I do not believe you can wash out the relaxer. You should fully neutralize your hair after your relaxer, the relaxer should not be "working" after you neutralize your hair. I personally think the problem comes in where people are battling dryness, which makes the roots feel coarse again because it may not have been relaxed bone straight. You should not have this problem if you use moisturizing products until your hair gets over the trauma from the chemical. I have been washing my hair a day or two after a relaxer. When I went to the salon and my hair did not feel right afterwards, I washed again the same day, you do not have to wait.