Was our hair meant to be this difficult?

anon123

Well-Known Member
i totally agree

secondly is "our hair" really because of climate? because how do you explain people from India, south america and so forth not having our hair texture?

I don't know. but I just wanted to offer a way of looking at evolutionary change since I saw several people say this. don't know if anyone has said it before, couldn't go through all 55 pages! anyway, a change may happen at some point in history, for example triggered by environmental factors (there are other things that can trigger it, too, like sexual selection as with peacocks). then a group moves from the environment that triggered the change. but just because they moved from that old environment doesn't mean the changed thing is going to revert.

take this as an example. i am not saying this is what happened, since i don't think anyone knows what happens. i sure don't. just a scenario to imagine. and yes, i know it's an oversimplification, i was an anthro major undergrad and had to take the bio anthro courses. but i don't want to write a book here (and really i'm not qualified to do so). imagine kinky hair was the hair of all humans before migration out of africa. then once some humans migrated out, for whatever reasons some groups' hair became straighter. so that the question that might be asked might be, not what happened to make hair kinky, but what ever happened to make people's hair straight? those now straighter haired people dispersed further around the globe and the hair stayed straighter because there was no reason for it to become kinky (remember in this scenario the "reason" is on why hair became straight, not why it became kinky).

also, traits don't really need to have an obvious evolutionary purpose. they can be carry-alongs from something else that did have a purpose. take an example of human-induced selection as with the experiment to breed a tame fox. humans basically selected the most tame individuals from a group and bred them, doing this for several generations. the only thing they were selecting for was tameness. and they got it for the most part. but other characteristics that they had no plan for trying to get came along with that for free. the appearance of the foxes changed as well. so the point is that the foxes don't look different because looking different was evolutionarily beneficial. they look different because being tame was evolutionarily beneficial and those tamer individuals had certain other characteristics that, while not prominent before, combined in this new narrower population in certain ways to effect orthogonal changes.

and like i mentioned before, there's also sexual selection. peacocks have such large elaborate feathers that it makes them slower and easier for predators to catch and eat. in a pretty real sense this is not beneficial. but peahens prefer these feathers so much and are so much more willing to mate with a peacock that has them, that the sexual selection benefits outweigh the natural environment wrt predators. perhaps some group thought straight hair was better looking. perhaps some group thought kinky hair was better looking.

i don't know, really. just throwing out some more ways to think about this.
 

krissynick

New Member
I am sick of my difficult hair. From straight to natural to braids to wigs to braids again. i feel like this is a raw deal. i cuss about it every now and again. forget socialization and all that crap. right now, i wish i had hair that i could sleep on and not worry about breakage, that i could take a swim in the sea and not worry about salt, go to the gym and not worry about whether i should wash everyday or not.


Amen thats exactly how i feel..sometimes... like especially with the going to the gym thing and swimming
 

krissynick

New Member
I will be honest and say I honestly don't know. I still struggle with this.

It just seems like we do SO MUCH to get/retain length that other races don't have to do. It also seems like they can do way more damage to their locks then we can ever do (and have long hair) whether it is relaxed or natural.

I won't say genetics is against us. But sometimes I think, maybe, just maybe, we weren't meant to have long hair. But that's my opinions though.


oh my god you so have a point... they can blow dry the hell outta their hair more than we do and still grow way more hair than us in a few months that we will ever grow in a year... i feell that...
 

krissynick

New Member
What I want to knwo is.. everyone is saying we are trying to work against our hair and all this stuff and not work with what we got... That doesnt make sense to me... there is obviously a reason why we are relaxing it.. we are not doing it for our health.. every black women that you meet is not ashamed of who they are and they dont necessarily hate their hair.... Its the the simple fact that is hard to do... sometiimes... I do belive other races and hair types have problems with hair.. of course we all do but i also belive that we have it the hardest.... i mean i look at other ppl complain about their hair and yes they have a right too but in my mind i always say girl.. you have it easier than i do.. but see they dont know that cause they dont have our hair.... it does take more time and effort which i have accepted and i really dont mind cause i only wash my hair once a week so... im cool but i dont belive we relaxed our hair just to look like other races with other textures.... casue if i could rock the styles i want to my natural hair without damage than do you think i would go relaxed. NO... i would not... Yes i belive god is perfect and he made us this way with no mistakes... but i do belive that there might be a specific reason behind it... like think about it... we have come a long way and we are still learning how to take better care of our hair whether it be natural or relaxed... maybe that was gods purpose just to give us something different and see what we would do with what he gave us.. god does do strange thing sometimes... i mean thinkin about it one day.... we might finally find that reason as to why our hair is like this and find much easier ways to take care of our hair.... and maybe thats what gods puprose is....
think about it do you really think god wants us to struggle with our hair.. he knows we want to wash and go and go swimming without worrying..im pretty sure he knows we long for that but i think there is greater reason behind it...

But i want to kwno from all who say oh work with ur hair and not against it... do you mean that we should never relax cause whenever i hear that phrase i wonder cause its like ... whatever you do to your hair besides washing and drying is working against your hair so i mean is that necessarily a bad thing... no.. its just how it is... i personally am relaxed and dont think i want to be natural cause first not that i hate afros but ... i dont want to be the center of attention wherever i go with a big afro .. yes i said it i dont mind what my hair is but shoot i really dont want to bring more attention to myself... i would be annoyed... and i would get tired of al lthe questions.. and also i personally like other styless and in my opinion the styling options i see for natural hair espeically the coarser 4a/ 4b type i dont like... i dont have time to braid my hair all the time and i dont like putting my hair in on pony tail puff ... and truthfully i think straigtening natural hair so often is more damaging cause u have to do it so often but like i only get a relaxer every few months...


As far as the lenght thing goes.. i do agree it takes us much longer to acheive length than other textures nad im interested in know why..... we have to be so careful with our hair ... its get annoying at time that we have to be so careful nto to do this and not to do that .. but i think its all for a purpose.. one day we will find a way..... i mean i do feel the plight of black ppl though.. think about it we came here as slaves and we looked different ... it wasnt just our hair it was our skin color tooo... and lived in a world among ppl who were also different but hates us for the dumbest reason but anyway...that justh ow it is..

i refuse to believe that god wants us to feel all outta wack becaues of our hair.. that why i belive that he gave madame walker the knowledge to make products that will help lay our hair flatter.. Now that doesnt mean it for everybody but i feel that he gaves us options... and thats always wonderfull.. waht if there was no way to make our hair straight... so i guess im not complaining... my reason for not were my natural hair is just plain and simple styling...

i do understand the OP frustration thats for sure... but one day will we definitely understand why god made us specifically with this hair type.
 

krissynick

New Member
Also not to rant but i was talking to an indian friend of my and she said she never seen a black women with long hair like down to their butt and that statement kinda hurt me... not because of what she said but because i really didnt understand the reason behind it... i have not yet come across a black women who has hair down to their butt... either... long hair yes.. waist length yes but not hair down to their butt and further...

i was hurt cause i couldnt even explain to her why.. like i was mad cause i didnt evn know this for myself... like if there was a specific reason... i would be like oh ok that thats why but i dont even know... she doesnt care but i guess us black women do.. i mean im fine with my hair as long as its healhty and thick... i mean who wants long hair and its gonna be fine and damaged..but i do belive that one day i will achieve great lengths
one reaons is because my hair has always had some length to it... always evne when i was a kid.... its just that when i got perm that dumb lady put extra strength dudley in my hair.. now i still had lenght but over time that stuff damages ur hair... after stop going to that lady.... i started going to the dominicans and they made me trimm alot my hair off... and u know what... with in months of just going to get a wash and set and dc every two weeks.... my hair grew back just fine.... i didnt do anything but go everytwo weeks.. put a lil moisturizer on my hair here and there andmy hair was really nice.. so thats why i feel will definitely achieve a good length one day...cause now i know so much more..... im excited guys cause just thikn about it now i know how to test my hair to see if i need more protein and moisture( thanks to sistaslick) and i knwo how to roller set (thanks to mca) and all the other good things i have learned from all of you guys here on the blog... we just gotta find the one thing that pulls everything together.. we know how our hair is and the texture and how its made and what works good and what doesnt now all we gotta do is just keep trying and one day will reach the whole goal of this forum LON
G BLACK HEALTHY HAIR.

I know our hair can be difficult sometimes and yes it does take trial and error to finally get understand our hair but dont be discouraged...think about it lack of knowlege is what destroys ppl ( as per the bible) so our fight should just be to find everything we can about our hair and what works and what doesnt work... no i dont understand why this has to be our plight as black women specifically cause as i have stated earlier others dont have it this hard but you know what thats just hwo it is and im not that frustrated that im going to give up... i get mad here and there and then i brush it off and move on.... im not gonna let it get me donw cause im on a mission
 
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Valerie

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A very DEEP topic -- I was thinking about this the other day -- I don't have the answer, but more questions:

Could our collective challenge at growing out (and more importantly RETAINING length) have more to do with styling choices?

Many black little girls or young guys with the long natural conrows and ponytails follow a simple ROUTINE and styling.

No perms, no weaves, no pressing, no braided extensions.

Could our collective challenge retaining length be due to environmental defiencenis in our diet and lifestyle?

Blacks suffer from diabetics, hyertension, and other environtmetal stressors and diet choices that can't provide the ideally body condition for growth. Maybe this show more in black women' HAIR because of menstruation and hormonal flux than with black men and children.

Could our collective challenge retaining length be due to collective WORLD mindset that our beauty and HAIR is not improtant, that we have internalized these thoguhts?

The idea that our hair has to be tamed or fixed, is very profitable! Black women send more money on haircare/services than any other group, yet we still have many challenges and frustrations. We are the only ones who want to break this dependence on products, services, etc. The question of being mixed (we're all mixed to some degree) that black women get if they have long hair - proves to me that we still have trouble beleiving that BALCK women can have long hair.

Just my humble thoughts!

I think the real issue is the amount of money black women spend on hair products, makes a lot of people very rich. What happens if a lot of us suddenly grow extremely long lengths, there would be no need for many hair products 'suited to black hair' the industry throws at us.
 

AfroKink

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I don't know. but I just wanted to offer a way of looking at evolutionary change ....

Don't forget the effects that environment can have on selection. It's been proposed that kinky hair is adaptive for certain African environments. Afro textured hair lets a breeze pass through more easily. It grows up (sometimes) keeping it off your neck and shoulders, helping to cool you down. (Think about the people that cut their hair off in the summer to stay cool). Afro hair is generally dark brown or black. The pigment in the hair that makes it dark also absorbs the UV rays from the sun, preventing them from reaching your scalp. This is important if you live in an environment that has a high level of UV rays. (Think about which population of people have to wear hats in the summer and which population is more prone to heat stroke.)

Straight hair is more like a blanket. It traps heat a lot better. Blond hair does not trap UV rays as well allowing them to reach the scalp. This is important if you live in an environment with a lower level of UV rays like northern Europe.

We are all "mutants". Our DNA collects random mutations that can cause differences in phenotype (looks). Let's say kinky haired people moved up northern Europe. And one person got a mutation causing straighter hair. That person could be at an advantage having more natural protection against the environment. More protection means a greater probability of surviving longer and passing on this mutated gene to your children.

About south Asian who also live in hot environments... It is unlikely for the same mutation (kinky--> straight) to happen twice. Reverse mutations are more rare than the initial one. (kinky --> straight --> kinky). So the mutation for straight hair would have had to happen at a point in human evolutionary history BEFORE "white", south Asian, south-east Asians people were distinct groups.

wow, that got long. Anyway, that's my take on it.

Lys
 

cocoberry10

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In light of some of the other "similar" threads that popped off, especially the one about the person that posted in Macherieamour's site about her not being 100% African-American, I will say that my prayer is that all the ladies on this site can come to accept and appreciate the hair God gave them.

So many people lose their hair to terminal illness, and whether you love your hair or not, it's a blessing to have it!:yep:
 

krissynick

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In light of some of the other "similar" threads that popped off, especially the one about the person that posted in Macherieamour's site about her not being 100% African-American, I will say that my prayer is that all the ladies on this site can come to accept and appreciate the hair God gave them.

So many people lose their hair to terminal illness, and whether you love your hair or not, it's a blessing to have it!:yep:


good point.
 

cocoberry10

New Member
Bumping this b/c of the other thread. No, I don't think our hair is "difficult" (as I said above). I just think it's "different" (and that doesn't have to be a bad thing)!
 

lunabelle

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I agree with the others - our hair is soooo simple and easy to care for. Provided that one doesn't try to make it into something it really isn't. :yep:
Like for instance wanting stick straight hair 365 days a year when the hair is really a 3b-4b :)

Imagine how difficult it would be for a white woman to achieve a perfect 4b afro every morning :lol: She would have difficult hair for sure! And destroyed by chemicals and heat appliances!!!



:lachen:So true!!!
 

CheLala13

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I like reading threads like these. It makes me feel happy to have such versatile hair. On a funny note, my SO said we don't have long hair as easily because we have the best features : eyes, lips, butts, pretty skin, curves...Could you imagine how stuck up we would all be if we had hair down to our butts? Like many women have said on here, CANT TELL ME NOTHIN! :grin:
 

Irresistible

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I agree with the others - our hair is soooo simple and easy to care for. Provided that one doesn't try to make it into something it really isn't. :yep:
Like for instance wanting stick straight hair 365 days a year when the hair is really a 3b-4b :)

Imagine how difficult it would be for a white woman to achieve a perfect 4b afro every morning :lol: She would have difficult hair for sure! And destroyed by chemicals and heat appliances!!!
This is very true :yep:
 

robot.

New Member
I think this is a good hair discussion topic and I hope others chime in.

I was watching the discovery channel one day and it was talking about how different "races" came about. Basicly life began in Africa, but diff. people migrated to diff. areas which had some effect on our features.

It was said in the program ,that due to the climate (hot and humid) of Africa, that Africans weren't really 'designed' to have long hair. That our hair was genetically short to keep us cool and that the coils/napps kept the sun from burning our skin on top of our heads. And white people have long hair to protect them from the cold/wind and other elements from habitating on the Northern hemisphere. And so on and so on...

Don't know how true it is. But it makes (sort of) sense to me.

But often I find myself pondering like you. Like what was GOD's intention when he created diff. ethnic 'features. Anyways, this is a good topic.
i've heard this exact thing, but could never remember where! do you remember the name of the program?
 

Keshieshimmer

Active Member
I like reading threads like these. It makes me feel happy to have such versatile hair. On a funny note, my SO said we don't have long hair as easily because we have the best features : eyes, lips, butts, pretty skin, curves...Could you imagine how stuck up we would all be if we had hair down to our butts? Like many women have said on here, CANT TELL ME NOTHIN! :grin:

That's a wonderful way to look at it!:yawn:
 

Ballerina_Bun

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I agree with the others - our hair is soooo simple and easy to care for. Provided that one doesn't try to make it into something it really isn't. :yep:
Like for instance wanting stick straight hair 365 days a year when the hair is really a 3b-4b :)

Imagine how difficult it would be for a white woman to achieve a perfect 4b afro every morning :lol: She would have difficult hair for sure! And destroyed by chemicals and heat appliances!!!

Such a creative and interesting way to think of it.
 

Crackers Phinn

Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
My hair ties itself in knots.

I'm not talking about tangles, I can pull a strand of hair now and it could have 2 or 3 knots at the ends. This is after a major trim 3 months ago because I had knots going as far as 4+ inches up individual strands.

That's not social conditioning.

That's not me trying to force my hair to do something.

My hair friggin eats itself!

Natural hair may be easy for 'you' and 'you' and 'you', but my natural hair is becoming a pain in my ass.
 

JustKiya

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My hair ties itself in knots.

I'm not talking about tangles, I can pull a strand of hair now and it could have 2 or 3 knots at the ends. This is after a major trim 3 months ago because I had knots going as far as 4+ inches up individual strands.

That's not social conditioning.

That's not me trying to force my hair to do something.

My hair friggin eats itself!

Natural hair may be easy for 'you' and 'you' and 'you', but my natural hair is becoming a pain in my ass.

:look:

My hair does that too. I doubt I have a single strand without at least ONE knot on it.

*shrug* I leave em be - why cut them off when I KNOW they are coming right back? :lol:
 

2themax

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I totally agree with you. However, my grandmother told me that we have hair "Just Like God's" i.e. "like sheep's wool, etc. I don't know how true that is, but God's hair is described that way in the bible. Anyway, have you noticed how white women are trying to get their hair curly? Years ago, they wanted it bone straight. Our hair is the most versatile, we can wear it Curly, Wavy, Natural, Straight, etc. We DO have the BEST hair. It's just that society has led us to believe differently. This is why they advertise so much as they are trying to make themselves believe something that it not true while trying to persuade others to believe the same crap. I'll admit, some white women's hair does look very nice, but how many other ways can they wear it? Try wearing an Afro or other ethnic styles and THEN see how it looks. Be proud of your hair, even on those bad hair days. Have a nice cold glass of water or your favorite drink or snack while fixing it. Everytime you see other women admiring their hair, ask yourself, "how many other ways can she fix it?" And then ask yourself, "how many other ways can I fix mine AND still look good. Sorry this took so long, but I feel you. LOL.
 
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Crackers Phinn

Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
:look:

My hair does that too. I doubt I have a single strand without at least ONE knot on it.

*shrug* I leave em be - why cut them off when I KNOW they are coming right back? :lol:

I get that this is in jest but detangling knotty hair when shed hair gets caught leads to breakage for me.

Wearing a puff with knots and shed hair(because I can never get it all out) caught on the ends looks unsanitary.

I guess my overall point is that letting my hair do what it wants to do is not necessarily the healthiest thing for my hair in general.

The only way I can wear my hair that reduces the knots is in twists. But twists should be an option not a life sentence.
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I don't want to rain on the nappy parade, but maintaining natural hair is not easy for everyone.
 

naskat

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Kinda a spinoff of what you are saying, but has anyone ever pondered this for instance: why are we born with straight or soft, loosely coiled hair? I have YET to see a black baby born with kinky, coily, unmanageable hair. Why can't we keep this type of hair? Personally, I think it's just the work of homeobox genes. We get to keep this type of hair for a short while because that's what we were first given but due to other factors that happened in our history another set of genes (like what they are saying about the African climate) switches on so our hair no longer grows in the loosely coiled texture that it first did. Because I mean, everyone came from Africa and some people migrated while others stayed and worked the harsh climate. If the climate wasn't a factor in changing our hair texture, then why doesn't everyone (even the whites who migrated) have the same texture of hair and why aren't we all born with the kinky, coily hair to begin with?

Someone needs to investigate this. If they already have, please post some scientific articles explaining this.




Not everybaby is born with soft and wavy hair. I once saw a baby with tightly coiled 4b hair, and he was a newborn. I thought it was the strangest thing ever- not because of his hair type, but because I never saw a baby with such tightly coiled hair. His hair was in tight little coils the size of ball point pen. So it is not unusual.

I find the more I try to fight my hair, the more problems I have.Also, some people or other races with 1b hair amire and envy our hair. My Chinese freinds in junior high always asked me "How could I get my hair like that?"
I thought it was so strange because all the black kids called me names and laughed at me with my scarf pushed back with a big fro.
 

pinkchocolatedaisy

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Wow... I wish I had seen this thread before. I think the OP and I have similar thoughts about our hair. Now I didn't read this whole 57 page, 500+ post thread, but I have always wondered too: how come I dont' see women of other races wrapping their hair up at night??? :perplexed when I say something like that around my non AA friends they look at me like :rolleyes: and don't even get me started on DC, etc. The only thing in common I've found among them is that they wash every day and they color, perm, fry dye, hilite their hair and it keeps on growing... they have the worst diets, don't work out and still they have long hair. I have always wondered....why do we have to do extra work? If hair is just hair, why does ours need EXTRA care? I understand ours is the most fragile.... I just don't understand how others don't break off so easily for all the things they do to it.


But I DO love MY hair!!!! And like another poster stated, we can do so much with ours. And look at how now we DO see other races that have straight hair trying to go curly and wearing cornrows and locs, etc. I think we are an inspiration. Whenever I get braids or weaves or if I wear my hair flat ironed then the next day wavy (from my not so perfect braidouts when I was relaxed) or a rollerset, I always get "how did you do that to your hair? it's so pretty... wow you wear different styles all the time.. will that work on MY hair.?" I could go on and on. So I guess it's like with anyone there are pros and cons to things. The reality it seems is that we do need to give our hair a little more TLC but then those of other races need to give their SKIN a little extra TLC. I mean, compared to some of my non AA friends, I can easily go makeup free whereas with them, they wouldn't even think of it- and with good reason. So no God didn't make any mistakes.........we all have things about us that make us exceptionally beautiful and then other things we need to put the work in to be even more beautiful. Besides, I am having some major FUN learning about my hair and doing things to it.!:grin:
 

JustKiya

Well-Known Member
I get that this is in jest but detangling knotty hair when shed hair gets caught leads to breakage for me.

Wearing a puff with knots and shed hair(because I can never get it all out) caught on the ends looks unsanitary.

I guess my overall point is that letting my hair do what it wants to do is not necessarily the healthiest thing for my hair in general.

The only way I can wear my hair that reduces the knots is in twists. But twists should be an option not a life sentence.
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I don't want to rain on the nappy parade, but maintaining natural hair is not easy for everyone.

No, I was being quite serious, when I asked that question. I've heard several people say that, and could never understand why it matters - esp. if you are wearing your hair curly. My knots are so tiny that unless you are staring at a single strand of hair (or feeling on it) you can't see them, at all.

It's interesting that you can't get all of the shed hairs out - I'm not trying to diminish the difficulties you are having with your natural hair - I'm just - trying to understand them, I guess, since I've always been told I've got that extra stubborn, tangly, nappy hair, but - it's not hard for me to take care of, so maybe I really don't, eh?
 

nnmiles

Active Member
In the journey to acheive healthy, longer hair it is very overwhelming.


Our hair is something else. I can't take it anymore. Chemicals, heat , the wrong diet, protective stlyes, wrong products, to many of the right products , oils, grease, wrong clothing, braids,weaves,wigs, using the wrong tools, brushing,combing, using to many product, using not enough products, you name it causes damages. Everything that you can possible do for our hair seems to cause damage. There seems that there is nothing out there that does not cause damage to our hair. Proper care is key, but you have to go to great lengths to get it and never stop once you have master the art of what it takes for your hair. This can get very costly and time consuming, because what works for one may not work other as we find out in updated threads.

I firmly believe that God did not design our hair to be so fragile. I believe that someone way back in the day messed it up for us. I never heard of other races having to tie up their hair in silk or satin to prevent it from spliting or having to add oil etc... I know they have issues to but not as fragile as ours.

Sorry so long I am just frustrated. I thought I had my regimen down and now have to revise it.

I am someone who loves my hair just as much as the next person. But honestly in the grand scheme of things, hair doesn't really matter. However, I see your point. :grin:
 

lovedone_24

New Member
I just got to page 40 something I think? :lachen: The only thing I know to do is keep it simple and comment on my hair as I see it in the context of this thread: Yes, I DO find that my hair is a pain @ times. I DO long for the ability to be recreational without concern for how my hair is holding up. I DO want to easily obtain length. We can get into the psycho/sociological aspects all night, however I do believe that some women (including myself) look better with fuller, longer hair. Not every one can pull off a Halle short cut for a reason. Round, oval faces need the compliment of hair IMO. For me it is a matter of complimenting my features/face shape. I used to have something the hair I now desire before I got into heavy manipulation. The advice: leave it alone is on point!
 

anon123

Well-Known Member
My hair ties itself in knots.

I'm not talking about tangles, I can pull a strand of hair now and it could have 2 or 3 knots at the ends. This is after a major trim 3 months ago because I had knots going as far as 4+ inches up individual strands.

That's not social conditioning.

That's not me trying to force my hair to do something.

My hair friggin eats itself!

Natural hair may be easy for 'you' and 'you' and 'you', but my natural hair is becoming a pain in my ass.

But you are wanting your hair to do something it doesn't want to do: be knot-free. We equate knot-free hair with hair health on this board. I actually don't think that's true. If it were, there'd be no such thing as healthy locs. Now I understand completely the desire for fewer knots because I am a loose-haired natural with more than an inch or two of hair. And single knots cause complex knots which makes detangling harder. But if I'm honest with myself, I have to admit that detangling is hard because that's not what my hair wants to be. It doesn't want to be detangled, that's not the kind of hair I have. It wants to coil up, knot up, intertwine, wrap around itself. And there is nothing unhealthy about that. The longer it gets the more it wants to do that and my denying it that is what makes it difficult for me. I put up with the difficulty because I want long loose nappy hair, but I'm not going to say I don't know where that difficulty is coming from.
 

Sui Topi

New Member
I agree with the others - our hair is soooo simple and easy to care for. Provided that one doesn't try to make it into something it really isn't. :yep:
Like for instance wanting stick straight hair 365 days a year when the hair is really a 3b-4b :)

Imagine how difficult it would be for a white woman to achieve a perfect 4b afro every morning :lol: She would have difficult hair for sure! And destroyed by chemicals and heat appliances!!!

Kinda a spinoff of what you are saying, but has anyone ever pondered this for instance: why are we born with straight or soft, loosely coiled hair? I have YET to see a black baby born with kinky, coily, unmanageable hair. Why can't we keep this type of hair? Personally, I think it's just the work of homeobox genes. We get to keep this type of hair for a short while because that's what we were first given but due to other factors that happened in our history another set of genes (like what they are saying about the African climate) switches on so our hair no longer grows in the loosely coiled texture that it first did. Because I mean, everyone came from Africa and some people migrated while others stayed and worked the harsh climate. If the climate wasn't a factor in changing our hair texture, then why doesn't everyone (even the whites who migrated) have the same texture of hair and why aren't we all born with the kinky, coily hair to begin with?

Someone needs to investigate this. If they already have, please post some scientific articles explaining this.




Not everybaby is born with soft and wavy hair. I once saw a baby with tightly coiled 4b hair, and he was a newborn. I thought it was the strangest thing ever- not because of his hair type, but because I never saw a baby with such tightly coiled hair. His hair was in tight little coils the size of ball point pen. So it is not unusual.

I find the more I try to fight my hair, the more problems I have.Also, some people or other races with 1b hair amire and envy our hair. My Chinese freinds in junior high always asked me "How could I get my hair like that?"
I thought it was so strange because all the black kids called me names and laughed at me with my scarf pushed back with a big fro.




:pop: Interesteeeeeeeeeeeeed
 
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