Nice & Wavy
Well-Known Member
Hi ladies,
Many of you have asked me to start a thread on marriage with some tips on how to have a blessed marriage, being a good wife, etc. Being that my husband and I give marriage training, I can give you some ideas as to what you can do and how it can work:
1st - As women, we must first understand our mates. Learning to Communicate with our husbands is one of the hardest things we will experience in our marriage (for some of us, even with great communication, we still have problems with this topic). Women want to talk....they like to talk about everything. Men, they'd rather not. Men have a totally different makeup than women, and deal with issues differently. It's not that they don't like to talk, they just feel that when they do, they are misunderstood (sometimes they can't get across what they want to say, so they rather not say then sound silly) Women are more emotional...we think with our feelings; our hearts are caught up in our relationship. When our husbands don't respond to our needs like we need him to, we lose it. Now, you now I'm right, right ladies? We can go from 0 to 60 in no time flat
Men think rationally. It's not that they are cold-hearted or don't love you, they are just different. Once we get to the point that we understand their needs, and their makeup as men (who God created them to be), I promise you that you will find your husband becoming more open, gentle, loving and especially easy to talk to, about everything.
The one thing I found out was that learning to communicate with my husband was not hard. We both like to talk. Actually, my husband talks more than I do
. But, what I found out was that sometimes when we disagreed, we talked at each other, not to each other and that became a problem. Disagreements are always going to be in a marriage because you have two different personalities coming together, from different backgrounds, brought up completly different...and the two come together to become "ONE". That's a task only God our Father can work out. That's why "A three cord strand is not easily broken." It's not that it 'Can't' be broken, but it's not easily broken as long as you have the two people seeking out God to meet their needs as husband and wife and inviting God into their marriage; their conversations, their joys, sorrows, pain and their love through prayer. We need God in our marriages and it makes for better communication. I find that the closer you are with the Lord (praying and having open communication with him, the better your relationship will be with your mate. (example: Oneness with God, equals oneness with your mate)
Communication is the key. You can't expect your husband to be like you. He's not going to...no matter what you try and what you do. So, in order to bring peace and joy into your marriage, you must first learn to communicate. Like I said before it's not an easy task, but you can do it with the help of the Lord. God is good and His mercy endures forever, great is His Faithfulness!
There is more to this than what I wrote, but you would have to take the course in order to get the full and complete understanding of this. However, ask God to give you revelation about your marriage...He will not hesitate to do so, guarranteed!!!
Will await to hear from all you ladies who would like for me to continue with the next topic.
Blessings...
Many of you have asked me to start a thread on marriage with some tips on how to have a blessed marriage, being a good wife, etc. Being that my husband and I give marriage training, I can give you some ideas as to what you can do and how it can work:
1st - As women, we must first understand our mates. Learning to Communicate with our husbands is one of the hardest things we will experience in our marriage (for some of us, even with great communication, we still have problems with this topic). Women want to talk....they like to talk about everything. Men, they'd rather not. Men have a totally different makeup than women, and deal with issues differently. It's not that they don't like to talk, they just feel that when they do, they are misunderstood (sometimes they can't get across what they want to say, so they rather not say then sound silly) Women are more emotional...we think with our feelings; our hearts are caught up in our relationship. When our husbands don't respond to our needs like we need him to, we lose it. Now, you now I'm right, right ladies? We can go from 0 to 60 in no time flat
Men think rationally. It's not that they are cold-hearted or don't love you, they are just different. Once we get to the point that we understand their needs, and their makeup as men (who God created them to be), I promise you that you will find your husband becoming more open, gentle, loving and especially easy to talk to, about everything.
The one thing I found out was that learning to communicate with my husband was not hard. We both like to talk. Actually, my husband talks more than I do
. But, what I found out was that sometimes when we disagreed, we talked at each other, not to each other and that became a problem. Disagreements are always going to be in a marriage because you have two different personalities coming together, from different backgrounds, brought up completly different...and the two come together to become "ONE". That's a task only God our Father can work out. That's why "A three cord strand is not easily broken." It's not that it 'Can't' be broken, but it's not easily broken as long as you have the two people seeking out God to meet their needs as husband and wife and inviting God into their marriage; their conversations, their joys, sorrows, pain and their love through prayer. We need God in our marriages and it makes for better communication. I find that the closer you are with the Lord (praying and having open communication with him, the better your relationship will be with your mate. (example: Oneness with God, equals oneness with your mate)Communication is the key. You can't expect your husband to be like you. He's not going to...no matter what you try and what you do. So, in order to bring peace and joy into your marriage, you must first learn to communicate. Like I said before it's not an easy task, but you can do it with the help of the Lord. God is good and His mercy endures forever, great is His Faithfulness!
There is more to this than what I wrote, but you would have to take the course in order to get the full and complete understanding of this. However, ask God to give you revelation about your marriage...He will not hesitate to do so, guarranteed!!!
Will await to hear from all you ladies who would like for me to continue with the next topic.
Blessings...
