointments) i try to tame it as best as I can. I like my hair long but i'm not fond of the attention i get when I wear it out. I sooo can't wait to have it done in a french twist/updo again. I can be rather shy. I wonder if this is the reason for my fears... :ohwell:

BohemianChic · Feb 3, 2005

I understand exactly what you are saying. A few weeks ago I went to dinner with some friends and I wore my hair in a twist out. It was really cute and even my freinds commented on how cute the style was on me. Well, everywhere we went after dinner folks were kinda eyeballing :eek:

. It was a sobering to say the least. I couldn't tell if people were just curious, or staring just to be staring. So in answer to your question.....Yes!

However, I will admit that I rarely care what people think of my hair, because during my transistion everybody had an opinion. The way I see it, I could hide my hair, to avoid the stares, or I could just enjoy my hair! Shoot, if I add some water to the mix, people would really stare! :lol:

I say, stop hiding those beautiful locks and rock that hair gurl! :grin:

Britt · Feb 3, 2005

MC, what is your hair regimen? You have a beautiful head of texturized hair. I know that u like Suave Milk and Honey and Elasta Mango butter. I guess im trying to figure out how u handle texturized hair. How often do u wash, do u deep condition and always airdry? In a colder climate, airdrying all that hair would be a hassle. Can u get the same curly results from drying with heat?

model_chick717 · Feb 3, 2005

Britt said:
MC, what is your hair regimen? You have a beautiful head of texturized hair. I know that u like Suave Milk and Honey and Elasta Mango butter. I guess im trying to figure out how u handle texturized hair. How often do u wash, do u deep condition and always airdry? In a colder climate, airdrying all that hair would be a hassle. Can u get the same curly results from drying with heat?

That's basically all I use--Suave Milk & Honey Shampoo and Conditioner, and for styling--Coconut oil, Elast QP Mango Butter, Loosely Defined and Fantasia IC Gel (different combinations of all these). I wet my hair everyday in the shower and either bun-it or I use to airdry--but now I diffuse with a cool blowdry. I've learned to stretch out the curls and show more length by using the blowdrier. I CW most days--actually shampoo like once every two days....

model_chick717 · Feb 3, 2005

@ BohemianChick and brownhaired_bonanza--okay, I KNEW I wasn't the only one to feel this way! I guess it has a lot to do with the setting as well. When I'm clubbing/hanging out--it's all good, but I'm starting to feel like my hair is getting to be a little too big for "daytime" wear. Can any natural/texturized or other ladies with "big hair" issues relate?

Chinagem · Feb 3, 2005

Who care's if they are good stares or bad stares. I say they are all good stares until somebody actually has the nerve to say something bad about your hair. There's no need to concern yourself with what's in the mind of everybody that passes you by that may be looking at you. Do you have it going on? Ok then, people are bound to look at it. They can't help it. Just sit back and enjoy it. Instead of even letting a negative thing enter in your head, just make up your own little thought for what they are thinking.

sylver2 · Feb 3, 2005

Wow! You are very pretty and your hair is gorgeous. I'm sorry but I would be staring at you too if you walked past me.
I would do it on the sly though.
I get stares all the time and I love it, its something they must like.

Poohbear · Feb 3, 2005

model_chick717 said:
--and I feel like I'm being stared at on the street. Don't know if they're good or bad stares--but, stares, no less.

I'm pretty sure they are GOOD stares...you and your hair are pretty!

Britt · Feb 3, 2005

model_chick717 said:
That's basically all I use--Suave Milk & Honey Shampoo and Conditioner, and for styling--Coconut oil, Elast QP Mango Butter, Loosely Defined and Fantasia IC Gel (different combinations of all these). I wet my hair everyday in the shower and either bun-it or I use to airdry--but now I diffuse with a cool blowdry. I've learned to stretch out the curls and show more length by using the blowdrier. I CW most days--actually shampoo like once every two days....

Thanks!
What brand makes loosely defined?

Allandra · Feb 3, 2005

model_chick717 said:
Hey ladies...lately, I've been wearing my hair in buns a lot and I try to fool myself in to thinking it's because I'm "protecting" my hair with protective styles....but really, it's because it seems like lately my hair is getting too much attention--and I feel like I'm being stared at on the street. Don't know if they're good or bad stares--but, stares, no less.

THx to all the info that I get on here--my hair is growing like a weed and when I wear it loose, it does look rather big. I'm sure with all the ladies on the board with such beautiful and long hair, someone can relate. Are you finding that as you reach your hair goals that you're hiding your hair more because of the attention it gets?

I can relate. This is one of the reasons why I don't wear my hair down at work (TOO MUCH ATTENTION). I'd rather wear my bun and be low key. :grin:

Chicoro · Feb 3, 2005

I think you're gorgeous, and if I saw you, I'd be nudging whomever I was with saying, "Dang, she's pretty, huh?! Ooh, look at her hair, too."

Once, I had just gotten my hair done and was in the store. This man was staring at me with the, "Is she black look?" My mother, who is dark brown with full features, just came into the aisle. I looked at him and said, "Yes, I am black and that's my mom over there," and pointed at her. He looked at me and then he looked at my mom and his eyes got really big. He just turned and walked away after that. I felt bad afterwards but I think that may have been the 20th stare down of that day. My mom just chuckled. Now, I just try to smile back at people when they stare. Some guy, sitting behind me in an adjoining booth lightly "picked through" my hair once when I was sitting in a booth eating a burger. I guess he was looking for tracks. I will take the stares over that any day. I hope you continue to wear your hair out!

TigerLily · Feb 3, 2005

I'll be glad when my hair gets sooo big people stare at it!!!!!!!

*hint hint, hair. Hint, hint*

skegeesmb · Feb 3, 2005

I wear my hair up a lot because the guys at work are quite annoying when I wear my hair down. I do wear it out sometimes in when I'm not at work.

My co-worker wears a lot of braided styles and the male members we help LOVE when she wears her braids long and curly. Yuck, too much attention for my taste.

"Who's your new co-worker with the long hair?"
"Did ske get fired?"
"Ooh are you going on a hot date tonight?"

The comments would be cool, but when on a busy day 150 or men say the same durn things, you want to pull your hair out.

I don't care if women comment.

alibi · Feb 3, 2005

Hey Model,

I understand what you're saying about big hair being too big at times. I LOVE big hair, but sometimes I think it can be too funky and sexy for work. For example, yesterday I had a guy tell me that my hair oozed sex...I was like um, :look:

? Anyways, I love it for the weekend, but I usually try to tone it down and not draw as much attention at work. But when you have nice hair, people are gonna stare regardless...I'm sure they're doing the subtle track inspection :scratchch :lol:

. But you need to rock your hair how you're comfortable, period. If you like it big, rock it and let 'em stare!

webby · Feb 3, 2005

Chicoro said:
I think you're gorgeous, and if I saw you, I'd be nudging whomever I was with saying, "Dang, she's pretty, huh?! Ooh, look at her hair, too."

I was going to say the same thing. People are going to stare at you no matter what you do, because your beautiful AND because you have beautiful hair.

You just caint help yaself

kristina · Feb 3, 2005

Girl, i was right about to post about how i'm too shy to even wear my twist outs- i'm at school and i don't really enjoy getting crazy attention during the day.

lisatamika · Feb 3, 2005

Funny u mention this . . . when my hair is down or even just in a loose ponytail, if I feel somebody staring, I will will pin it up :lol:

Guess I kinda like to keep 'em guessin'!

PretteePlease · Feb 3, 2005

i love big hair too but the few times i unleashed the fro to attention was overwhelming
its funny because my twist out does not have the same effect its been under wraps for the last 2 months but at the end of feb i will welcome any and all fro attention

amy1234 · Feb 3, 2005

I can definantley relate... I was actually going to post a similar topic about people staring but I didn't think anyone else could relate. Firstly, I think its kind of rude to stare at someone in the first place. Makes a person feel like something is wrong with them. And you don't want to stare back at them because they'll think your trying to send a signal or something. On the inside this is what I feel like :swearing:

and on the out side I feel like this :blush2:

ok just wanted to vent

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