So I listened to a snippet of a radio programme today. The topic was "Forgive and Forget". I, personally, struggle with the forget part. The facilitator made some good points:
- God has already forgiven the person
- Forgiving someone doesn't mean that they will not change their ways. It is us to change how we interact with that person (if they person doesn't change) to change the impact of that person's actions on us. That could involve changing what we do, what responsibility we give that person etc.
- Forgiveness doesn't cure someone. We forgive expecting the person to change and then get upset when he/she doesn't, when forgiveness itself, is not a cure.