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Single Christian Women's Support Thread

Natural Love

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Do you know if there is one already started? If so, can the link be posted?

If not, can we start one?

Who would be interested in a thread that caters to the difficulties single women face on a day to day basis and offer encouragement for one another?
 

loolalooh

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I haven't see a thread like this, but I'm certainly interested in joining. It's difficult going at this along sometimes. My current challenges in being a Single Christian Woman include:

- patience in waiting my future husband; I'm getting better about the patience though
- turning down certain outings with my Single friends (such as the club/lounge); so far, I've been diligent about this, but I'm saddened by the actual loss of friendships with these women; however, I know that it is not a part of the plan that I meet my future husband at these places
- the whole lifestyle change; for me, at least, I can't watch my favorite shows like "The Bachelor" anymore; shows like this make me feel like I allowed "The One" to walk out of my life
 

Natural Love

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As for me, a newly single Christian woman who wants to dedicate herself to the Lord, I need a lot of support and I think that it would be helpful to have people who have the same or similar struggles to let us know that we are not alone and give us support and advice to get through some of the difficult challenges.

I am praying for others to be as excited as you are....
 

Natural Love

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Welcome Nubiennze...I am praying that we all get the support, comfort and advice (as well as spiritual food) we need in this thread.
 

LongTimeComing

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I'm game. Having someone who understand why I can no longer do the things I used to is invaluable. To have that support and advice from a Christian perspective would be lovely. I really don't have a loneliness issue right now, but I know I will down the line.
 

Natural Love

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I really don't have a loneliness issue right now, but I know I will down the line.


I do. Just recently broke up:sad:. It was a blessing but leaves and emptiness nonetheless. The breakup was definitely a blessing as the entire relationship was a struggle. One day, I got down on my knees and prayed that God would take this relationship and do what He would according to his will. I prayed for an answer and I got one. It's hard, but I have to know that this is God's will and God will give us what we need and not what we want.

I still praise his name and praying for Him to enter into my life and to fix me from whatever I lack as a Woman of God.
 

Rapunzel*

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good thread. i will definitely be subscribing, thanks for making this thread
 

loolalooh

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I'm game. Having someone who understand why I can no longer do the things I used to is invaluable. To have that support and advice from a Christian perspective would be lovely. I really don't have a loneliness issue right now, but I know I will down the line.

I can definitely relate. Hopefully we can find that in this support thread.

I do. Just recently broke up:sad:. It was a blessing but leaves and emptiness nonetheless. The breakup was definitely a blessing as the entire relationship was a struggle. One day, I got down on my knees and prayed that God would take this relationship and do what He would according to his will. I prayed for an answer and I got one. It's hard, but I have to know that this is God's will and God will give us what we need and not what we want.

I still praise his name and praying for Him to enter into my life and to fix me from whatever I lack as a Woman of God.

I can relate to this as well; broke up a few months ago and it's still hard sometimes. At first I was angry, empty, and lonely because I thought he was the One ... but in time I learned that he was not the one God intended me to marry in the future. I look back on the relationship and see ways in which it actually held me back spiritually, etc. Our breakup was a blessing.

You're right; God will give us what we need. God's will is best.

You'll get through this loneliness. Prayer and the Word will help as well as a solid Christian community. Starting this thread was a great idea. We'll hopefully all benefit from it.
 

LongTimeComing

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I do. Just recently broke up:sad:. It was a blessing but leaves and emptiness nonetheless. The breakup was definitely a blessing as the entire relationship was a struggle. One day, I got down on my knees and prayed that God would take this relationship and do what He would according to his will. I prayed for an answer and I got one. It's hard, but I have to know that this is God's will and God will give us what we need and not what we want.

I still praise his name and praying for Him to enter into my life and to fix me from whatever I lack as a Woman of God.

I just went through this very thing. I am newly single for the first time in 4 years. I miss him, I am worried about him, I love what God has done for me more, I love my new SO( myself) more. I needed to be apart from him, it wasn't a healthy relationship in my opinion.

I am so newly single, that it may not count to many people. Maybe in time my feelings will change, hopefully they will stay the same though. :) However when I feel like crying about him I listen to Cry Your Last Tear- Bishop Paul Morton and it makes me feel better.
 
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Natural Love

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I just went through this very thing. I am newly single for the first time in 4 years. I miss him, I am worried about him, I love what God has done for me more, I love my new SO( myself) more. I needed to be apart from him, it wasn't a healthy relationship in my opinion.

I was with my SO for going on 2 years and I realized that in the beginning it seemed as though he was a true Christian. Well, after so long, I began to realize that his ways were not of the Lord and slowly I began to follow his path (the SO, that is). I began struggling more and more with the relationship until I prayed to God to remove all that is not beneficial to me. I slowly began t realize that this relationship is not (in it's current state) what God wanted in my life. It was unpleasing to him. It doesn't hurt as much as I feel that it should seeing how we were together for that long but like I said in my earlier post it does bring about some loneliness and adjustment. I am just keeping my eyes focused on God and what he wants for my life. That brings me peace.

In case you ladies are interested, Sidney posted a worthwhile thread of youtube videos: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=432680&highlight=silly

I know I want to spend this time "preparing" and building myself. (P.S. Don't be turned off by the title "SILLY".)

Thanks for this... I will definitely listen to each and everyone.
 

Natural Love

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Please forgive my rudeness!

Welcome Blessed 626, MSDR and Rapunzel.

May you be richly blessed, comforted and spiritually fed in this thread..
 

LongTimeComing

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I was with my SO for going on 2 years and I realized that in the beginning it seemed as though he was a true Christian.


I thought the exact same thing! He hit me with that cliche, ' I am spiritual not religious'. Which equated to him acting crazy, doing the same things over and over, complaining about his life and then going to church every 4 months as a last resort. I did like you and started following his ways. Now that I getting regrounded it became and issue for our relationship, hence it's ending.
 

Natural Love

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I thought the exact same thing! He hit me with that cliche, ' I am spiritual not religious'. Which equated to him acting crazy, doing the same things over and over, complaining about his life and then going to church every 4 months as a last resort. I did like you and started following his ways. Now that I getting regrounded it became and issue for our relationship, hence it's ending.

It's too bad that a man that is suppose to lead us to God can actually make us lose our focus on God. But thank God that He is a forgiving God and loves us so much that even when we falter, He still loves us and loves us enough to remind us that we need to turn our focus back on Him.

Thank you Lord for your undying love!
 

hair_rehab

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Great Thread! I know that we have gone or are going through some challenges in our lives as single women, but this is a good way to use our experiences as testimonies to each other since we are sisters in Christ.
 

Natural Love

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Great Thread! I know that we have gone or are going through some challenges in our lives as single women, but this is a good way to use our experiences as testimonies to each other since we are sisters in Christ.

Thank you for coming onboard.... we are excited to have you!
 

LongTimeComing

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It's too bad that a man that is suppose to lead us to God can actually make us lose our focus on God. But thank God that He is a forgiving God and loves us so much that even when we falter, He still loves us and loves us enough to remind us that we need to turn our focus back on Him.

Thank you Lord for your undying love!

So true! If I had to put my hope for eternity in man I would be in deep trouble, but God as you said is a forgiving God. It's the not so gentle reminders that help me remember who is my Savior and who is a distraction.
 

Natural Love

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Just checking in. Hoping all of my Christian Ladies had a wonderful weekend and hoping you have a blessed and prosperous week.

God bless you all!
 

Natural Love

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May this bring someone comfort and understanding.

Season of Singleness
Creflo A. Dollar

We live in a microwave society. People want everything now! Whether it's losing weight, developing friendships, or choosing a mate, people have seemingly dismissed the time factor. People have allowed their age, loneliness, and even suggestions from well—meaning loved ones to cause them to get in such a hurry to find the perfect one, that they become discouraged.

Many people think God has forgotten them. They think He doesn't care about their desire for marriage. The truth is, God knows everything you need, want, and desire. In fact, it was God that put the very desire for marriage within you; He will bring that desire to pass in due season.

Throughout life, we experience different seasons. Consider your time of singleness as preparation for the next season of your life. Preparation is essential in your taking advantage of opportunities in life, so be prepared! Don't just sit around wasting time, frustrated about being single. Act on your faith, and prepare yourself for the marriage you desire! Use this time as an opportunity to love yourself. I know it may sound cliché, but it's true. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people trying to love someone else, when they haven't even discovered how to love themselves; those marriages almost never work.

Don't allow your judgment to be clouded by TV, family members, or even fantasies you've created in your imagination. Marriage is much more than a picture perfect ceremony and wedding cake. Being married is work, and your success in marriage will depend on your success as a single person. Marriage is not a cure—all for your insecurities. If you are not content in your singleness, you won't be content in your marriage.

If you desire marriage, I encourage you to seek God first. Develop a strong, personal relationship with Him. He must be first before you can enjoy a relationship with anyone else. Fellowship with Him in the secret place. There, He will show you intimacy that no human being could ever show you. Once you have reached that place in Him, you will be content, fulfilled, and truly ready for the mate you desire.

I love you, and I pray the peace of God be over everything you desire.



— Dr. Creflo A. Dollar



Scripture References:

Psalm 37:4, 5

Matthew 6:33

Ecclesiastes 3:1—8

Hosea 4:6

Luke 12:29—31

2 Corinthians 10:3—5

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loolalooh

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Don't allow your judgment to be clouded by TV, family members, or even fantasies you've created in your imagination. Marriage is much more than a picture perfect ceremony and wedding cake. Being married is work, and your success in marriage will depend on your success as a single person. Marriage is not a cure—all for your insecurities. If you are not content in your singleness, you won't be content in your marriage.

If you desire marriage, I encourage you to seek God first. Develop a strong, personal relationship with Him. He must be first before you can enjoy a relationship with anyone else. Fellowship with Him in the secret place. There, He will show you intimacy that no human being could ever show you. Once you have reached that place in Him, you will be content, fulfilled, and truly ready for the mate you desire.

I had to bold these especially.

He's so right about the external sources that cloud our judgment (e.g., TV, music, family). I have to filter a lot of what I watch these days because of the idolized and idealized view of marriage/relationships on TV.
 

divya

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Thank you for this thread.

I do. Just recently broke up:sad:. It was a blessing but leaves and emptiness nonetheless. The breakup was definitely a blessing as the entire relationship was a struggle. One day, I got down on my knees and prayed that God would take this relationship and do what He would according to his will. I prayed for an answer and I got one. It's hard, but I have to know that this is God's will and God will give us what we need and not what we want.

I still praise his name and praying for Him to enter into my life and to fix me from whatever I lack as a Woman of God.

I just went through this very thing. I am newly single for the first time in 4 years. I miss him, I am worried about him, I love what God has done for me more, I love my new SO( myself) more. I needed to be apart from him, it wasn't a healthy relationship in my opinion.

I can relate to both of you. My relationship lasted around 4 years and ended last summer. We were engaged, but I prayed to the Lord about it, to show me what to do. He answered. It's difficult because I just didn't want to start over again. But it was a blessing! God is good.

My prayer is that we all let God lead us.
 
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