Don't Sing In Church

[lisana]

So this is the second Sunday I've going to church with DH. I don't sing with everyone else...don't really know why, I feel self-conscious, kinda fake if I sing, I'm not really feeling it. I've been to church before but have never felt like they were "my" church. We all know going to church and being a member aren't the same. Would you sing anyway? Is it rude NOT to sing with everyone else? I will sing if it's considered rude not to. DH says sing if you want to or don't sing if you don't want to.

 

[imani97]

Do you feel comfortable in the church otherwise? Maybe you feel uncomfortable being you really don't like the church? I don't think there's anything wrong with not singing, though I love it myself.

 

[lisana]

Do you feel comfortable in the church otherwise? Maybe you feel uncomfortable being you really don't like the church? I don't think there's anything wrong with not singing, though I love it myself.

good question. I do think I like it. Today was only my second time. I am a point where I am truly trying to learn and see the value in my life of church. I have gone to church in the past and just had bad experiences. I know this all stems from the first memories I have of church, when I was a child and I went at the behest of my mother's friend. We were poor and I remember feeling very left out because I didn't have nice clothes and I didn't know anyone and I didn't know the church, I wasn't raised as having it part of my life, so it's always has been foreign to me. So I grew up and decided it wasn't for me, nope, don't need it, I can be a spiritual, religious person and not have church. I still believe this but I now feel like "is church really that bad, can't there actually be some really good things about being part of a church community." I guess the truth is than I still don't "get it" if you no what I mean. I don't get church but I'm trying to, and I think that is why I don't sing right now. But I do sing in my head though and I move with the music