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StarScream35

Well-Known Member
I'm burnin' and burnin' for too long..............I think I'm about to cave in and on top of that with the wrong guy!
 

sunshinelove

New Member
The only reason I subscribed to LHCF is because I was feeling the topics and the support system that you ladies have on here. This is my second post. I am in. I m really feeling the Christian Fellowship group!
I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he doesn't support my desire to abstain from fornication in order to better my walk in Christ. ( ladies check out the post if you'de like. I need all the advice I could get from fellow christians on that).


The great thing about your situation is in knowing that you did the right thing. God honors those who keep His statutes. If a man/dude cannot wait for you or agree with your decisions to better yourself and your walk with Christ...he was never the one for you. I applaud you for doing what is right as a Christian woman.
 

nerdography

Well-Known Member
I'm going to join this challenge. I'm still a virgin, but I need to get my thoughts together and other things together :blush:

I've already removed the all exterior things that I owned that tempted me. Now I have to work on the things I can't get rid of :look:
 

StarScream35

Well-Known Member
I'm meeting lots of guy and gals who say before you marry you need to find out if you are sexually compatible meaning it needs to be taken around the block. And yes they were Christian so I'm confused. I know what the bible says but people aren't abiding by this and this huge emphasis on sex makes dating extremely difficult. Any thoughts??
 

fifi134

Well-Known Member
I'm meeting lots of guy and gals who say before you marry you need to find out if you are sexually compatible meaning it needs to be taken around the block. And yes they were Christian so I'm confused. I know what the bible says but people aren't abiding by this and this huge emphasis on sex makes dating extremely difficult. Any thoughts??

I'm not going to say that their views on premarital sex alone makes them not a Christian, but the fact that they straight up disregard God's word makes me side eye them. The world has infiltrated even those in the church to think they need to find one sexually compatible for them. God will handle all of that! We don't need to find anyone, especially as women; men pursue us, not the other way around.

It makes me sick that those who hear the word do not abide by it. And this goes for all believers, including myself, in regard to sin. We don't even realize how much power we have in His Word. All we can do is continue to pray; for ourselves and for those who have gone astray that God will direct in His path.
 

Laela

Sidestepping the "lynch mob"
Simply sharing this awesome, inspiring Testimony by singer Beckah Shae. I apologize it's so long, but worth every word to read.

Stay encouraged ladies! .
:yep:

Purity Testimony
My prayer is that whoever may take the time to read this will (receive) Gods immeasurable free gift of LOVE which contains FULL restoration, healing, wholeness, truth and Freedom!!! Only in KNOWING HIM will you find this True Joy!!! It’s AWESOME!!!

Amazing Grace, How Sweet the sound!!
That saved a wretch like ME!!!
I once was lost, but now I’m found!
I was blind, BUT NOW I SEE!!!!!……………

I once was snared and shackled by the enemy of selflessness, insecurity and self-worth. Along came depression, self-mutilation by means of bulimia, weight-loss pills, excessive working out, ex-lax…anything that would allow me to be in control, yet never fulfilling. I spoke death daily, saying I was ugly, fat, undeserving, unintelligent, unworthy, sinking in a pit of loneliness and despair, I felt unloved, unnoticed. I would hide behind my arms, big clothes, and people, never wanting to be exposed for who I really believed I was or appeared to be. I was robbed of my joy, freedom, and comfort. I could not even use my gift, I wouldn’t open my mouth to sing, because I was so concerned with the way others perceived me, so fearful that they saw me the same way I saw myself.

Once the devourer can convince you of who you aren’t, He knows it will be easier for you to receive FALSE LOVE. LUST.

So caught up in the flesh, the physical, forgetting about my spirit. I was soo consumed with every outer and superficial thing. My spirit was stripped of any strength. I neglected to feed my spirit and soul, I was malnourished, famished, hungry, emptied and starved!! Just like thirsting in a desert, a dry and weary land, you begin to see a mirage, illusions and believe they are real!! Because it’s what your desiring, without any hesitation you accept whatever comes. THIS IS THE STRATEGY OF THE ENEMY!!!
To convince you, to receive what his definition of you deserves.

I allowed myself to be robbed of my purity.
I went through horrible condemnation, shame and regret.
Only making this false definition the enemy has given seem more and more real.

Let me say one thing…….
My intentions were to save myself till marriage…..
I had held on till I was 21!
But not standing a single moment longer without the knowledge of what I’m sharing with you right now.

PLEASE HEAR !

Without full knowledge and revelation of WHO YOU ARE, you are standing on the enemies territory without any shield, covering or weapon. He has power, and He hates you, and is ultimately out to steal, kill and destroy you!!
As an enemy of God, He despises Love, Holiness, and Purity.

Romans 12:1
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.

I want to pour my heart out now……..

I once was shameful, a mess, yucky, dirty, filthy, so unworthy, with damaged dignity in all of my sins and faults and bruises. Self-pleasing, and Blind to this LOVE that has now changed my life. A love that is too hard for me to comprehend. A LOVE that has taken my brokenness, shame and embarrassment and has placed me high in a holy place seated with my Father!! A LOVE that has called me the righteousness of God!!? A LOVE that has pardoned me, and has thrown my filth as far as the east is from the west, and no-longer treats me as my sins deserve. A LOVE that has restored to me my Joy and has given me confidence again. A LOVE that sees me as worthy, and valuable, royalty and precious. A LOVE that has revealed Mercy and Truth with the sweetest compassion I have have ever known! A LOVE that would lay it’s own life down so I may live. A LOVE that compares to no-other LOVE I will ever know.

Oh! How AMAZING is your Love O God! I’m Overwhelmed as I write this!!

How Awesome, to think that you have covered all my sin and called me holy and pure.
I want nothing else but to honor you and praise you with my words, my deeds, my song,my body ,my marriage, my heart, my life!!

You have captured my soul and made me whole!! Halleluiah!! I AM FREE!!!
I want to shout from the mountain tops, I AM LOVED!!! and tell the world HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM!!!

To whoever is reading this….
If you have been raped of your worth, or have already made a decision to give yourself to someone other than your covenant partner, I want you to know that Gods mercy and grace is waiting to wrap itself around you and give you this indescribable LOVE that I am sharing with you!!! It’s never too late, Gods LOVE is BIG enough!! :0) haha Much bigger than you could ever imagine. Hes just waiting to lavish His love upon you and reveal to you TRUE LOVE.

GOD IS TRUE LOVE!!
1 John 4:8
But anyone who does not love does not know God, (for God is love).

Once you receive this LOVE, it’s no longer a matter of Jesus needing to make a payment on your behalf of your sins…… Because…..HE ALREADY DID!! You MUST just RECEIVE THIS TRUTH!! and KNOW that you KNOW that you KNOW!! You have been redeemed!! Isaiah 53

So beautiful is the lover of my soull!! He came and revealed His extravagant love to me. He swept me away in His forgiveness and mercy and gave me eyes to see myself the way He sees me. I began to let go of the cares and concerns of this world, the expectations and perceptions of man, and became complete in Him. Oh what FREEDOM!!!

I saw myself married!! To the King of Kings!! WOH!! What a LOVE affair!!!
and shortly after this revelation, God sent to me my greatest blessing and partner in this life, SHOC!!! ( My earthly Husband ).

When He met me he could see nothing less in me, but the Love of Jesus!! For I was sooo full and consumed with my new found freedom and transformation!! The Love of Christ, in all His purity and holiness covered me and I was clothed in righteousness as a beautiful butterfly!! :0) Shoc knew that Jesus was and always will be my one, true and first LOVE. The author and finisher of my faith. My beginning and end.

I was blown away by the integrity and character of my sweet friend in Shoc and quickly fell in love with his gentle, kind and pure heart. Amazed….as I watched him grow swiftly in spirit, His wisdom and knowledge increased tremendously and at times I was overwhelmed with the gift of such pure friendship and love.

When the veil was removed and we saw each other as covenant partners ( husband and wife )….there was no question that we would give any place for the enemy to steal from us the beauty and purity we had in each other!! We remained committed to the Lord and to purity until we were married!! Oh and how God blessed us even more!!!

I want to take this precious moment to honor my most blessed gift,
my husband Shoc!!
For He was a VIRGIN!! He saved himself for marriage!! We have been married for almost 6 years … August 15th!! Woohoo, and they have been the most wonderful and blessed years of my life!
With 2 beautiful little girls named Joy and Grace We are BLESSED!

Yes, young men and women……

Gods Perfect Will IS Worth Waiting For!
It is an AWESOME gift to give to your married partner!
I am filled with awe an wonder of Gods goodness and love towards me, that His grace was way more than enough!! Yet He goes beyond to throw my sins away to be forgotton, and then crown me with royalty…and shower me with awesome gifts!! A PURE Husband, an awesome and strong man of God who loves me like Jesus!!! WOW!!

I CELEBRATE ALL OF YOU WHO HAVE REMAINED COMMITTED TO THE LORD AND TO PURITY!!
Men I celebrate you!! and I encourage you to speak and share your convictions and holiness, to other men. For they need to see Righteousness and its reward and fruitfulness. It’s too often overlooked, and underpraised!! You are to represent the marriage of Jesus and the church!! You are to represent JESUS, as the woman represents the bride/the church. Men we need you to raise up and stand!! To honor God in the most Holy way, Do not allow the enemy to come and steal your place in the body!! He knows that your highest calling is PURITY, So rid yourself from any sexual immorality, pornography, and impure thoughts. It’s a strategy to keep you from being all that God created you for, and most of all to keep the standards of your women low!!! Remember You are the head! You are the leaders! So Thank you for choosing LIFE, For choosing Holiness, and To Show us the TRUE love of JESUS!!!

Women I celebrate you if you have already made this commitment to God! There is no greater reward than to give yourself fully and completely to the One who has loved you and given himself to you fully and completely. My hearts desire is that He will continue to reveal himself to you in the deepest way. That you will be ravished by His love and caught up in such a love affair with the Holy One that every need you have is made known to you in Him. Godliness with contentment is great gain. May you be soo blessed as I have and even more with a partner in this life who is consecrated and more in love with Jesus than you. So he may always have a pure love towards you that you deserve.


continued in next post
 

Laela

Sidestepping the "lynch mob"
If……
You haven’t made this decision and want to choose now to allow Gods love to overtake you and make you new!!!
Heres a lil prayer of commitment I conjured up :0), you can use it if ya want, although any sincere prayer from your heart will do.

Awesome God!!
Thank you for revealing yourself to me as LOVE, by sending your son Jesus to die for my sin and shame, so that I would not have to be treated as my sins deserved, but I may be called your son/daughter. I praise you for your mercy and amazing grace and for redeeming me from condemnation, that I might be FREE!! May my life be a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to you. I desire to be all you have created me to be and invite you to fill me with your presence. Holy Spirit come and consume anything that exalts itself against the wisdom and knowledge of God. I declare today to be a representation of your Love and Holiness. For today because of your grace I am made new and whole and PURE! And I commit to you, to myself and to my husband/wife to be to remain pure so that we may receive all that you have prepared for us. I also commit to you and myself to let LOVE be my highest aim, I will seek the truth in who you are and who you say I am. I love you and because of your immeasurable love for me, it is my joy and honor to give you this commitment.


Halleluiah!!I rejoice with you in your decision!!

Ephesians 3:16-19
I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.

Thank you for reading this, Please send me comments I’d love to hear your heart, views, testimonies or questions.

Amazed by His LOVE,
BECKAH SHAE

Here is a letter from your King to start you off, on your aim to KNOW TRUE LOVE.

My Beloved,

I knew even before I created the earth that you would accept My love for you,.
In the beginning I created the heavens and the earth. Then at the right time and in the right place I created you in my image so that you and I can express love to each other. I created your inner most being, I created every part of you, I knit you together in your mother’s womb. You were carefully and wonderfully made; my works are wonderful, and you My beloved are my work!! How precious are my thoughts for you! If you were to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. I have called you by name; you are mine. Come and live in My shelter, in the protection of the Most High, and you will find rest in the presence of the Almighty. I will shield you with My wings. I will shelter you with My feathers. My faithful promises are your armor and protection. Nothing can seperate you from my love. When you are in trouble and distress my love is with you. When you are persecuted my love is with you. When you are hungry and cold and naked my love is with you. When you are in danger and threatened with death my love is with you, I will be with you forever. No matter how high you go, no matter how deep you sink, nothing in life and not even death, no demon or any other power in hell can separate you from my love. Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know. Everything that you care about, I care about also because it concerns you. Cast all your cares and anxiety on Me because I love you. Trust in Me, with all your heart, do not depend on your own understanding; In everything acknowledge Me, And I will direct your paths. For I order My angels to protect you wherever you go. Do not worry about anything, but in everything big or small, just pray, with thanksgiving, present your requests to Me and I will give you My peace that is beyond all human understanding. I will never leave you, or reject you. For the plans I have for you are to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Oh and please do not forget all my benefits, I forgive all your sins and heal all your diseases, I rescue your life from the pit of destruction and crown you with love and compassion. I satisfy your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagles. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is My love for you; as far as the east is from the west, so far have I removed your transgressions from you. The most intimate relationship you can have is with me because you and I are becoming one. You were designed for this purpose, nothing else will ever satisfy your deepest needs, your deepest desires, only I can. I satisfy your heart with love, joy, and peace that only I can give you. I delight over you. OH, if only you could see yourself the way I see you!!


You were chosen before the creation of the world (Ephesians 1:4, 11, Ephesians 4:1; 2 Timothy 1:9)d
You are My workmanship (Ephesians 2:10)
You belong to Me (1 Corinthians 6:20)
You are dearly loved (Colossians 3:12)
You have been shown the riches of My grace (Ephesians 2:7)
You are forgiven (Ephesians 1:8; Colossians 1:14)
You have been justified (Romans 5:1)
You are no longer condemned (Romans 8:1, 2)
You are set free (Romans 8:2; John 8:32)
You are dead to sin (Romans 1:12)
You are alive with Christ (Ephesians 2:5)
You are promised eternal life (John 6:47)
You are redeemed from the curse of the Law (Galatians 3:13, Ephesians 1:8)
You are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17)
You are a holy temple (Eph. 2:21-22; 1 Corinth. 6:19)
You are holy and blameless (Ephesians 1:4)
You are sealed with the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13)
You are adopted as My child (Eph.1:5,John 1:12)
You are a member of My household (Eph. 2:19)
You have access to Me, your Father (Eph. 2:18)
You are My friend (John 15:15)
You are My coworker (2 Corinthians 6:1)
You are My disciple (John 13:15
You have hope (Ephesians 1:12-13)
You have peace (Ephesians 2:14 , 2:20)
You have purpose (Ephesians 1:9 & 3:11)
You are not alone (Hebrews 13:5)
You are not helpless (Philippians 4:13)
You are persevering (Philippians 3:14)
You are protected (John 10:28, I John 5:18)
You are victorious (1 Corinthians 15:57, I John 5:4)
You are more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37)
You are a light in the world (Matthew 5:14)
You are a minister of reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:17-20)
You have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, love and self-discipline (2 Timothy 1:7)
You are not in want (Philippians 4:19)
You are qualified to share in My inheritance (Colossians 1:12)
You are promised a full life (John 10:10)
You are blessed in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1:3)
You can approach Me with freedom and confidence (Ephesians 3:12)
You have been established, anointed and sealed by God (2 Corinthians 1:21-22)
You are a citizen of heaven (Philippians 3:20)
You are seated in the heavenly realms (Eph. 2:6)

Love,

The One who really sees You!





Source: http://www.beckahshae.com/2010/07/01/purity-testimony/
 

sunshinelove

New Member
If……
You haven’t made this decision and want to choose now to allow Gods love to overtake you and make you new!!!
Heres a lil prayer of commitment I conjured up :0), you can use it if ya want, although any sincere prayer from your heart will do.

Awesome God!!
Thank you for revealing yourself to me as LOVE, by sending your son Jesus to die for my sin and shame, so that I would not have to be treated as my sins deserved, but I may be called your son/daughter. I praise you for your mercy and amazing grace and for redeeming me from condemnation, that I might be FREE!! May my life be a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to you. I desire to be all you have created me to be and invite you to fill me with your presence. Holy Spirit come and consume anything that exalts immeasurable love for me, it is my joy and honor to give you this commitment.


Thank you for reading this, Please send me comments I’d love to hear your heart, views, testimonies or questions.

Amazed by His LOVE,
BECKAH SHAE

Here is a letter from your King to start you off, on your aim to KNOW TRUE LOVE.

My Beloved,

I knew even before I created the earth that you would accept My love for you,.
In the beginning I created the heavens and the earth. Then at the right time and in the right place I created you in my image so that you and I can express love to each other. I created your inner most being, I created every part of you, I knit you together in your mother’s womb. You were carefully and wonderfully made; my works are wonderful, and you My beloved are my work!! How precious are my thoughts for you! If you were to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. I have called you by name; you are mine. Come and live in My shelter, in the protection of the Most High, and you will find rest in the presence of the Almighty. I will shield you with My wings. I will shelter you with My feathers. My faithful promises are your armor and protection. Nothing can seperate you from my love. When you are in trouble and distress my love is with you. When you are persecuted my love is with you. When you are hungry and cold and naked my love is with you. When you are in danger and threatened with death my love is with you, I will be with you forever. No matter how high you go, no matter how deep you sink, nothing in life and not even death, no demon or any other power in hell can separate you from my love. Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know. Everything that you care about, I care about also because it concerns you. Cast all your cares and anxiety on Me because I love you. Trust in Me, with all your heart, do not depend on your own understanding; In everything acknowledge Me, And I will direct your paths. For I order My angels to protect you wherever you go. Do not worry about anything, but in everything big or small, just pray, with thanksgiving, present your requests to Me and I will give you My peace that is beyond all human understanding. I will never leave you, or reject you. For the plans I have for you are to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Oh and please do not forget all my benefits, I forgive all your sins and heal all your diseases, I rescue your life from the pit of destruction and crown you with love and compassion. I satisfy your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagles. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is My love for you; as far as the east is from the west, so far have I removed your transgressions from you. The most intimate relationship you can have is with me because you and I are becoming one. You were designed for this purpose, nothing else will ever satisfy your deepest needs, your deepest desires, only I can. I satisfy your heart with love, joy, and peace that only I can give you. I delight over you. OH, if only you could see yourself the way I see you!!

You were chosen before the creation of the world (Ephesians 1:4, 11, Ephesians 4:1; 2 Timothy 1:9)d
You are My workmanship (Ephesians 2:10)
You belong to Me (1 Corinthians 6:20)
You are dearly loved (Colossians 3:12)
You have been shown the riches of My grace (Ephesians 2:7)
You are forgiven (Ephesians 1:8; Colossians 1:14)
You have been justified (Romans 5:1)
You are no longer condemned (Romans 8:1, 2)
You are set free (Romans 8:2; John 8:32)
You are dead to sin (Romans 1:12)
You are alive with Christ (Ephesians 2:5)
You are promised eternal life (John 6:47)
You are redeemed from the curse of the Law (Galatians 3:13, Ephesians 1:8)
You are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17)
You are a holy temple (Eph. 2:21-22; 1 Corinth. 6:19)
You are holy and blameless (Ephesians 1:4)
You are sealed with the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13)
You are adopted as My child (Eph.1:5,John 1:12)
You are a member of My household (Eph. 2:19)
You have access to Me, your Father (Eph. 2:18)
You are My friend (John 15:15)
You are My coworker (2 Corinthians 6:1)
You are My disciple (John 13:15
You have hope (Ephesians 1:12-13)
You have peace (Ephesians 2:14 , 2:20)
You have purpose (Ephesians 1:9 & 3:11)
You are not alone (Hebrews 13:5)
You are not helpless (Philippians 4:13)
You are persevering (Philippians 3:14)
You are protected (John 10:28, I John 5:18)
You are victorious (1 Corinthians 15:57, I John 5:4)
You are more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37)
You are a light in the world (Matthew 5:14)
You are a minister of reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:17-20)
You have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, love and self-discipline (2 Timothy 1:7)
You are not in want (Philippians 4:19)
You are qualified to share in My inheritance (Colossians 1:12)
You are promised a full life (John 10:10)
You are blessed in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1:3)
You can approach Me with freedom and confidence (Ephesians 3:12)
You have been established, anointed and sealed by God (2 Corinthians 1:21-22)
You are a citizen of heaven (Philippians 3:20)
You are seated in the heavenly realms (Eph. 2:6)

Love,

The One who really sees You!




Source: http://www.beckahshae.com/2010/07/01/purity-testimony/


Thank you for posting this!
I needed to hear this. I'm telling you, it is right on time. Its been getting really hard. Continuing to surround myself with scripture and prayer. Ladies don't cave in. God isn't gonna leave you hanging!
 

nerdography

Well-Known Member
Oh, goodness. I almost slipped up last night, it was so bad. The Devil was working overtime too. He was trying to convince me what I wanted to do was okay because the actual act is not mentioned in the bible.

And , God sent me to website of a Christian man who dealt with the same problem that I'm breaking free from. And on the site the man mentioned that what we do here on Earth will be known to all in Heaven. That, thankfully was able to keep me from committing sin against myself until the feelings went away.

Here's his website if you're intrested-->http://slrfa.tripod.com/id22.html
 

Iwanthealthyhair67

Well-Known Member
this is one area that is not a challenge in my walk...not bragging, I have other challenges

what I have found that is most effective is staying away from that which tempts you most...I don't go out on 'dates' and I have no male friends that I speak to regularly...
 

alwaysinchrist

New Member
this is one area that is not a challenge in my walk...not bragging, I have other challenges

what I have found that is most effective is staying away from that which tempts you most...I don't go out on 'dates' and I have no male friends that I speak to regularly...
yes I agree I am not tempted even tho I have male friends. I know my father has a great husband for me. I am divorce but that man was not for me.
 

alwaysinchrist

New Member
I was served divorce papers on Oct 23 I think n we slept together a few days before. But I went 3months while separated. I am so happy I found this site. You women are wonderful n so supportive!! I need to look for me a purity ring:p
 

kinky curlygenie

Well-Known Member
^^^^ i always wanted a purity ring
Hi i am 21 and a virgin, i am sooo glad to find a thread let alone a site where all my interest are combined. i dont feel like i have anybody who understands why i wait, i used to get picked on a lot for being a virgin and if it ever comes up in conversation i always get a side eye or remarks. it isnt something i struggle with pe say but sometimes it can be challenging.
 

alwaysinchrist

New Member
@ Kinky Curlygenie, that is soo wonderful. You just remember that you are God child's and living by his work is the best thing you can do. Your father adores you for this!
 

sunshinelove

New Member
^^^^ i always wanted a purity ring
Hi i am 21 and a virgin, i am sooo glad to find a thread let alone a site where all my interest are combined. i dont feel like i have anybody who understands why i wait, i used to get picked on a lot for being a virgin and if it ever comes up in conversation i always get a side eye or remarks. it isnt something i struggle with pe say but sometimes it can be challenging.

Kinkycurlygenie....I am just like you...don't feel alone because you are a virgin and in your twenties. I'm here if you ever need support. Don't worry about the naysayers..They're actually surprised that someone could abstain from fleshly lust for so long being that they have already indulged in that type of life. It's puzzling to them but deep down they know that they respect you.

Ladies continue to hold out. God will not leave you or forsake you. He knows exactly what you need, when you need it and how you need it. I'm still going strong (weak at times) but only by God's grace. Yeah there are times when you just want to throw in the towel, I know, been there so many times. It's tough when our flesh is always warring against our spirit. To those of you that are virgins hold on because your testimony is truly great and will be what someone else needs to hear after you get married. God is a Provider.:grouphug3: Group hug!!! We can do it, with Him all things are possible.
 

Goombay_Summer

Well-Known Member
I cannot exactly but it into words but after I was married, I suddenly realized the important spiritual aspect of having sex. Whenever God entered into a covenant with someone, there was always some type of shedding of blood. I do not will not too weird anyone out but once a virgin is deflowered there is usually the shedding of blood to represent in my opinion the covenant that ought to exist between a husband and a wife as the two become one.

After my divorce I took part in an absence ceremony in my church my commitment to this way of life is easy because I've learnt from my past mistakes of being aligned to someone whose religious beliefs are totally different from mine (he was a heathen who I mistakenly thought would become saved later on). When you marry someone, who is unsaved you can expect lots of trouble from your father-in-law. In fact, I am celebrating my sixth anniversary of being celibate/abstinent this very month.
 

Iwanthealthyhair67

Well-Known Member
you are right about the 'shedding of blood' he designed us that way for the very purpose of covenant...and this is why our young girl need to know the importance of virginity and that sex is not casual, we shouldn't give ourselves to every and anyone...

this is deep and worth studying....
 

Sarophina

Well-Known Member
I cannot exactly but it into words but after I was married, I suddenly realized the important spiritual aspect of having sex. Whenever God entered into a covenant with someone, there was always some type of shedding of blood. I do not will not too weird anyone out but once a virgin is deflowered there is usually the shedding of blood to represent in my opinion the covenant that ought to exist between a husband and a wife as the two become one.

After my divorce I took part in an absence ceremony in my church my commitment to this way of life is easy because I've learnt from my past mistakes of being aligned to someone whose religious beliefs are totally different from mine (he was a heathen who I mistakenly thought would become saved later on). When you marry someone, who is unsaved you can expect lots of trouble from your father-in-law. In fact, I am celebrating my sixth anniversary of being celibate/abstinent this very month.

Actually, I was listening to Pastor Gary C. Price and he was talking about this blood covenant. It was the first time I had heard of it. So, I'm glad to hear this confirmed through another believer's mouth.
 

Sarophina

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^^^^ i always wanted a purity ring
Hi i am 21 and a virgin, i am sooo glad to find a thread let alone a site where all my interest are combined. i dont feel like i have anybody who understands why i wait, i used to get picked on a lot for being a virgin and if it ever comes up in conversation i always get a side eye or remarks. it isnt something i struggle with pe say but sometimes it can be challenging.
The world is the one that is CRAZY! It's unnatural to bind your body with different people. You fragment your soul.

Ladies, I have excellent articles that go into depth about how fornication is an act of hatred and pure insanity. You hate the person you are fornicating with. Only when you hate someone would you want to send them to Hell. Fornication is a sign of debased society that is MAD :ohwell:.
http://thelatterdays.blogspot.com/2008/10/turning-world-upside-down-part-5.html
http://thelatterdays.blogspot.com/2011/11/psychopathology-at-its-ultimate.html
Articles such as these and teachings by Gary C Price, help me to renew my mind and stay away from the LIES of this insane world.
 

Lanea87

Natural Gang Gang Gang
I challange myself to become successful at this.
2012 will be my year and will have greatness for me. I have tried this before and failed but I am really into it this time and my heart is in this and my body deserves this. It will be tough but all things are possible.
 

ChocLitDoll

New Member
Hello Ladies! I am new to this forum. I want to join this challenge...did I just join by posting?...I don't really know how to navigate this forum yet I'll figure it out.
 

kinky curlygenie

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^^ your in and you wont regret it the ladies on here are such a big help i just wish i was on here more!!!

thanks so much ladies for the comments :)

questions for the ladies with SOs how do u deal wth that???
 

Lanea87

Natural Gang Gang Gang
Its 2 weeks in and I feel good. I have no temptations or urges to wanna. I fill myself up with God daily and I believe that has a lot to do with it. IDK if this has been mentioned but its an app called YouVersion and it a bible app that has plans and other good stuff on there. You can get it on Android, iPhone, and even the computer. I think you ladies should look into it if you havent.....
 

loolalooh

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I'm thankful for this thread. My goal is to remain celibate until marriage. It's been two months since my last encounter.
 

Lanea87

Natural Gang Gang Gang
Ladies I am reading a very good ebook that a lady named Kim Brooks wrote called the "The Little Black Survival Book for Single Saints". If you go like her FB page she gives the book out for free. It has helped alot with my journey as far as dating and stuff goes while being celibate..... You ladies should go check it out.
 

kinky curlygenie

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Its 2 weeks in and I feel good. I have no temptations or urges to wanna. I fill myself up with God daily and I believe that has a lot to do with it. IDK if this has been mentioned but its an app called YouVersion and it a bible app that has plans and other good stuff on there. You can get it on Android, iPhone, and even the computer. I think you ladies should look into it if you havent.....


i have the app havent visited it in a while u just reminded me - :blush:
i like the reading plans theyre good when ur on the go a lot. :yep: i used to read mine at work a lot
 
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