Like for many of us, this prayer and thread is right on time for me, I could have used it earlier, but I could definitely use it now. So I have a prayer request since it's about marriage prayers for singles... And if there is already a prayer thread, then someone please point me to it.... --side note, are any ladies interested in doing a sort of once monthly prayer circle about this subject? I'd be interested if others are... I dont know about you guys, but I dont have as much guidance in my life as I need on this path towards pursuing marriage and sometimes I'm just a girl needing her mom, you know. Sometimes I want someone to say you know, it's okay where you are and embrace me when I need it. I am blessed to have awesome friends and family, but my situation is quite unique...
I will be 31 next month, I am still single, never really dated until now, and still waiting for my husband, and staying pure... It's all quite difficult, and sometimes I read these threads about people who are being celibate or pure, or keeping their virginity, and it's like people have no idea that people waiting are those who are truly the passionate ones, for we wait for God's best which is far above anything we can go out here and find to meet our immediate gratifications. For those women who say we are missing out, I feel sorry because they have no idea that the Creator of sex itself is in charge of my life and will give me not only the sex life some dream of, but will give ma marriage and intimate life that will blow my mind, and glorify Him all in the same! I can't wait!
I've been praying a lot over the past year and I feel the Lord had really put it in my heart to pursue some things educationallly and professionally, but also pursuing marriage more focused like going on dates, etc... and being more involved in the process rather than staying home every weekend... I ask that you all would pray for peace for me, for continual direcdtion from the Lord for my job, my church, and people that I agree to even meet, for my social circles and the development of, and for his protection. This is huge, and quite difficult, and all I have is the Lord, and I must trust Him and His promises...
I am esp thankful for the prayers and the posts here. Just because I'm a virgin, I don't expect my husband to be. But I do expect him to have a commitment to purity because now he knows better and realizes it's wrong, he's robbing himself and his future wife, and that it's the will of God that he commits himself to God and to his future wife... So while I realize that at my age, 30, there aren't a lot of virgin men out there, I do believe there are men woh have dedicated themselves to the Lord and are really obeying Him in the area, even when they find it hard to....
The other thing I have issue with is I dont have children, no ex's, no nothing. It doesn't make me self-righteous, but it does present the fact that I have a lot less baggage to bring to the table. He seems to have an amicable relationship with his ex, and a good realtionship with his daughter who is 13... He told me that he wants to know if i'm interested and doesn't want me to waste his time if i'm not. I simply said you know what, I just moved here, my mind is full and i'm not ready to make such a decision, but I would like to get to jusyt know you better and be friends, without it being any pursuing towards any type of relationship other than that and he agreed... He then goes on to talk about his beliefs about being a good provider, he's romantic, passionate, all of those things, adn would spoil his wife.. He's also not a bad looking man, he's just a little shorter than me and of course, 14 years older and looks it.... I felt overwhelmed, and I was like wow God, I dont kinow what to do. I dontw ant to close the door on this if this is you, but I really need you to speak to me concerning this. And I come in here tonight nad read this thread and was blessed, and also the post someone wrote about not allowing someone to pressure you...
My cousins have advised for me not to be someone's second wife, that he's too old, that 14 years is a heck of a difference, and that I should be patient and continue to wait... But i'm like what IF this is what God has for me? It's not what I've asked for, or really what I want, but are those just my prejudices? I know htat all divorced people aren't unmarriageable, but sometimes I think it helps when poeple are in like situations. I.E. divorced with kids.
With what you know, can anyone offer advice, and some direction on how I should pursue or not pursue this, how to pray about it, and if this is a suitable relationship for a young woman my age and in my place in life? Many have told me no, and I guess I need confirmation. This man seems like he'd really make a great husband, he'd be a very romantic and caring person, he seems to have a heart of great charity and he does have a relationship with God. Those are things i'm looking for in a mate, but just because he has those qualities, and other men will too, I dont know that it means THAT'S the person for me, just because he has them. Afterall, many men (I hope) that I meet, maybe even at church, will probably have those qualities, but doesn't mean we are for each other... Thanks for listening... I'm glad that tonight I will have the strength to pray rather than cry myself asleep...
Shimmiee, you hit it on the head with these prayers and I'm grateful for them... I"ve been praying for years for a husband, and promised the lord at 13 that I'd stay pure for my husband. With all of my friends now married, most didn't wait, just married the person they happened to be "with" at the moment, well, they've all moved on to marriage, and are finishing up having their kids I haven't even started... And I"m still lookign around waiting for God's promises in my own life as I counsel them... Sometimes, I feel it's just unfair and like God is mocking me, making me a joke, a spectacle, while poeple talk about me, and say I'm waisting my time (not my friends though. They are amazing and encourage me to wait, esp becuase they didn't and know the issues it's brought in their lives)... Sometimes I'm like why does every one around me keep getting married but me? Am I not enough, where's my guy, you know?
People make jokes of people who are waiting and have no idea what it's like to long for something like someone to love, for intimacy, for all of those things. It's like just because I'm obeying the Lord, doesn't mean I dont struggle to stay pure, or that I dont have desire. In fact, I think it's actually off the charts, and creates such a longing in your heart... I know without a doubt it's the way that the Lord desires for us to experience love here on this earth from our husbands. It's sad many will miss out on it...
My husband will certainly be second to God, but I know and dont expect him to meet all my needs. Only God can. And while my life is blessed with those who love me and support me, I am missing my partner and longing for him. You can have all the best frineds in the world, but there are certain things a husband can only provide, and I dont just mean sex... I look forward to having a balanced life soon, a life full, babies and a family, and inviting others into mine, esp those singles who really need to be part of a family such as my current situation...
It's very hard sometimes, or even very often. I pray that I will be in teh place that I need to be to meet my husband and that I will know. Please pray for me whenever you think about it... I appreciate it so much! And thank you for your prayers here! All of you! If you are interested in the once a month circle for this specific subject, please PM me and we can start a thread...
Bless you all... and if you're interested, check out my blog on marriage, sexuality, purity, etc...
www.beforetheknot-andafter.blogspot.com Please leave comments there and let me know what you think!!
Hey Mitcy (You and your future husband. 
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. Wisdom, truth and knowledge never gets old it merely becomes better in time. I personally have read this entire thread at least 3 times since the original posting and each time I pick up something new. 
dodging bricks and firey darts for standing on God's Word and His foundation. 
Rejoicing in you being such a one to still see Marriage as God sees it, as a 'Sacred Consecrated' Union between a man and his wife.
There are some cute babies on LHCF!
