But they are great! Educate us...
Ok, here is the first part of what I wrote:
The scripture tells us that the greatest thing we can do is to love. (I Corinthians 13:13.) When my husband and I first met, I was just so darned happy and excited about the fact that here was a really nice-looking Christian guy who seemed to like me. I was even more excited once I realized that he REALLY like me and wanted a relationship – a real relationship. But then… when he uttered those magical words “I Love You,” well, as many of you probably can imagine, that was just the ultimate, next to him asking me to marry him. So, we proclaim our love for one another and everything is just wonderful. We love being around each other, we love talking to one another, we can’t wait until the next time we see each other. We spend late nights talking on the phone into the wee hours of the morning and it’s all wonderful because WE LOVE EACH OTHER. But what we were really experiencing was just the romantic side of love -- not the type of love necessary to sustain a marriage over the long haul and certainly not the type of love God says we should have. It’s only the love found in I Corinthians 13 that’s going to sustain a marriage through the challenges of life. So, I challenge all your single ladies to take a look at I Corinthians ask yourself how close you are to being prepared to exhibit this kind of love toward your potential husband. As you read these passages of scripture, you’ll probably find that none of them are remotely close to the warm and fuzzy feelings when have when we first say those magical words.
Love is Patient
How patient are you? How many times do you give someone to make a mistake before your patience runs out and you’re ready to “get with them?” How tolerant are you? How long are you willing to endure with someone? Marriage requires patience – patience while you figure out personality differences, gender differences, quirks, habits, pet peeves. After 13 years my husband still leaves the toilet seat up sometimes, but it’s ok – I know how to put it down and every now and then I gently remind him about it the same way he reminds me to close the cabinet doors. One of these days, it will become a habit for both of us.
Love is Kind
How kind are you – not when everything is going well, but during those times when you’re tired and you’ve worked all day and you’re grouchy? Can you still speak a kind word or have a kind attitude when you least feel like it? How kind are you when you’re “PMS-ing?”
Love Is Not Rude
Ever noticed how polite we are when we meet someone new? We say “please” and “thank you.” We ask things of each other politely (“will you,” “would you mind”) You don’t get a pass on being rude once prince charming gives you a ring. Don’t front while you’re in the dating stages and then turn into this monster after you say “I Do.” Start taking note of how you deal with others now. It might be an indication of the areas you need to work on in a future relationship.
Love is Not Self-Seeking
Four words: IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU. The next time you get irritated with someone, count the number of “I” or “Me” statements. More often than not, the things we get irritated about are rooted in self: I didn’t get my way, I was inconvenienced, I wanted to do…. Do you see the common thread: I – it’s all about me. It’s not all about YOU in a marriage. It’s not just about YOUR wants, YOUR desires, YOUR needs. It’s about the relationship and that sometimes means putting your stuff on the backburner for the sake of the spouse and the relationship. BUT, if your spouse is also practicing Godly love, He will seek to serve YOU and not himself which will result in you serving one another, as God intended.