A drop of golden sun
At this point it's clear the issue is with her not with you. I would just change the topic anytime she brings up anything hair related. It's clear you won't change her mind. You COULD tell her that you won't be discussing anything hair related with her or just do what I do and deflect and change the topic. Instead of trying to change her mind just accept that she is who she is and her issues are hers to deal with.Welp, I called it. My Aunt has been quizzing me about my hair choice all year. I prefer “locs” or “sisterlocks” to “dreads” and I’ve told her that. Tonight’s family gathering for Christmas and my aunt starts asking questions about my hair.
Auntie: you have dreads now?
Me: no, sisterlocks.
Auntie: looks like tiny dreads to me.
Me: nope, tiny locs
Auntie: same thing
Auntie 1 hour later: oh I see....those are braids with curls on the end.
We have had this same conversation the last 3 times we’ve seen each other. It’s annoying because my mother has had her sisterlocks for 7 years, her daughter has been wearing her sisterlocks for the last 6 years. The first time I told my aunt about my sisterlocks she told me not to do it because my loose natural hair was so long and thick. That was 10 months ago. I’ve seen her for all the family gatherings since then. I really believe she is being annoying on purpose. Last time she said my coils looked like a Jheri curl.