I posted this in another thread but I really wanted to know teh answer. I notice this in a lot of threads that some of you guys are quick to say "get rid of a friend" or "they are just hating" when someone mentions that their friends are telling them that their hair looks a mess or to change their hairstyle. I personally think this may be in a small amount of cases but not the majority of the time. There have been several threads like this like one where a girl said her friends were talkign about her because she wears a head scarf everyday, one where a poster is saying her friend talks about her cause she wears a bun every day I also saw one where a girl was saying her friends tell her that her hair looks a mess all the time and she doesn't do it. Just cause a friend tells you something about your hair or your appearance this does not mean to get rid of them. I give my friends criticism and I very much want them to critique me too. There is a way to say something in a nice way but I say I would not be your "true" friend if I let you walk out the house with your hair, clothes or otherwise anything else looking a hot mess. I would be still rocking a jheri curl if it wasn't for my friends. That is what they are there for and if I had a friend that constantly looked a mess I wouldn't want to go anywhere with them. But I feel like it would never get to that point because I would offer them advice on different ways to do their hair or dress or whatever was not right. This to me is a TRUE friend. So I say don't be so quick to dismiss what people are telling you as hate. If enough people say it then you have to think it may be true. (you know the saying if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...) And everyone can always use a makeover or update our looks or styles. There is nothing wrong with it and your friends and family are the perfect ones to tell you. You may be the one in the club or in the street that you see and we laugh at and say "dag that girl must not have any friends". You know you guys have seen people like this and commented. Come on you can admit it!