SimpleKomplexity,
I used to have a severe problem with dry hair and ends. My hair was soooo dry that the ends would split mid strand, knot itself and sometime matte together. A couple suggestions for you that will guarantee your hair will be moisturized:
1) I saw you on the condition wash thread. Have you been doing that. I would strongly suggest continuing that but make sure that you do the co-washes with purely moisturizing conditioners. Until you can get a level of softness back in your hair stop using conditioners that have any protein in them at all.
2) Buy Shea Moisture Leave-In. I have NEVER found a conditioner that is more moisturizing than this one...hands down! After taking a hot shower without a shower cap on or dabbing / spritzing your hair lightly with warm water apply the leave-in ...put a little extra on the ends and seal the ends with your favorite oil if you would like. Put your hair in a protective style and put a scarf on. I notice a difference in my hair's softness within 5-10 minutes or less. This conditioner is nice because it continues to attract moisture to your hair days later; however, you can apply more the next day. A little goes a long way and it is very thick and cremey as well.
Let us know how you make out.
I hope this helps