TL;DR: How do you talk about black women's hair when men are around/ in mixed company? Context: I noticed some of women bemoan the condition of being a black woman and how different our hair is and I wonder if this is contributing to black women's negative PR. For instance, I was out with a group of friends recently-male and female. We got on the topic of hair, and Lil Duval's recent frequent posting of his daughter's hair while simeltaneously clowning women who wear lace fronts came up. One woman started lamenting the texture differences and how long it takes to do our hair vs. Others and I found myself getting second hand embarrassment, especially since there was an other (type 3) present. I refused to say anything negative because if you don't talk positively about yourself who will? If black men are talking ish and we are co-signing that might be adding to a less than favorable image.