I am experimenting with detangling methods on my hair. I've tried dry and coated hair , got breakage. I've tried in the shower wet with conditioner, which works. I've tried with just my fingers under the showerhead, which works fantastically especially to get rid of sheds. I've tried with a detangler. I just purchased the mane n tail detangler which I've used in the past. So I was trying to detangle it after washing and for some reason it was making my hair stick together and kind of hard (could be the cowash I used), so I ditched it and started combing out my naked, damp hair with nothing on it. Believe it or not, it worked so well! I think one issue I may have with using product to detangle is it sometimes makes my hair stick together, or the coils and curls clump which, because they're so little, makes it hard to comb through. So naked, conditioned hair with no product doesn't stick together, curls aren't forming and clumping making it easier to get the comb through. And the hair is also in a more stretched out state, so it doesn't re-tangle either.
Another thing that helps my hair is a good strengthening conditioner. I feel conditioned for 10 mins with that silicon Dominican conditioner and my hair basically detangle itself in the shower. I bet if I had tried to detangle naked, damp hair yesterday, my results would have been even better.
I'm starting to realize that my hair may do better with less product. I know it likes to be shampooed regularly, it likes protein, and now I think it may like to be detangled without product. This may be because my hair is on the finer end of the spectrum. I'm not sure I can call it fine, but it's definitely not coarse.