Black Woman Killed After Giving Money To Pandhandler

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  1. SoniT

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    This is such a heartbreaking story. She was doing the right thing by giving back and look what happened. :( :( I always keep my windows up and look the other way when people come up to my car and ask for money. I just don't trust people nowadays.
     
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    Thankfully, I haven’t had terrible experiences with panhandlers, but one time in ATL, I was going to give this BM some money because it was my last day going to that job and he was at that intersection, but as I was getting ready to roll down my window, he walks toward me with his crayon out and stared at me. Since then, no one gets nada. I live in SoCal now and these crazy expensive taxes we pay gonna have to suffice.

    SF panhandlers are crazy bold. I like visiting the city, but anywhere around Union Sq is too much
     
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    Nope, don't give to anybody. All car doors are locked and money is put away before leaving any establishment.

    I hear the same stories year after year, each time embellishing a little more to gain sympathy. I remember seeing this guy walking jerkily through the cars asking for money for 'his condition'. At one stop, he got off and walked smoothly out the door- so much for his condition.
     
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    I felt guilty for ignoring this BW outside of Walgreens last week who tried to interrupt me when I was on the phone (it’s my signature move to avoid panhandlers, beggars, etc. bc in general it’s rude as hell to interrupt someone’s conversation) trying to beg for something. It was just one of those days where EVERYONE is demanding something from you, it was late and I just wanted to get home. After this thread my conscience is clear. :yep:
     
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    My friend is saying the story doesn’t sound right. Why didn’t he press the gas and drive off.
     
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    A dadgum shame. I stopped giving to panhandlers once I noticed:
    Increased sense of entitlement

    Asking for more money

    Refusing food (even though you claimed you wanted the money for food).

    I really loathe begging.
     
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    That’s the other thing. There’s too many of them!
     
  8. intellectualuva

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    They assumed the man came up to say thank you as he was with the woman who was still lingering. Instead he stabbed her in the process of trying to steal her wallet which she still had nearby and I thought he sped off from there.

    I hope that's the case and this man didnt set this sista up.
     
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    This. I was out to dinner with SO a few months ago. It was a place where you ordered your food before sitting down. It was still summer so we ate outside even though it was nighttime. Before we walked in I noticed an older BW who was homeless around. When we came outside to sit she was still there and I noticed she kept watching me. :look: It was then I realized I was the only black person in the area. SO is Latino and there was an Asian family eating close to us. There was a white family but they just left. All of a sudden the homeless BW pops up in my face and asks me for some money. I was irritated and creeped out but ended up giving her some cash I had.

    When I was a child, my mom would go off on panhandlers who would approach her while she was out with me or my sisters. She can't stand it.
     
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    You ladies are right. Many times they act entitled. I have given complete strangers rides and often times they acted ungrateful and one time was really bad so never again. I don't give to the ones at intersections anymore but I have had people approached me while walking out of businesses. I usually do not carry cash so it is often a no unless I am near my car (I used to carry change but not anymore). There was one time a man asked me for an exact amount for something and if I give him that amount he would have what he needed. So I gave him that amount and more. It was awhile ago so I cannot remember exactly but I heard him tell another not to far from me the exact same line. I am done helping panhandlers.

    This story is tragic.
     
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    I don’t know if I told this story but my coworker took a sack of canned goods and gave it to a panhandler. The panhandler threw those cans and broke his front window.
     
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    I am so glad you are no longer giving strangers rides.
     
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    Whoever said the homeless are going to feel it were right.

    https://bsun.md/2EjxbLq

     
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    Same here.
    I'm a naturally suspicious person, but stories like this are why I never open my wallet to panhandlers on the street. I've always been convinced that there was a possibility that it was a ploy to distract me so a second person could come by and rob me.
     
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    I see a Kaizen opportunity for a not for profit....
     
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    That article rubs me the wrong way even though I feel for the homeless. The problem isn't that people are now afraid to help pandhandlers, but that our society is failing in ways that are causing the need for so many people to have to panhandle in the first place.

    Where is the story on that??!!
     
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    Not that I disagree what the real story is....

    They've done stories on the poverty gap and there have been documentaries about it as well.

    People all over the country are writing about the rise of poverty, dangerous wealth gap etc....but even if there are policies to address it....there will still always be a segment of the population who will be poor/homeless (and likely an overwhelming number of them mentally ill) will rely on the generosity of strangers. If that generosity is minimized due to fear...people will feel it.
     
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    ^^^ Oh I agree with you definitely that it is important for people to understand how much their generosity is necessary. :yep: No doubt

    It is just that I feel that in that article, the writer should have included a reference to those societal issues you listed as well. Otherwise, I feel it lets the government off the hook so to speak.

    There are so many things wrong from lack of resources for the mentally ill and challeged to lack of employment, poor schools, charities that misappropriate funds and donations etc., and goverment spending on everything but the above. (Not just our government, but other wealthy goverments with third world poor populations.)

    I don't know...Yes, I think an article highlighting the need for continued public generosity is pertinent, but at the same time people need to be reminded to continue to push for real systemic change.
     
  19. Leeda.the.Paladin

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    I dont give money directly to people anymore, we contribute to organizations or donate our time.

    The one exception to that is a girl who stopped me at the gas station once and said she’d been kicked out of her house by her relative. She was in her pjs, her hair bonnet still on, she was young and soft spoken, and I could see had everything she owned right there in her car. She was almost about to run out of gas. I happened to have $40 in my purse (very rare for me to have cash!) and gave it all to her. I felt like she and I were supposed to cross paths that day, I felt it from the moment she pulled up. I wonder what happened to her and in hindsight, wish I’d done more.

    But no, as a general rule, I dont give money to pan handlers.
     
  20. BillsBackerz67

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    99% of the time I’m always alone so I do don’t roll down my windows to give to anyone. Also if it’s past a certain time at night I don’t wait at red lights at all. I treat it as a stop sign and KIM. There is no reason anyone should have to wait a prolonged period of time for a light to turn green when its dark and desolate out.
     
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    This is what my cousin does. She works nightshift and said she doesn't stop at stopsigns or stoplights depending on how late or early she goes in because she's afraid of carjackings and beggars approaching the car like they had before.
     
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    I was done with panhandlers after my BFF got hurt. She reached into her bag to give money and the guy grabbed her purse. It was a cross body so he drug her a bit and hurt her arm getting the purse off. It took months for the pain to stop.
     
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    Yep me working nights was the reason behind all of this. I would either work 11p to 7a or 7p to 3a...there was one light that was 4.5 minutes long for no reason. After a few shifts I said nope not doing this and ran it. I still obey stop signs because of random pedestrians and people driving without headlights though.
     
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    I should correct....she does a careful rolling stop at all of them. My cousin isnt blasting through intersections at 30mph for the same reasons you mentioned. Plus in Baltimore, they will walk right in front of your car even outside of intersections....they do not care...so you have to be mindful anyway.
     
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    This reminds me of something that happened over 10 years ago going to work super early one morning. When I first looked to make the turn down the street lined like woods on both sides to exit the complex, there was no one on the street or even from what I could see between the few cars parked along the street. After I completed the turn and was about to really hit the accelerator, this guy stepped right out from out of nowhere. Had I been going any faster, I would not have been able to avoid him. I swerved around him, drove maybe 20 feet before coming to a stop. In my anger, I wanted to at least roll down a window to curse him out, but something stopped me just as I was about to hit the button and said look in the rearview mirror and said GO. This guy was fully bundled in a hat, hoodie, but I couldn't see his face because while he was facing me, his head was down. I could not even see his race because he was wearing gloves....it was spring...I hit that accelerator and was OUT.

    I didn't even think to report suspicious activity, I was so darn scared and just wanted to get to work and off the road.

    I have no doubts dude was up to something...I just hope no one else was a victim.
     
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    I politely told a panhandler "I'm sorry, I don't have any cash on me" and he told me the location of the nearest ATM. I was so shocked at the audacity of this dude, I didn't know whether to :lachen: or :angry2:
     
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    I give panhandlers money, but never at night unless there’s tons of ppl around (like downtown or something) and def not through my car at night. Even during the daytime, if I give money from my car, I never roll my window all the way down and I get the money out before I even call them over to me.

    Never had a bad experience, but I feel so bad for that lady’s family. Her poor husband and daughter. I prob won’t stop helping ppl when I feel led, but I will definitely be even more cautious.

    Okay, that’s hella creepy. Yikes.
     
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    Yearrrss ago I had a homeless person ask for money because he were hungry. While I was in McDonald’s I decided to purchase him a meal and the guy had the nerve to tell me he doesn’t eat McDonalds lol
     
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    A few years ago I was driving this guy I was dating car home because he drank too much..after a night out.. I stopped at a red light and someone in a dark hoody was approaching the car... I just sped off. Can’t trust no one.
     
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    Sorry to hear about this lady
     

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