I had a consultation at a hair salon I've been wanting to try. The stylist sat me down (she knows her stuff and is VERY professional), looked over my hair and asked me several questions about ME and my hair. First let me say, girlfriend was on point. The things she asked would seem like random questions but they were all "hair" related. For example - she asked me how often I worked out, if I sweat a lot, how I wore my hair when at the gym, what was my hair routine on gym days, my wash routine, what are my favorite and least favorite products and why, she asked about my diet (cakes, pies, M&Ms and steak), etc. All this info gave her insight to the health of my hair and how she can help me care for and style my hair. I was so in love with her!
Anyhoo, we then talked about my hair being texlaxed. Guess what she said?
Basically, I am old, my hair is old and ornery and having been natural for 5 years makes it next to impossible to get it as straight as it was before I went natural without causing major damage. Of course she said all this in the most professional, polite way possible but I do not feel like typing all that. After I got over myself, I realized that she just might be right; after all, she did go to cosmetology school.
I got my first relaxer when I was 13. My hair was still in it's infancy. It had no idea what kind of hair it wanted to be. Now that Sistah Girl (my hair) is grown, she is set in her ways - KINKY and COILY - and she does not want to do anything else. Now it makes since why my old hairdresser always commented about my hair being really coarse and using up all her relaxer. Of course I want it to be bone straight but, obviously, that is no longer something I should waste my wishes on. My hair isn't under processed, it is what it is and unless I want to be bald, I have to live with texlaxed hair. It might get a tiny bit straighter but never 13 year old straight. I'm sad.
I really, really do enjoy having telexed hair but bone straight hair is ideal for me. Who knew that hair is just as complex as we are. It goes through it's own thing too. Hair gets old. Hair definitely gets grumpy - as we can see by the fact that there are forums about hair. And it does what it wants to do when it gets ready. Yeah, we can train our hair to do this and that but if Sistah Girl doesn't feel like it on that particular day then you will be wearing a wig to work! We just had a fight Monday! I did my normal wash routine and knew my hair would be gorgeous come Monday morning. Ladies! I took off that scarf and it looked like I let Don King do my hair! I spent an extra hour trying to make it look decent enough for Corporate America but my hair was not having it! It even looked bad in a ponytail. I had to slap a wig on.
Long story short, my hair is old and crazy and I have to live with it. I'm going to eat some cake and ice cream followed by peanut M&Ms and call it a day.
