Discussion in 'Christian Fellowship' started by Glib Gurl, Nov 10, 2013.
This is a hard one! God has been dealing with me on contentment.
I Corinthians 7:17 and Philippians 4:11-13
Really profound stuff
You know it's bad when ya grandmama is trying to hook you up. Lord, help me.
I wish I had someone trying to hook me up. That's how things USED to be: Family and well meaning people looking out for their loved ones. A girl whose blog I used to follow and randomly checked out after years of not reading it got engaged in a 6 month time frame to a guy her MOM scoped out at church and gave him her number. Shoot, I'll take your gran. Nothing wrong with that.
I know. It just feels weird... like my grandmother is trying to set me up I feel like a failure.
To make a long story short... she says to me the other day... you know the new musician we have... he thinks you're pretty. Oh ok. That's nice granny. I didn't really say much else about it. Yesterday she says he was going to pick her up for church now, I usually pick her up on Sundays for church because physically she can't get around on her own anymore. So I said OK so I don't have to pick you up in the morning and she's like yes you do, he has a truck I can't get in there. So this morning she tells me she called him and told him that he didn't have to pick her up because I was taking her. Now, she's never said anything about this man. He's been a musician at our church for at least a year now so I'm wondering where all of this is going. We had a death in our family and I found out from my cousin that he was at my grandmother's house pretty late one night last week chatting with the family which is when the topic of me being pretty came up.
So today at church our usual drum player wasn't there so this guy was on drums. He usually plays the guitar. Fine. So my grandmother sat in the back because she couldn't really make it to the front of the church so I sat on the pew behind her and I slid over a bit because otherwise I would've been directly behind her. So church service is going on and when the word was getting ready to be delivered, I look up and he's standing next to me. I'm confused. My wallet and my fan are sitting to the left of me. So he asks me to move my things and he sat beside me. Ummmm, OK? Very weird. Usually during the word, the musicians sit on their chairs close to their instruments. Uh. So I'm very confused. My pastor played a September 11th remembrance video and then he says to me I could never forget that day because my birthday is the day before or something like that... and I'm like Oh, OK. I mean, what was I supposed to say?
I said I was going to keep this short. But anyway. I feel a certain way about being discussed while I'm not around. Apparently they started discussing me because at my cousins funeral last Saturday, my cousins sister in law said to me you always look so nice. She then proceeds to say you're pretty for big girl. Errrr? So I told her I'm pretty for any type of girl. I almost cussed her out in the church house, yall pray for me. I need deliverance from the foul language. So apparently that particular conversation came up when he was at my grandmother's house and then he said something about me being pretty. Whatever. I just don't feel like being set up right now. I don't even want to deal with the distraction. I just got to a better head space and I'm just really not here for any of it. It's weird.
Honestly, I'm feeling insecure about having to have someone set me up I need to stop. But I don't know. I'm not feeling this. It's now making me not wanna go to church. Yall pray for me. I'm sorry, I didn't mean for this to be so long
I think it sounds kinda sweet...you need to stop and give the guy a chance if he gets up the courage to ask you out You never know...God can implant feelings into our hearts for people #justsaying
We will see. I just really don't even know anymore. My flesh is ready but I'm not ready for any of this. If that makes any sense.
@bellatiamarie at least you know what the guy look like.....my BFF....bff....is trying to hook me up on a blind date.
Now that's rock bottom.
Oh goodness. I feel sick at the mere thought of a blind date.
I think everyone around me wants me to be married more than I want to be married. The older I get, the more averse to commitment I become. I don't think I can deal. I want to be married. But Lord I will run if I get tired of a situation and you can't be running away from problems in a marriage. I ain't ready yall. I'm going backwards I'm ready for love, but not ready for marriage, commitment and all that stuff.
LOL!!! We must be twins. I feel the exact same way. I want love and a committed CHRISTIAN relationship for right now.
The guy will have to convinced me that he's worth sharing my freedom with him.
@bellatiamarie Girl you better let that boy talk to you! You got single ladies wishing a man would even look their way. God always interrupts us once we finally start getting it together. Don't miss out on this opportunity just because it feels uncomfortable. God doesn't work in the business of making us feel comfortable lol
You're right! I'll see. I just don't like to be thrown off my game! I'm good right now. But there's nothing wrong with seeing where it goes, if it goes.
He is about holiness and sanctification. Won't always be easy or comfortable.
He has taken me out on some limbs this year...
And that's when the right one usually comes alone...when you're doing good and feeling content.
I thought this was very beautiful and inspiring: http://www.waitingforyourboaz.com/future-husband/
That's awesome that your GM is looking out for you that way. Sometimes the past generations new best. Just pray on it, this might be Gods way of making things happen who knows.
Beautiful testimony. I needed that word thanks
Is it better to pray for clarity or trust in God’s will?
It sounds so simple to say, “Just do the will of God.” It is simple and there is beauty and genius in simplicity, but simple and easy are not the same. In many things, perhaps in most things, the will of God is easily known. If we accept that we should love God and neighbor, a great many of life’s choices become clear: We should not steal, murder, or covet or neighbor’s husband or wife. If we accept that God has not created us to be some second-rate version of ourselves, but that God yearns for us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves, then a great many more of life’s choices become very clear–perhaps clearer than we would like. Should we work out or watch endless hours of television? It is easy to see God’s will in the context of his desire for us to become all he created us to be.
But there are some decisions, often the most important ones, that do not fall into either of these categories. And often, these are the bigger decisions of our lives. Perhaps you are deciding whether to be a nurse or a teacher. You can love God and neighbor in both of these professions. You can become a-better-version-of-yourself in both of these professions. But which is God calling you to? God speaks to us all in what I call the three ordinary voices of God. They are legitimate needs, deepest desires, and talents, God has given us legitimate needs, dreams and desires, and talents and abilities to help us understand how we might best make a unique contribution. But even after thoroughly examining these it may still not be clear what God’s will is for our lives.
A priest once asked Mother Teresa if she would pray that God would give him clarity in a choice he had to make. She told him, “God may never give you clarity. All you can do is trust.”
Sometimes we think we know for sure, sometimes we think we are pretty sure, and sometimes all we can do is trust. We can know that we are trying to love God and neighbor. We can know that a choice can help us become a-better-version-of-ourselves. We can know that a certain choice is a good fit for our legitimate needs, our unique talents, and our deepest desires. But we won’t necessarily know that something is the will of God. Then, all we can do is trust.
@Lucia God is such a mystery. I spent a lot of time being anxious about whether I was in His will. Finally I realized that His will for me is exactly where I am today. So I'm learning to live in the present and trust that He will change my circumstances when He wills. Doesn't mean it's easy to live where I am today but I think acceptance is a big part and He wants us to thrive exactly where we are planted today. If I never bloom where I am now, how could I think I would bloom in a different season? I think it goes back to what Paul said about contentment. Anyway great article.
This is another hard one: waiting on a guy to take the lead. Ugh! Many of them don't know how but I truly believe "If God desires the friendship to happen, He is perfectly capable of moving upon the guy’s heart to take the first step in reaching out to you. Show that you trust in Him with all your heart by letting Him write the story without any manipulation on your part!"
In anything in life, sometimes all we have is trust because it's a bone-dried desert but we're not empty slates. I dunno about advocating that we be such in regards to finding a mate or even a profession. We are imbued with individual personalities, predilections and world views for a reason.
I keep saying I won't buy any more relationship books LOL but when I saw that the article was excerpts taken from his book, I couldn't help but pick it up. It's really good He talks a lot about the mechanics of how a Godly relationship should progress. I've never seen it laid out like that before in a book. If you enjoyed the article, I highly recommend the book.
Today a guy said to "have faith in Jesus not a ticking clock" to a woman in her late 30s. What are your thoughts ladies? @Shimmie?
I really like the site. Very cute.
Hello @Papoose, I'm obviously not @Shimmie, but I agree with this statement. God is the creator of ALL things. He made the world by speaking, He made a virgin conceive, He raised Christ (and others) from the dead. Absolutely nothing is impossible for Him. Whether the clock is physical or biological, God is greater - the clock can tick all it wants but God created time, and He can restore it, if needs be. See Sarah in Genesis. And Isaiah 38:7-8, Kings 20:8-11. God works miracles, and says to have faith in Him. He is able to do more than we can imagine. So have faith in Him. And listen for His leading, then obey Him. I know it's hard, but He gives us grace to endure. We have to take it. Meanwhile, I say one should do what they can to get/stay healthy. We do what we can and let God do what He can. God bless.
P.S: All that said, it so easy for a man to say that, isn't it? And I hope he said it in an encouraging, not disparaging, way.
I agree. God created time. If He wants you to have babies you will have them. I definitely think about my own clock sometimes but I abandoned my life to Him a while ago. He will decide whether I have babies or not. I will try my best to not step outside His will.
Also, a book I read recently said yo remind yourself often of God's "resume" ie parting the red sea, raising Jesus from the dead etc. He is the God of miracles!
Declare this over your life and prepare to brag on God!
This song gets my heart together quickly lol when I'm doubting.
@blessedandfavoured @Belle Du Jour Thanks for this. As someone in the same boat, I get discouraged too. I think he meant well, but it is very easy for a man to say. Thanks again for the encouragement.
Ladies, God is always willing to encourage Him. He's such a wonderful Father. I saw this and thought of this topic. And I hope this song is encouraging. God bless.