Old Virgins Looking for Husbands Challenge

How old are you?

  • <20

    Votes: 2 5.0%
  • 20-29

    Votes: 25 62.5%
  • 30-39

    Votes: 8 20.0%
  • 40+, (please state age in a post if in this category) :)

    Votes: 5 12.5%

  • Total voters
    40
  • Poll closed .

Xerxes

Well-Known Member
Ok, first, let's get an idea for who the oldest virgin looking for a husband is. So if you plan on remaining a virgin forever, this thread is not for you.

I am trying to find girls in the same boat as myself who have been waiting on their Boaz for so long that they are truly wondering if God wants them to even have a husband in the first place.


So please answer the poll and answer the following questions so we can begin a dialogue and begin praying our future relationships into existence and take ownership of our situation and not sit around feeling left behind.

1) How old are you?

2) How long have you been a Christian?

3) Why do you think you are without a spouse?

4) What actions are you taking to get a spouse?

5) What makes you think you are ready to receive a spouse?

6) What are you willing to offer your future husband?

I'll start off. I'm a 29 year old who's been a Christian for 16 years. I've lived a complete abstinent lifestyle, moreso because I have never seen any benefit to engaging in sexual activity of any sort outside of marriage.

Now that I am doing my countdown to 30, I have woefully realized that I have never had a true romance let alone one true committed relationship. I have dated several men and each of the relationships ended abruptly when I would not move in with them and or sleep with them.

I have yet to meet one attractive man who lives the same Christian lifestyle that I do.

All of the women in relationships that I know have made compromises and it's high-time that I evaluate what kind of man I can be happy with.

I think that I am single because God wants me to be single for this interim.

In order to increase my chances of getting in a worthwhile relationship, I am social and active. I workout everyday. I have a great physique, am attractive, dress well, and am unbelievably personable.

I believe I am ready for a spouse because I have a great sense of self and I am tired of being alone. I want a support system, someone to pick me up if I work past midnight. Until I fly back home, I won't have had a hug in ages. I'm ready to show and receive love.

I'm an affectionate person and this is really starting to wear me down.

As far as what I am willing to offer my future spouse, everything but my soul. I'm an extremely caring person and I truly love making others happy and I do it all day at work. I can't wait to care for someone who willfully chooses to love me back.

To that end, I don't want to end up like the "52 Weeks to Find Him" lady, so I will make this appeal to Jesus and let you ladies either participate or spectate. Jesus, I need a sign that You are in control of this situation and by June 16, 2011, I will have met my fiance and he will be revealed to me by this sign, he will physically grab me by the shoulders and ask for my permission to love, cherish and care for me.

During this time, I will continue being prayerful, volunteer even more at church and tithe sacrificially (ie. in abundance).
 

Choclatcotton

Well-Known Member
Girl good for you, although I dont know if I would do the same way, but keep on praying and believing. Hold your head up high
 

dicapr

Well-Known Member
I'm in the same situation. I'm in summer school and I am suppose to be doing homework-not on LHCF. I will be back to answer your questions later this evening.
 

Xerxes

Well-Known Member
Another relationship/marriage thread...:rolleyes:

Reading is Fundamental!!

If you don't like the topic, please skip the thread. :)

 

Xerxes

Well-Known Member
Girl good for you, although I dont know if I would do the same way, but keep on praying and believing. Hold your head up high

I'm in the same situation. I'm in summer school and I am suppose to be doing homework-not on LHCF. I will be back to answer your questions later this evening.

Thanks, you'll. :)

The funny thing is that I see this stuff manifesting ever since I finished typing that first post. All last evening, I was helping a friend who is planning her wedding and I now have to find an escort. And then this new guy that I never thought much about before is as nice, down to earth and family-oriented as I could want. We have been talking with each other all day and I'm loving it. I could be happy with him. Shoot, I'm already happy. :)
 

michc

Active Member
Ok, first, let's get an idea for who the oldest virgin looking for a husband is. So if you plan on remaining a virgin forever, this thread is not for you.

I am trying to find girls in the same boat as myself who have been waiting on their Boaz for so long that they are truly wondering if God wants them to even have a husband in the first place.


So please answer the poll and answer the following questions so we can begin a dialogue and begin praying our future relationships into existence and take ownership of our situation and not sit around feeling left behind.

1) How old are you?

2) How long have you been a Christian?

3) Why do you think you are without a spouse?

4) What actions are you taking to get a spouse?

5) What makes you think you are ready to receive a spouse?

6) What are you willing to offer your future husband?

I'll start off. I'm a 29 year old who's been a Christian for 16 years. I've lived a complete abstinent lifestyle, moreso because I have never seen any benefit to engaging in sexual activity of any sort outside of marriage.

Now that I am doing my countdown to 30, I have woefully realized that I have never had a true romance let alone one true committed relationship. I have dated several men and each of the relationships ended abruptly when I would not move in with them and or sleep with them.

I have yet to meet one attractive man who lives the same Christian lifestyle that I do.

All of the women in relationships that I know have made compromises and it's high-time that I evaluate what kind of man I can be happy with.

I think that I am single because God wants me to be single for this interim.

In order to increase my chances of getting in a worthwhile relationship, I am social and active. I workout everyday. I have a great physique, am attractive, dress well, and am unbelievably personable.

I believe I am ready for a spouse because I have a great sense of self and I am tired of being alone. I want a support system, someone to pick me up if I work past midnight. Until I fly back home, I won't have had a hug in ages. I'm ready to show and receive love.

I'm an affectionate person and this is really starting to wear me down.

As far as what I am willing to offer my future spouse, everything but my soul. I'm an extremely caring person and I truly love making others happy and I do it all day at work. I can't wait to care for someone who willfully chooses to love me back.

To that end, I don't want to end up like the "52 Weeks to Find Him" lady, so I will make this appeal to Jesus and let you ladies either participate or spectate. Jesus, I need a sign that You are in control of this situation and by June 16, 2011, I will have met my fiance and he will be revealed to me by this sign, he will physically grab me by the shoulders and ask for my permission to love, cherish and care for me.

During this time, I will continue being prayerful, volunteer even more at church and tithe sacrificially (ie. in abundance).

I just wanted to say DON'T GIVE UP! God bless you and continue to strengthen you (and any other ladies in the same position) whilst you are being faithfull to His Word. It takes guts to go against what the world says you should be doing.

I wanted to encourage you - I was a virgin until I was 33 (until I got married). I am now 40 and still married :grin: with 2 children.
So keep on keeping on - it's tough - but with God it's ALWAYS worth it.
 

naijamerican

Well-Known Member
Xerxes, I could have written your post word for word except for the length of time of being a Christian (for me it's been 15, not 16, years). I think I need to start praying the same thing you are. I am struggling to not lose heart and trying to discern the intersection between faith and deeds in this context. :ohwell:
 

cheetarah1980

Well-Known Member
I wish you the very best in finding your husband. During the next year do you have any specific action steps you plan to take in order to meet more men and date?
 

kayte

Well-Known Member
Oh, who is the 40+ virgin? How old are you? :)

OP-it's an anonymous poll! which you initated:grin:

if the person did not identify who she is or her age
(and your poll already makes that request)
then perhaps.... allow & respect privacy please
after all- the poll is only a suggestion...yes?

These {below} seem to be more pertinent questions:yep:

During the next year do you have any specific action steps you plan to take in order to meet more men and date?

I wish you all the best in your quest.........
 
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Valerie

Well-Known Member
Xerxes, I'm very proud of you, have a specific plan of action. Go to nice places, keep yourself looking good. Stand on the word of God and thank God for your husband and you will get him!
 

Shimmie

"God is the Only Truth -- Period"
Staff member
Virgins are never 'old'.... neither 'dusty nor rusty'... neither will they be in vain nor a waste....

They are instead, God's gift...

Always 'Fresh' and Anointed and Appointed' for 'he' whom God hath joined together and no man can put asunder. :yep: :love3: :yep:
 

softblackcotton

Well-Known Member
Is a 26 year old virgin considered an old virgin? I really want to get married before I turn 30 since I am saving myself for marriage. However, I've been meeting absolutely nobody at all. I haven't even been on a real date for a long while. Sometimes, I wonder how long God will have me wait. 5, 10, 15 more years? Should I be more proactive about finding someone or should I just sit back being passive just wait...? It's really hard to figure out what God wants me to do.

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topsyturvy86

Well-Known Member
Praying for you Xerxes, with the dates and all. Please don't forget to keep us posted and come back to give your testimony and encouragement when you find your man.

I'm believing God to meet a nice Christian man too this year and to be engaged by the end of the year so keep me in ur prayers also.

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DaiseeDay

New Member
Virgins are never 'old'.... neither 'dusty nor rusty'... neither will they be in vain nor a waste....

They are instead, God's gift...

Always 'Fresh' and Anointed and Appointed' for 'he' whom God hath joined together and no man can put asunder. :yep: :love3: :yep:

Oooh So, true!

OP - I want to say keep trusting God and praying for you future husband - I'm right there with you.

I'm only 18, and I've only really been waiting for two years, but that feels like forever when you're waiting and impatient like me :)

Should we start a new thread for younger people who are waiting?
 

God_Favor

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Wow, intrestresing thread!!!! There is a baby pic on the op avatar. Soooo, Im hoping she has a surprising update!!!@

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Butterfly08

New Member
Wow, intrestresing thread!!!! There is a baby pic on the op avatar. Soooo, Im hoping she has a surprising update!!!@

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Bwahaha I reeeeaaaallllly don't think that's her baby. At least I hope not. :look: It's an old pic that's been floating around the Internet about an infant with floor length weave. :ohwell:


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