This is a long post...LOL
I'm a PK...
In addition to being a PK, 2 of my uncles are pastors, my grandfather was a pastor, my cousin is a MAJOR bishop (and past prez of Hampton Ministers Conf.) and my other cousin is the personal assistant and armorbearer to a popular nationally-known minister. I've seen and know things that would make some people cringe...
I've rebelled and I've walked the straight and narrow. Honestly, it's never been because of the pressure from my mom (the preacher, now pastor) or from my dad (deacon and church financial administrator), but from other folk in the church.
I'm the super protective PK over my mom. I will cut my eye at you in a nano-second if you even look sideways at my parents in church. So I guess that's my form of rebellion.
Before my mom became a pastor we went through a very hurtful time at our previous church. As a result I stopped going to that church. My parents knew they couldn't talk me into going, so they just stopped. I essentially didn't go to church for 3 months. I hadn't done that since my early 20s when I was super rebellious. But this time it was for different reasons.
I definitely think it has influenced some things about me. It's a bit unnerving when people walk up to you in a restaurant and say "Isn't your mom Rev. so and so?" I'm like so how long have they been watching me in this restaurant with my mixed drink?!?!?! LOL Sometimes it's not that bad, but it does make me conscious of what I do, especially locally.
I do try to consciously not bring shame to my parents out of respect and love for them, not because they make me obligated to do so.
Quite frankly, there are people in the church that are manipulative, mean-spirited, clingy, needy and just generally get on my nerves (LOL). They take a lot of a pastor/preacher's time and energy and that is time taken away from his/her family. I've been blessed that my parents have rightly balanced the roles of church leadership with family life. But I know so many Pastors that haven't and their relationships with their children are sometimes damaged forever.
The most hurtful thing I've encountered as a PK is when people ask me if I sing or play an instrument and I tell them no. They look at me like "What kind of PK are you?" And what function could you possibly serve?
I think it's important that any PK find their own gifts and callings and not have them dictated to by folk around you. That's why PKs end up rebelling. Trying to be all things to all people....
I have a lot of responsibilities in our church. And there are times where I draw the line and tell my parents that I can't do this or that because I need to do something else (usually that I want to do).
But I'd be lying if I didn't say that there are many a Sunday that I truly want to sleep in...LOL
I know the "out there" PKs and I look at their parents and the relationship they have with them (usually lack thereof) and it's not a far stretch that they are the way they are...