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pebbles said:
Hi sutton989!
Let me start by saying that I'm not offended by your questions/comments.
I don't think it's about not being happy with what we have, it's about wanting to gain the most of what we CAN have.
I personally believe that the school of thought that says long hair is a white woman trait, needs to be eradicated. That whole idea has caused a division between many black women, with a percentage of black women thinking that those of us who want to have long hair are not happy being black or want to develope traits that are not intended for us; that's false. Long hair is for anyone who can have it, and most black women can have it, they've just been taught that they can't.
We all want healthy hair, that's a given, but with healthy hair comes growing hair, and for many of us that growth can take us to lengths we never thought we could have. It's time that black women, as a whole, came to the realization that short hair is NOT a black hair characteristic. If you want your hair short, great! If you want it longer, it is possible. You do NOT have to resign yourself to having short hair just because you're black.
One woman dared to dream that there could be a place where black women could come together and talk about the growth and maintenance of long hair on black women whether relaxed, texturized, or natural and appropriately named that place the Long Hair Care Forum.
There is no self-hate involved in trying to grow your hair long. Hang with us for a bit longer. You won't find another place on the internet with more educated and enlightened black women happy and proud to be who they are while growing their hair, (whatever the texture may be), as long as they can.
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As usual, pebbles, thank you for your compassion.
Although I realize this is a volatile subject, I don't think that she was trying to be offensive and I don't take any offense either.
I do, however, second what all the ladies said about long hair being a personal choice and the inevitable, beautiful result of healthy hair. I'd encourage you to think outside the box, sutton. Just because many AA women are used to having unhealthy, short hair due to unhealthy hair practices doesn't make any of us a sell out for going against the grain. Good luck on your hair journey!