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Marriage Prayer for Singles Circle? Anyone?

BlackHairDiva

Well-Known Member
Count me in!!!! Oh and :look: add my mommy too. Dad passed away 3 years ago and I hope she finds someone who will love her , be faithful to her, take care of her and respect her. Someone who will make her laugh again.

So make that... blackHairdiva &her momma






In response to Shimmie's thread about her marriage prayers, http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=96564, I had the idea to ask those of you interested in praying for each other regarding this subject, our dating lives, etcc... whether you're divorced, single, never married, have kids, it doesn't matter... as long as you're pursuing marriage, needing prayer and guidance from the Lord, and a community of believers praying for you. I want to see if those of you are interested in committing to praying for each other one week each month. Please feel free to offer ideas, i'm new at this. I just see this as a need and Shimmie has already started that bandwagon. We can start a monthly thread each month so they dont get too long, but also, you dont have to post all of your prayers here, you can PM the person. But I figure maybe we can post our prayer requests for that week, and we can come in the thread and read the requests and just pray for each other that week. If your requests are too personal, I'm sure you can select and PM others to request your prayers. So far, that's where I"m at.... I will update the list of those who are interested.... I'm thinking the last week of the month may be a good timing. Let me know if you have any better ideas or if something like this already exists LOL...


So far we have...

Belle_reveuse28
Bunny77
Natasha2005
Nicola.Kirwan
Cherokee
Highlyfavored8
Zora
Nychaelasymone
Alicianicole
Oneya
Bucanben418
Jturner7156
jade998
Mitcy
Reece Nicole
NappturalWomyn
monamia
bubblegumdreams
LoverofLife
Lady_godiva
btrflyrose


UPDATE!: Our first week of prayer will begin Nov 23-29!
 
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Iammoney

Wealth magnet
I have decided to post my request

My request is to be married to the one God has ordained for me. I have had this in my heart for a very long time. I am not sure if I have gotten any closer I feel at times i have gotten further from my heart's desire. I took the time to write down all that I wanted in the a husband and I got most of what I wanted but he turned out to be very negative and pessimistic about everything and everyone in his life I finally cut him out of my life this morning.
I revised my list and included that i wanted my husband to be happy and positive. I placed it in my bible between Habakkuk 2:2-3. I try to read it every so often but only when im in a good mood.
I am very thankful that you ladies have allowed this outlet for me to express myself and I am thankful to all the ladies who will be praying for me. I will also keep praying for you.

 

CICI24

Well-Known Member
I need prayer in regards to the following:

preparation for; emotional issues we have now; healing that needs to take place in our lives in order that we can be in a healthy marriage; past abuses/bad relationships; parental issues that keep resurfacing in our lives; requests for needed guidance/mentorship/leadership; issues of purity (for those of us who seek to commit to being or becoming pure again, i.e. abstinence); and other issues that tie into moving towards healthy marriages; praying for future spouses (i.e. praying for their wellbeing, work situations, keeping themselves from sexual sin, etc,, yes, we can pray for them even though we dont know them) and other issues that relate to marriage readiness and pursuing it.
 

btrflyrose

New Member
I was reading and refamiliarizing myself with the text of a Virtous Woman. Proverbs 31:10-31, and reading about the meaning behind the text of the Word.

I realize, there are some characteristics that I lack. Especially when it talks about rising with the sun (being early and on-time), not being lazy, etc. I love sleep and unfortunately, when I'm not working or on-site, can lay the day away (eateth not the bread of idleness) <- I'm in my head entirely too much. I'm also not as good with money as I should be (having lived by myself for so long, I buy what I want, when I want) and I'm also not the neatest person in the world (something I did not inherit from my mother who is obsessively clean).

So having said all that, this week's prayer request is that the Lord do a work in me and change my thoughts, heart, and actions to be that of a Virtous Woman, a God-fearing woman that He would be proud to introduce to His son.

Specifically, I ask that idleness and procrastination be bound from me and removed from my heart; that I become and continue to be a good stewart of the Lord's money and blessings; that I become and continue to be neater and cleaner (Cleanliness is next to Godliness as my mother says); and that all sexual perversions be bound and removed from me as well, that I remain pure for my husband.

Thank you my Sisters in Christ!!!
 

Iammoney

Wealth magnet
I was reading and refamiliarizing myself with the text of a Virtous Woman. Proverbs 31:10-31, and reading about the meaning behind the text of the Word.

I realize, there are some characteristics that I lack. Especially when it talks about rising with the sun (being early and on-time), not being lazy, etc. I love sleep and unfortunately, when I'm not working or on-site, can lay the day away (eateth not the bread of idleness) <- I'm in my head entirely too much. I'm also not as good with money as I should be (having lived by myself for so long, I buy what I want, when I want) and I'm also not the neatest person in the world (something I did not inherit from my mother who is obsessively clean).

So having said all that, this week's prayer request is that the Lord do a work in me and change my thoughts, heart, and actions to be that of a Virtous Woman, a God-fearing woman that He would be proud to introduce to His son.

Specifically, I ask that idleness and procrastination be bound from me and removed from my heart; that I become and continue to be a good stewart of the Lord's money and blessings; that I become and continue to be neater and cleaner (Cleanliness is next to Godliness as my mother says); and that all sexual perversions be bound and removed from me as well, that I remain pure for my husband.

Thank you my Sisters in Christ!!!

You sound so much like me thanks for speaking on that
 

jade998

Active Member
Ladies. Here is my prayer request:

Firstly, for GOD to loose all self esteem issues that I have. I never feel pretty enough. This is mainly down the the acne that I suffer from. I speak healing to my body, because I know that it stems from an off balance in my body. Because of the scars that come with acne and having to wear make-up, I compare myself with other ladies and never feel like the Man of my heart and whom God has placed for me will find me attractive.


I also would like to let go of all past relationships and cut any patterns I might have with not seeking God first in decisions that I make when it comes to relationships. All my
relationships have been detrimental to ow i see myself and I sometimes feel that there is something about me that doesn't require love

I also would like to for you to pray for my procrastination and lack of focus. I am very scattered and find it hard to committ to anything. I would like God to also help me to become patient and to stay focused on what he needs me to do in the meanwhile.

Also for God to soften my heart. After past relationships, I am very jaded and find it hard to trust men. I would like for you to pray that I can let go and begin to trust again and for the wall I putup around myself to go down.

Also for purity of mind - I need to keep m mind on Godly things and not on fleshly things.

And for God to grant me the man of my hearts desires and his will.

Thanks ladies

Need to know who I am praying for, so I can prepare for tomorrow
 

belle_reveuse28

New Member
Hello Ladies,
Soooo tomorrow is the beginning of a new thing! I have updated the list and if you haven't joined yet, and would still like to, we have a whole week, so please PM me and I'll add your name to the list and have someone pray for you, and give you some to pray for as well.

Below are the partnerships, please PM the people in your group that you're praying for and those praying for you, give them your real name, first names are sufficient, and your prayer request. If you'd like to also post your requests here so that others outside of your group may pray, you can do that as some have already begun. But just to be sure, it's good to go ahead and PM those you will be in partnership with.

Here are the groups as follows:

1. Belle_reveuse28, Cherokee, Nychaelasymone, Bunny77,

2. Natasha2005, Zora, Nicola.Kirwan, Jturner7156

3. Alicianicole, Lady_godiva, CICI24, jade998

4. Oneya, Bucanben418, blackHairdiva & mommy

(Blackhairdiva, can you let "mommy" know to pray for Bucanben418, and Oneya, of course YOU.. :) )

5. Reece Nicole, Highlyfavored8, Mitcy, LoverofLife

6. NappturalWomyn, Kia, monamia, btrflyrose

7. bubblegumdreams, P31woman, Stephshe, Nic_Cali, Rozelida_80


I will follow up with an email at the end of the week. I want you all to be really focused during your prayer time and for us to all be listening to God as much as asking. I believe it's very important to listen. And most of all, I want us to come back and post about things God has shown us within the week, changes in our lives (not necessarily marriage proposals, alhtough that would be AMAZING! But just things he's showing us), or even if nothing has come to us, but still communicate and keep in touch, and even ask for more prayer. Journaling is an amazing way to sort of "keep track" of what God's showing you, and to also see the process of growth and change in us. I would encourage you all to get a journal and write down your thoughts, prayers, whatever God brings to you.. I would hope that even though this is our designated week of prayer, we can still come to this thread and ask for prayer during the off weeks and receive it. I have asked my mom and a few other older women in my life to pray for our group, that God's will would be accomplished in our lives, for our protection of mind, body and spirit, and that we are successful and focused on praying for each other, and can find quiet places to pray, esp for those of us with families or children...

As we all probably come from different types of church denominations and background, I am sure that we all may pray a different way, or even have diverse beliefs to a point, so my request is that we respect each others differences, but let it be known that we are praying to the same God and have a focused and unified agreement in prayer to lift each other up before The Father...

My prayer is that God would be glorified in the things He will do in our lives, for the testimonies that will come about. So come Lord Jesus, have Your way in us, through us and for us. During this season of prayer, open our hearts, minds and attitudes to be sensitive to your Word and your guidance. Let us see the things we need to change and grow. Help us to speak life into each other and be bold enough to speak your truth, even when it's uncomfortable. Give us the strength and courage to be challenged, to desire holiness and to continually be changed into the image of Christ Jesus, our Lord. Be our Guide and speak to our spirits as you accomplish your good and perfect will in our lives. I pray that you would honor our desire for marriage in the very way you have designed each and everyone of us for, and that we would continue to make you the center of our lives always!

Amen


If you have any questions, please PM me.

For encouragement and some good reads, visit www.beforetheknot-andafter.blogspot.com.

If you are needing to read some good and encouraging books on pursuing marriage in a Godly way, for preparation, for atttiude and things that even seem confusing, get a copy at your local library or even on amazon.com of "Getting Serious About Getting Married" by Debbie Maken. This book changed my life and I believe it will change yours too!



Be blessed,
Your Sister In Christ,
Trinia
 
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jade998

Active Member
Matthew 18 : 18-20

18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.


19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.

20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.

Ladies, as we stand together touching on God's ordained marriages in our life, it shall be done for us of our Father which is in heaven.
As the word of the lord states: he is in the midst of us
 

aribell

formerly nicola.kirwan
I've increasingly come to appreciate how our standards and expectations for the men in our lives and the relationships we create will either reflect God's standards and thus draw His blessing, or be less than His standard and draw less than that.

I don't mean sin. I mean things like really believing that someone will love you unconditionally, looking for the one that doesn't just have himself together on paper, but whose heart toward you is undeniably solid. Really holding out for the man that will love you like Christ loved the Church, and not settling for any love that is less than that. Finding some old threads where women talk about what their men do for them helped me a lot to have that clear picture of what a man who really loves you will do for you--since not all of us have great examples of that and might settle for less. Real love is a lot to ask for, but that's a part of the boldness and faith we have in asking the Lord to grant our request for a spouse.

The Lord not only wants you married, he wants you married to a man who will love you like He loves you. No man will be able to perfectly mirror that, but he should be trying! And that's what's really important. I know I've had to adjust my focus a bit in that I've become excited in finding someone who had all the qualities on my list, but "someone who loves me like Christ loves the Church" was not on there. And no matter how great he may be, if that type of love isn't there, it isn't God's best. So I pray for all of us here, that we would wait for the gift that truly comes from our Father, who would give us nothing less than His kind of love. Blessings!
 

btrflyrose

New Member
I've increasingly come to appreciate how our standards and expectations for the men in our lives and the relationships we create will either reflect God's standards and thus draw His blessing, or be less than His standard and draw less than that.

I don't mean sin. I mean things like really believing that someone will love you unconditionally, looking for the one that doesn't just have himself together on paper, but whose heart toward you is undeniably solid. Really holding out for the man that will love you like Christ loved the Church, and not settling for any love that is less than that. Finding some old threads where women talk about what their men do for them helped me a lot to have that clear picture of what a man who really loves you will do for you--since not all of us have great examples of that and might settle for less. Real love is a lot to ask for, but that's a part of the boldness and faith we have in asking the Lord to grant our request for a spouse.

The Lord not only wants you married, he wants you married to a man who will love you like He loves you. No man will be able to perfectly mirror that, but he should be trying! And that's what's really important. I know I've had to adjust my focus a bit in that I've become excited in finding someone who had all the qualities on my list, but "someone who loves me like Christ loves the Church" was not on there. And no matter how great he may be, if that type of love isn't there, it isn't God's best. So I pray for all of us here, that we would wait for the gift that truly comes from our Father, who would give us nothing less than His kind of love. Blessings!


AMEN!!!!

Truly inspiring words!!
 

ClassicChic

Well-Known Member
I've increasingly come to appreciate how our standards and expectations for the men in our lives and the relationships we create will either reflect God's standards and thus draw His blessing, or be less than His standard and draw less than that.

I don't mean sin. I mean things like really believing that someone will love you unconditionally, looking for the one that doesn't just have himself together on paper, but whose heart toward you is undeniably solid. Really holding out for the man that will love you like Christ loved the Church, and not settling for any love that is less than that. Finding some old threads where women talk about what their men do for them helped me a lot to have that clear picture of what a man who really loves you will do for you--since not all of us have great examples of that and might settle for less. Real love is a lot to ask for, but that's a part of the boldness and faith we have in asking the Lord to grant our request for a spouse.

The Lord not only wants you married, he wants you married to a man who will love you like He loves you. No man will be able to perfectly mirror that, but he should be trying! And that's what's really important. I know I've had to adjust my focus a bit in that I've become excited in finding someone who had all the qualities on my list, but "someone who loves me like Christ loves the Church" was not on there. And no matter how great he may be, if that type of love isn't there, it isn't God's best. So I pray for all of us here, that we would wait for the gift that truly comes from our Father, who would give us nothing less than His kind of love. Blessings!
Your post was beautifully written!
 

kayte

Well-Known Member
I am in too :)
expecting only the lovely
and praying for the requests
 
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lady_godiva

Well-Known Member
I've increasingly come to appreciate how our standards and expectations for the men in our lives and the relationships we create will either reflect God's standards and thus draw His blessing, or be less than His standard and draw less than that.

I don't mean sin. I mean things like really believing that someone will love you unconditionally, looking for the one that doesn't just have himself together on paper, but whose heart toward you is undeniably solid. Really holding out for the man that will love you like Christ loved the Church, and not settling for any love that is less than that. Finding some old threads where women talk about what their men do for them helped me a lot to have that clear picture of what a man who really loves you will do for you--since not all of us have great examples of that and might settle for less. Real love is a lot to ask for, but that's a part of the boldness and faith we have in asking the Lord to grant our request for a spouse.

The Lord not only wants you married, he wants you married to a man who will love you like He loves you. No man will be able to perfectly mirror that, but he should be trying! And that's what's really important. I know I've had to adjust my focus a bit in that I've become excited in finding someone who had all the qualities on my list, but "someone who loves me like Christ loves the Church" was not on there. And no matter how great he may be, if that type of love isn't there, it isn't God's best. So I pray for all of us here, that we would wait for the gift that truly comes from our Father, who would give us nothing less than His kind of love. Blessings!

This is wonderful!
 

bubblegumdreams

New Member
Hi Ladies

I just wanted to apologize for not being available for the first prayer week. I just moved to a new city and haven't been able to get my internet set up yet. :nono:
I'm hoping that it's not too late because I'd still like to participate....I should be up and running by Wednesday. :yep:
Again...my apologies...

Peace and blessings
 

jade998

Active Member
How did the first week go ladies..

The word Pride came up this week and as I was praying and meditating, I kept on coming acoss people that talked about Pride and a friend commented that I might have the spirit of pride after I told her about a dream I had. I thought, well I dont consider myself a proud person. I am quite humble.

And then I started looking at what the word had to say and i knew this is something I had to pray against. I found a worksheet only that asked key questions to determine if I had pride and I identified 14 of the points raised. So this is what I will be working on, I would not want my heart to stop my blessings. Maybe the list could help someone:
  • Complaining against or passing judgment of God (Numbers 14:1-4, 9, 11)
  • Wanting God to operate the way you think He should (Romans 9:20)
  • Boasting or Arrogance (1 Samuel 2:3)
  • A lack of gratitude (2 Chronicles 32:25)
  • Anger (Proverbs 28:25; Matthew 20:1-16)
  • Drinking (or drugs) (Habakkuk 2:4-5)
  • Forsaking one’s responsibilities (Habakkuk 2:5)
  • Selfish (2 Timothy 3:2)
  • Quick to fight or quarrel (Galatians 5:20)
  • Envy or covetousness (Galatians 5:20)
  • Seeing yourself as better than others (Luke 36-50)
  • Having an inflated view of your importance, gifts and abilities (Acts 12:21-23)
  • Being focused on the lack of your gifts and abilities (1 Corinthians 12:14-25)
  • Perfectionism (Matthew 23:24-28)
  • Talking too much (Proverbs 10:10)
  • Talking too much about yourself (Proverbs 27:2; Galatians 6:3)
  • Seeking independence or control (1 Corinthians 1:10-13; Ephesians 5:21)
  • Being consumed with what others think (Galatians 1:10)
  • Being devastated or angered by criticism (Proverbs 13:1)
  • Being unteachable (Proverbs 10:20; John 9:13-34)
  • Being sarcastic, hurtful, or degrading (Proverbs 12:18, 24)
  • A lack of service (Galatians 5:13; Ephesians 2:10)
  • A lack of compassion (Matthew 5:7, 18:23-35)
  • Being defensive or blame-shifting (Genesis 3:12-13; Proverbs 12:1)
  • A lack of admitting when you are wrong (Proverbs 10:17)
  • A lack of asking forgiveness (Matthew 5:23-24)
  • A lack of biblical prayer (Luke 18:10-14)
  • Resisting authority or being disrespectful (1 Peter 2:13-17)
  • Voicing preferences or opinions when not asked (Philippians 2:1-4)
  • Minimizing your own sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5)
  • Maximizing others’ sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5; Luke 18:9-14)
  • Being impatient or irritable with others (Ephesians 4:21-32)
  • Being jealous or envious (1 Corinthians 13:4)
  • Using others (Matthew 7:12; Philippians 2:3-4)
  • Being deceitful by covering up sins, faults and mistakes (Proverbs 11:3; 28:13)
  • Using attention-getting tactics (1 Peter 3:3, 4)
  • Not having close relationships (Proverbs 18:1-2; Hebrews 10:24-25)
The bible says Proverbs 16.5: Everyone with a conceited heart is disgusting to the LORD

I don't know if this helps, but I have been trying to do this on my own strenght and that was being Proud. I am learning to completely give it up to God and humble myself. His time is perfect.
 

ClassicChic

Well-Known Member
How did the first week go ladies..

The word Pride came up this week and as I was praying and meditating, I kept on coming acoss people that talked about Pride and a friend commented that I might have the spirit of pride after I told her about a dream I had. I thought, well I dont consider myself a proud person. I am quite humble.

And then I started looking at what the word had to say and i knew this is something I had to pray against. I found a worksheet only that asked key questions to determine if I had pride and I identified 14 of the points raised. So this is what I will be working on, I would not want my heart to stop my blessings. Maybe the list could help someone:
  • Complaining against or passing judgment of God (Numbers 14:1-4, 9, 11)
  • Wanting God to operate the way you think He should (Romans 9:20)
  • Boasting or Arrogance (1 Samuel 2:3)
  • A lack of gratitude (2 Chronicles 32:25)
  • Anger (Proverbs 28:25; Matthew 20:1-16)
  • Drinking (or drugs) (Habakkuk 2:4-5)
  • Forsaking one’s responsibilities (Habakkuk 2:5)
  • Selfish (2 Timothy 3:2)
  • Quick to fight or quarrel (Galatians 5:20)
  • Envy or covetousness (Galatians 5:20)
  • Seeing yourself as better than others (Luke 36-50)
  • Having an inflated view of your importance, gifts and abilities (Acts 12:21-23)
  • Being focused on the lack of your gifts and abilities (1 Corinthians 12:14-25)
  • Perfectionism (Matthew 23:24-28)
  • Talking too much (Proverbs 10:10)
  • Talking too much about yourself (Proverbs 27:2; Galatians 6:3)
  • Seeking independence or control (1 Corinthians 1:10-13; Ephesians 5:21)
  • Being consumed with what others think (Galatians 1:10)
  • Being devastated or angered by criticism (Proverbs 13:1)
  • Being unteachable (Proverbs 10:20; John 9:13-34)
  • Being sarcastic, hurtful, or degrading (Proverbs 12:18, 24)
  • A lack of service (Galatians 5:13; Ephesians 2:10)
  • A lack of compassion (Matthew 5:7, 18:23-35)
  • Being defensive or blame-shifting (Genesis 3:12-13; Proverbs 12:1)
  • A lack of admitting when you are wrong (Proverbs 10:17)
  • A lack of asking forgiveness (Matthew 5:23-24)
  • A lack of biblical prayer (Luke 18:10-14)
  • Resisting authority or being disrespectful (1 Peter 2:13-17)
  • Voicing preferences or opinions when not asked (Philippians 2:1-4)
  • Minimizing your own sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5)
  • Maximizing others’ sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5; Luke 18:9-14)
  • Being impatient or irritable with others (Ephesians 4:21-32)
  • Being jealous or envious (1 Corinthians 13:4)
  • Using others (Matthew 7:12; Philippians 2:3-4)
  • Being deceitful by covering up sins, faults and mistakes (Proverbs 11:3; 28:13)
  • Using attention-getting tactics (1 Peter 3:3, 4)
  • Not having close relationships (Proverbs 18:1-2; Hebrews 10:24-25)
The bible says Proverbs 16.5: Everyone with a conceited heart is disgusting to the LORD

I don't know if this helps, but I have been trying to do this on my own strenght and that was being Proud. I am learning to completely give it up to God and humble myself. His time is perfect.

I would say 1/3 of the list describes me. I already know that I need to be more thankful. This has opened my eyes to things I need to work on.

Thank you.
 
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