Well, as a rape survivor, the experience taught me to be careful and not wear my heart on my sleeve. I still have a sensitivity to some men and I have sense enough to stay away because my radar has gone up or the Holy Spirit has let me know to run away as fast as I can. I didn't drink when I was attacked. I was at home, getting ready for bed and a neighbor that was a friend was so horny (in his own words) that he couldn't help himself and I became the target that took his edge off. I'll never forget the attack and even though I have forgave him and gotten help for it, it's not something that goes away. The attack is always fresh and I got buck wild after that experience and just didn't care who I slept with (luckily it was only 3 men since then and yes one of them was my attacker consensually) I was scared, still in denial, but I learned that I couldn't allow myself to be that vulnerable anymore, even in my own house. If I drink in public it's maybe 1-2 glasses and I'm making sure I'm not going to get drunk (plenty of water and food) but also I'm more aware when I'm out and about.
The bible does say to avoid being drunk, according to Ephesians 5:18 and Proverbs 23: 29 - 35
Eph 5:18 "Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit."
Prov 23:29-35 "
29 Who has woe? Who has sorrow?
Who has strife? Who has complaints?
Who has needless bruises? Who has bloodshot eyes?
30 Those who linger over wine,
who go to sample bowls of mixed wine.
31 Do not gaze at wine when it is red,
when it sparkles in the cup,
when it goes down smoothly! ...
32 In the end it bites like a snake
and poisons like a viper.
33 Your eyes will see strange sights
and your mind imagine confusing things.
34 You will be like one sleeping on the high seas,
lying on top of the rigging.
35 “They hit me,” you will say, “but I’m not hurt!
They beat me, but I don’t feel it!
When will I wake up
so I can find another drink?”
1 Cor 6:19-20 says that I'm not my own, my body has been brought with a price and my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. (paraphrasing)
So, all those times I was getting drunk, sleeping around as a believer, I was not glorifying God in any way. I was a very bad gal.
As far as dating goes, I rarely date to be honest. The last one I had was ok (if you like walking in the park and driving around the city) but it wasn't any kissing or anything sexual (nope I made that mistake on the 2nd and final date ... not very smart, I know) but like Jesus said, "the flesh is weak but the spirit is willing" so I can easily give into current desires and face some consequences or I can obey God and wait for hubby. We have the indwelling of the Holy Spirit as believers to lead and guide is into all truths and every aspect of our lives if we just let him.
It is definitely wise to not put ourselves in situations where we can be taking abused or taken advantage of.
2 Peter 19 says this
19 They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him.
1 Cor 6:12
12 “Everything is permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything.
It's also both moral and health reasons to not put ourselves in the situations where drugs or alcohol is in the mist.
(I hope I answered your question right....I've been off my rocker today (sinuses, allergies, and hypoglycemic attack)