Qetesh
New Member
This thread is interesting
When I was young my mother never really knew how to properly take care of my hair. she would always blow dry it and then put it up in pigtails, by the end of the day my pigtails were dry and frizzy, I remember white children asking me why my hair was always sticking up, and really as much as anyone could say that’s racist I believe it was jus as simple as it looked odd and my mother didn’t really know how to properly tame my hair at the time though she did what she thought was right. I would have looked better in a braid out but she never thought to do this to my hair and always blow dried it which made it dry and frizzy. When I did get small braids with beads the white children loved it and seriously wanted their hair done the same way.
Now after years of hot combing I wore my hair natural occasionally, white people were always the first to compliment me on it, black people I didn’t know would say “how did you get your hair like that?†which is not really a compliment or a discouragement more like an observation. I would reply with oil and a braid and letting it air dry or I would say its jus like this if I let it air-dry which was true. The black people who commented never said they “liked†it initially because it wasn’t long and sleek like it is flat ironed but they also seemed interested because it didn’t look un-kept or overly messy. This uncertainty made me wonder if I even looked good with it natural.
My FAMILY members would comment with “you better straighten her hair b4 it matts up†or “whoowhee how do u plan on combing through all of that?†since they ONLY complimented my hair when it was bone straight this seriously had me not liking it natural, I was probably 16 at the time and I felt like I was only pretty if my hair was as close to bone straight as I could get it. I guess all the white folks comments of praise didn’t really add in comparison to the questioning and discouragement from AA I got.
My point is it is very true that you will get more hate from your own then you will from other races. Now I wont lie I do get compliments from black people on my natural hair and its good to know, a lot of it is its slowly but surely becoming more accepted and that is a good thing. So overall I think AA’s are taking steps in the right direction regarding our natural hair and texture sites like this are seriously helping it out as well.
When I was young my mother never really knew how to properly take care of my hair. she would always blow dry it and then put it up in pigtails, by the end of the day my pigtails were dry and frizzy, I remember white children asking me why my hair was always sticking up, and really as much as anyone could say that’s racist I believe it was jus as simple as it looked odd and my mother didn’t really know how to properly tame my hair at the time though she did what she thought was right. I would have looked better in a braid out but she never thought to do this to my hair and always blow dried it which made it dry and frizzy. When I did get small braids with beads the white children loved it and seriously wanted their hair done the same way.
Now after years of hot combing I wore my hair natural occasionally, white people were always the first to compliment me on it, black people I didn’t know would say “how did you get your hair like that?†which is not really a compliment or a discouragement more like an observation. I would reply with oil and a braid and letting it air dry or I would say its jus like this if I let it air-dry which was true. The black people who commented never said they “liked†it initially because it wasn’t long and sleek like it is flat ironed but they also seemed interested because it didn’t look un-kept or overly messy. This uncertainty made me wonder if I even looked good with it natural.
My FAMILY members would comment with “you better straighten her hair b4 it matts up†or “whoowhee how do u plan on combing through all of that?†since they ONLY complimented my hair when it was bone straight this seriously had me not liking it natural, I was probably 16 at the time and I felt like I was only pretty if my hair was as close to bone straight as I could get it. I guess all the white folks comments of praise didn’t really add in comparison to the questioning and discouragement from AA I got.
My point is it is very true that you will get more hate from your own then you will from other races. Now I wont lie I do get compliments from black people on my natural hair and its good to know, a lot of it is its slowly but surely becoming more accepted and that is a good thing. So overall I think AA’s are taking steps in the right direction regarding our natural hair and texture sites like this are seriously helping it out as well.
