I want to say thanks again To you all
Vanthie, I'd be glad to pay you for the cream if the other stuff doesn't work.
I am going to print this out and give this information to her mom.
You don't know how helpful your information will be to her. At 13 certain things can either make you or break you. She graduated yesterday from Middle School on her Birthday and didn't want to even attend.
I mentioned to my sister , She is not her hair, while my sister understood at 13 who is listening to that.
I believe when she reads that other people go through the same thing, it will let her know this can be delt with.
I deeply thank you all.
JJamiah
My dd has seborra dermatitis which is scalp excema. she also has body excema that is localized to a few fingers on right hand and a bit on back of neck and inner wrist.
I was washing her hair every 2 weeks but I noticed by the 2nd week the buildup would be ridiculous and would be hell trying to rid the scalp of it.
I was using jojoba oil mixed with tea tree oil but that was not really helping.
I started using coconut oil after reading a thread here and it has helped tremendously.
I have also decided to start washing her hair every week because all that scratching she was doing by week 1 1/2 was making me feel bad. Today was the first day of weekly washing. Increased washing is good because it rids the scalp of the buildup.
The night before I oil her scalp really well with evco and rub it in really well. I noticed this morning the crust was hardly there.
The next day:
I shampoo with a mixture of an equal amount of Kiss my face whenever 2 ozs (to use up, not sure if I am going to repurchase, there isn't anything wrong with it though) and Bluespring hair healthy shampoo (2 ozs) in an applicator bottle. I then take 1 tsp of tea tree oil and mix that in as well.
I was in sections and I scrub really well (no nails) 1x and then I go back through the sections and scrub really well again (total of 2x's) I typically lather 1x.
I make sure nothing touches her scalp other than coconut oil and my mix of aloe vera juice mixed with equal amounts distilled water to detangle.
I braid her hair and wait till I am atleast 1-2 inches away from the scalp before I apply the leave-in.
Once done braiding I spray my aloe/water mix on the scalp and apply coconut oil to the parts and take the tip of the applicator bottle and apply to the braided sections where the scalp is hidden.
Her scalp looks so good now and I notice the neck area is improving since applying the coconut oil.
Make sure to use evco that is not expired.
concerning the little girls hair loss:
The reason why she lost hair is because the scalp buildup causes the scalp to go into a faster telogen phase. I figured this out a few months ago but did not know what it was called until I read this article yesterday:
http://www.hairdiseases.com/scalp-infection/fungal-infection.shtml
My DD always had a patch of excema on the nape (kitchen) that kept her hair there at no more than an inch or two. Since I increased washing her hair from 3 weeks to 2 the hair growth is more noticable. I think with increasing her washing to every week her hair growth will increase even more. When I was washing every 3 weeks the buildup would be bad. I noticed the spring/summer early fall scalp is better than the winter scalp
She never had thinning or balding but her growth was very slow.
In 08' I changed shampoo after researching excema and found that harsh sulfates cause an over production of sebum. Once I stopped with the other shampoo her scalp improved slightly.
oh my DD is natural as well all her life
went from lots of flare ups to none at all. 
