Abstinence Challenge 365, 24-7

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  1. sugaplum

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    [size=+1]“Challenge for Christian Single Ladies”[/size]

    This challenge is to encourage my sisters to stay celibate & live for God. I feel that we as Christian women, we should respect our bodies and hold it sacred. Sex is a special gift that should be shared in marriage and it should not be dragged in the mud (like pornagraphy, videos, etc.). The Christian is called to live a life of unselfish love. Abstinence should always seek to glorify God and buildup fellow believers in the faith.

    The Rules are:

    1) No late night dates when initially meeting someone-especially if you are not a strong christian yet. No clubbing and no living together.

    1 Thessalonians 5:22-23 - Abstain from all appearance of evil. And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

    2) No type of sexual contact (having sex, impure thoughts, oral sex, masturbation, etc.) and no sexual immorality.

    Colossians 3:5 - Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: fornication, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

    Ephesians 5:5 - Be sure of this, that no fornicator or impure man, or one who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

    The Apostle Paul was never married. He followed Christ and used God’s teachings. Apostle Paul said, “The Believers body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should not be polluted by unclean things.”

    1 Corinthians 6 19-20 - Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

    Paul also exhorted the church of Thessalonians to “abstain from sexual immorality.”

    1 Thessalonians 4:3-For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from fornication;

    Holy Spirit Check---Also your Holy Spirit will let you know when you are not doing God's Will. :yep:

    FINAL NOTE-The only reason for breaking this challenge----
    [size=+2]IS IF YOU GET MARRIED!![/size]:dinner:

    Genesis 2:23-24 - Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man."Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.

    :angel:I will pray for all of you that this challenge will make you stronger in your faith, closer to God, following Jesus's path, and I rebuke anyone and anything that will try and stop you from getting the Prize.

    God Bless you ladies. :rosebud:
     
  2. Poohbear

    Poohbear FearfullyWonderfullyMade

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    You know I'm already in this challenge! ;) God intends sex ONLY for marriage. I can't wait until I get married! :grin:
     
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    This is great, count me in! I've been celibate for over 1 year now, though I still struggle in my mind a lot, but I'm wholeheartedly trying to honour God with my body and mind! I haven't dated yet since becoming a Christian, but I hope to follow those guidelines when I do!
     
  4. sugaplum

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    Alright Poohbear & sithembile. :yay: What a blessing. :rosebud:

    That is wonderfull and I admire your strength and your steadfast will to serve God. :yep:
     
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    JuJuBoo Child of THE King!

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    :lachen::lachen::lachen: That part had me rollin! hahahaha!


    Yall know I'm in. :grin: Shoot. I'm already a virgin. What's another 2, 3, 8 .........10...............20 years........................................



    sigh........the Lord needs to bring my husband QUICK! :lol:
     
  6. LondonDiva

    LondonDiva New Member

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    :lachen: :lachen: :lachen: You know what I'm saying. Girl just be patient. You will be blessed tenfold when the lord does finally bring you together. It was 2 years for me January just gone.
     
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    Got your note Sugaplum. :kiss: You know I'm in. :yep:
     
  8. Poohbear

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    I'm a virgin as well but I've engaged in sexual thoughts,nakedness, and touching before. At the start of this year, my long-term boyfriend and I stopped all that MESS! We thank the Lord each day for delivering us. :clap: We hardly even kiss anymore!:lol:
     
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    I will be praying for you ladies! Stay strong.:yep:
     
  10. Koffie

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    I'm in...... I just wish I was a virgin.... *****sighs and exits thread******
     
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    JuJuBoo Child of THE King!

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    GIRL! U betta gettcha booty back in here!

    Trust me, those of us that are virgins are probably holdin on by a thread! :lachen:....at least I am.........



    going to pray now. :look:
     
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  12. MomofThreeBoys

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    I'm married but just wanted to give a word of encouragement to you ladies!!! Hold fast to the promises of God and he will not just meet your needs but exceed your expectations! You are all in my prayers!

    Be blessed!
     
  13. Koffie

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    I'm back, What's up?
     
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    JuJuBoo Child of THE King!

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    haha, I edited my post above!
     
  15. MomofThreeBoys

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    2 Corinthians 5:17
    Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
     
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    I was about to post this scripture for Koffie! :grin: So Koffie, if you repent and turn away from sexual sin, you will be a virgin in God's eyes. ;)
     
  17. Koffie

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    Here's a stupid question, but here it goes:

    Soooo, am I a virgin? :look:
     
  18. Koffie

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    I saw Pooh's post.;)
     
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    In the eyes of the world no, but....

    I'm not God but he does say

    Psalm 103:12
    As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.

    I John 1:9
    If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness

    Jeremiah 31:34
    For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.


    Is God able to restore us? Yes!
     
  20. sugaplum

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    Thank you natalied for your words of encouragement. :kiss:

    Koffie, I'm not a virgin either, so I'm learning something new here myself. Thanks Poohbear. :rosebud:

    Koffie, I started this challenge becuase I've turned my life completly around and want to follow God's Will. I'm waiting for "the one" that God will send to me. IMHO, all these other men that are not who God sent for me, can take a back seat. :driver: :lol:

    Since I've made this change I feel like I am a new creature. :angel: I am no longer a slave from my past instead I use the past as a stepping stone.

    God Bless you and thnak you for joining DSD, LondonDiva, & JuuJuu Boo:wave:

    HEEEEYYYYY CCCAAARRRRLLLIIIEEE GIIIRRRRLL :lol: :wave:
     
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  21. Poohbear

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    Here is a message that may help... taken from Pray4Freedom's blackplanet page:

    ?Why is sex (before marriage) so bad when it feels so good?


    Well there are obvious reasons such as:
    1. Diseases, there are some you can get rid of and some that you can`t such as HIV which later turns into AIDS...you get this one, you know your gonna die. (In the U.S., 1 in 4 sexually active teens become infected with an STD every year {that`s a lot}. Some common STDs are chlamydia, gonorrhea, genital warts (also known as HPV - human papillomavirus), and herpes)
    2. Teen pregnancy or adult UNPLANNED pregnancy.
    3. Guilt
    4. Loss of respect

    But the number one reason to consider NOT doing it is because God says not to.

    1Corinthians 6:18-20 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know your body is a temple of the holy spirit, who is in you, whom you received from God? You are not your own; you were brought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.(NIV)


    Easier said than done huh?

    Well, anything is possible when you have God on your side! Even stopping yourself from having sex again until marriage.


    ****For YOUNG Girls****

    YOU DON`T HAVE TO DO IT! You don`t have to have sex with a boy to make him like you. You don`t have to have sex because he pressures you. You have so much power do you realize that? We as women have power!!

    If he decides to leave when you tell him no, let him go. More than likely a little boy doesn`t care that much about you anyway. He cares about himself. He will say he loves you, wants to marry you, he will die for you blah blah BLAH! All lies.

    Remember GOD loves you and wants you to be happy! I`ll be frank with you, a lot of young boys are out to see how much sex they can get. They will use you and throw you away like Monday`s garbage.
    WATCH OUT!


    ****For OLDER Women****

    Sad to say but some grown men do the same. My momma always told me that a man will only do as much to you as you let him. I know that to be true. But I had to learn the hard way.
    ****Lastly Please Don`t Strive To Be A Video Girl! ****
    Your Better Than That!





    STOP!

    Stop being simple minded
    Stop being desperate
    Stop being pitiful
    Stop being naive
    Stop letting him do you like that!!




    START!

    Start living for God
    Start making better decisions
    Start being happy
    Start loving yourself
    Start over TODAY!!



    (Sex is supposed to be enjoyable but between a husband and wife, I don`t want to disappoint God again in that way)




    1. Tell yourself daily that you are beautiful
    2. Tell yourself daily you are smart
    3. When negative thoughts come around it`s okay to tell them to go away
    4. Talk back to the devil when he tries to take your joy

    ABOVE ALL, TALK TO GOD!! Talk to him like he`s sitting beside you. God is your friend, remember that. And he hears you even when you don`t think he does.
     
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    Thank you for sharing all this info Poohbear. :yep:

    I espcially agreed with this qoute here becuase no matter what it is I'm doing (chillin' at home, talking to someone, at work, eating, etc), I pretend that Jesus is right with me. If I'm eating, He's right at the table with me, when I'm watching TV on the couch, he's right with me. I think to myself "Would Jesus watch this Tv show," or "Would Jesus approve of the music I'm listening too?"

    I think this way becuase He is apart of my life.
     
  23. Poohbear

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    I also talk as if He is right there beside me in person. :yep: I go through the same thought process as you do sometimes when doing certain things and what He would say about them.

    Btw, you don't have to pretend because Jesus really is right there! ;) :D
     
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    Great post Sugaplum, Hey you know I'm in!
    I'm remaining pure until I get married.:)
     
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    I hope YALL have fun, and achieve YALL goals.
     
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    You're right, Poohbear. :yep: I will keep this in mindset.

    Hey Cinna, welcome to the challenge & God Bless You. :yay:

    Thank you divine for your support. :)
     
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    This is so wonderful! I'm glad someone started this. I'd also like to be counted in this challenge.
     
  28. pebbles

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    Wonderful thread!! Y'all know I'm in! LOL! Be blessed, ladies! :kiss:
     
  29. BlkHoneyLuv2U

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    Yea!!! I'm the winner LOL been manless, sexless for over five years now. I can do it, you can do it, WE CAN DO IT. Ahhh not do it that is. :grin: Just remember God will keep those who want to be kept.
     
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    I know that I will never be worthy for God. Ever. It's a little disempowering. I lost my virginity to a guy i thought i was in love with when i was 17/18. Sometimes i regret it because my walk with God has not been the same. The guilt kills me. Not because I think sex is bad, but because it was like letting my father down. Like i disappointed a friend. And that is exactly what I did. I feel even after i ended it, i still feel lost. We'll see..
     

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