@laCriolla There is a difference between knowing of God and having a personal relationship with him. When you have a personal relationship with God, overtime you distinctly know his voice. I was in the church my entire life and although I identified as a Christian, I did not know God at all. I found myself in a lot of dysfunctional relationships because of it. Men I thought were "good' turned out to be the worst decisions I made.
It could also be that she is choosing not heed the Holy Spirit's promptings. I have done this as well and had to deal with the consequences of not being obedient. If you ask me, this man isn't worthy of the pedestal you're putting him on. Neither is this girl he is dating. There are a lot of assumptions being made.
I went through something similar. As hard as it was, I had to make the decision that I was going to worry about myself and get healed. I could not put energy into the what ifs and whys. Why her? Why am I not enough but she is? I had to battle so many emotions of jealousy, bitterness, grief, etc. But I decided to give all of it to God and learn to forgive this man. I forgave him daily and did not give up until it stuck. To this day, I am intentional about forgiving him when a negative thought crosses my mind.
Yay! I'm so glad to hear you didn't answer. If you happen to get the urge to see what he wants, think about the reason why you two aren't talking in the first place. Also remind yourself that he is not the type of man that you'd want to date.update: I was just sitting on the couch while visiting my mom, and he called me. I did not answer the phone. an hour later he texted asking for 5 minutes of my time, "whenever". I did not respond. I have not heard from him since April ! I can't believe he's calling me. he must need a kidney.
Can you block him from your phone? Seriously, He’s a distraction, an Ishmael he doesn’t deserve any of your time.update: I was just sitting on the couch while visiting my mom, and he called me. I did not answer the phone. an hour later he texted asking for 5 minutes of my time, "whenever". I did not respond. I have not heard from him since April ! I can't believe he's calling me. he must need a kidney.
The quote above is from the good news thread and I just wanted to apply it to our love life as singlistas. All of 2017 I worked for an insurance company in the capital city, it was a one year contract with possibility of becoming a permanent job. Despite the fact that I had an average of 80% for all my evaluations, I knew the vibe was off and that they would come up with some excuse not to keep me. That is exactly what happened.Secured another job a week and a half after leaving my last job. It's a return to a family business I worked for in 2015 so it's more or less familiar, even though there have been some changes. I'm excited because I felt so good working there in 2015, I hope it will be a repeat of that year.
Really what is going on here I keep getting approached by such obvious Ishmaels I mean they’re not even good Ishmaels that check off some of the must haves and deal breakers on my list (my list isn’t long btw) I only made a specific list last year cause I was getting straight ninjas (no income no job no assets and positive attributes) or nice prof men who were emotionally or spiritually bankrupt. The ones I see trying to approach me I can see the wheels turning in their heads from go.
Besides I’m only offering anyone aquaintence-ship then friendship only if you’re not crazy emotionally and or spiritually bankrupt, a player have a live in GF or have one or multiple baby mamma situations. I don’t get it, this is not what I’ve been focused on or praying for at all. I’ve been working on myself inside and out the total makeover so I can be mostly ready when my God appt hubby comes.
Anyways rant done.
I hear you. We shouldn’t get discouraged even though these people keep approaching.I can totally relate. I've been dating more lately after almost 2 years of silence. It was like I was hidden from the opposite sex and now the covers are off and men are approaching me again. Which to be honest is a nice feeling. However like you said I'm looking for a husband and praying for certain things and the men I've come in contact with have not fit those requirements.
I'm getting tired of meeting a bunch of guys only to dismiss them shortly after because their not the one. When I decided to become celibate and wait on The Lord for my husband, I thought he would just show up and that'd be the end of it. No more dating......
Beautiful story, and those shops look so pretty and picturesque they should be on postcards. I love little boutiques mom and pop shops they have the unique finds.
These are photographs of my favorite bookshop in my city. It's also not too far from my home. On January 2nd I visited the shop on the left, where there used to be a pharmacy. Apparently they've come to the conclusion that greeting cards and books have more healing potential than medication HA.
Anyhoo, here's how the conversation went when I walked in:
Me: Madam, are those the Moleskine notebooks on the table?
Cashier: No, these are actually the predecessors of the Moleskine notebooks.
Me: :0. May I ask you one more question?
Cashier: Of course!
Me: Are you in any way affiliated with the bookshop next door, the Limerick?
Cashier: Yes, we are husband and wife.
This may seem mundane to some of you, but it gave me so much hope. When one has been single for a long time, you start to question your dreams about love and whether you should maybe lower your aspirations a little. But here is a modern couple that is redefining what it means to be in a relationship in the 21st century. They work next door to each other, the husband probably helped her financially open up her shop, they both have a passion for books and so much more. Keep dreaming ladies, dream real & big dreams.
It’s natural to feel something but you’re right just keep focusing on God. Hope you feel better.So.... The guitarist from my church that I told y’all about is getting married in August I’m laughing but I feel a certain way about it but can’t really pinpoint one specific emotion. A part of me feels relieved because I had a feeling he was Ishmael for me. I also kinda was feeling like he was in a hurry to be married anyway and if I wasn’t the one to fall in line he would find somebody to and quickly. And another part of me feels sadness. I’m not going to lie—I shed a tear or two . But I feel a bit of sadness for me not for the loss of him if that makes sense but because... well... here I am yet again. But I have hope that I will be OK and ultimately know that everything ain’t for everybody but I also know that there’s somebody for me. So, me and God will be nurturing a small wound to my heart for a little bit but I will survive!
I should’ve followed my first mind in this situation then finding out he was getting married wouldve been a non-factor for me right now. Even though we had a little back and forth, I did invest a little too much time and energy into that situation. So, now I’m left with a few ambivalent feelings when I shouldn’t feel no two ways about it all.
Holy Spirit has been revealing so much in my life and the opening of my eyes has been so rewarding in each and every situation. These revelations just remind me that He is protecting me. At the beginning of this year I decided that I would intentionally not date and I would not entertain a man in any way until my 34th birthday in October. I really have some soul searching to do. I feel like I’ve been soul searching for a very long time but honestly I need God more than I need a husband or a relationship so I’m going to be obedient and continue building my house on The Solid Rock.
Yes you’re right.... It’s a heart issue. That’s the same thing the Holy Spirit revealed to me in prayer.It’s natural to feel something but you’re right just keep focusing on God. Hope you feel better.
That’s why we have to be more carfile with our hearts for most women it’s easy to catch feelings but I’m glad you stuck to your instincts.
Check out the Old and new Testament about “divorce” tooThis is an excerpt from the Bollywood movie Barsaat I believe:
P: How do you say 'divorce' in Hindi?
P: Wrong answer. 'Talaak' is not Hindi, it is Urdu. It's a word the Pakistani borrowed from the Muslims.
We do not have a word for 'divorce' in Hindi, because we do not believe in it.
Did some more research on it and this is what I could find: https://www.quora.com/Is-there-a-word-for-divorce-in-Hindi-or-Sanskrit. Apparently they had to invent a word in 1955, because of what was happening in society. It did not exist prior to that time. Can't wait to do more research on it. I know it's not from Christian culture, but I just thought it would be interesting during this #lovemonth.