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Many of us are asking that God send us a husband, but in that search do we know how to be a wife ?
The Wife's Duty
Grateful acknowledgments to Dr. Tony Evans
There are two people that can come together to become one flesh; a husband and a wife. Wedlock is an office ordained by God, a Holy union, wherein the nhusband serves the wife and the wife the husband. The worst thing a man can do is marry the wrong woman.
Proverbs 27:15, "On a stormy day drops of rain drive a man out of his house; so also does a railing woman drive a man out of his house."
Nothing can be more miserable than having to spend every day of your life with an evil woman.
What does it mean to be a godly woman? If you are married, this is what you must strive to be. If you are not married this is what you must orientate yourself to be. The duties of the wife can be narrowed down to really two thing. The first duty that a good wife must fulfil is help her man.
Help the Man
In the beginning, when Almighty God made Adam,
Genesis 2:18, "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; let us make for him a help suitable to him."
God made someone to come alongside of him, co-responding to him, to work with him, to accomplish the Divine goal that God has given man. The duty of a good wife, who wants to see a strong marriage and family, is to be the counterpart to her mate in such a way that that which God has given the both of them, she must be by his side as his helper. She is not just some extra on the side, she is an indispensable part of His Divine plan.
One of the causes why so many men are miserable and why so many marriages fail is because the woman is not out to help him, she's using the marriage to help herself. She has a faulty view of the relationship. Instead of being his partner and coming alongside to increase their relationship with God, she becomes a part of the opposition, not cooperating with God's agenda for the family, but using it as a launching pad for her own purposes. And when a woman loses site that God's first expectation of her in relationship to her husband is to be his helper, then a negative atmosphere is created in the household that is difficult to overcome.
So the question is, “What does a helper look like?” Now, the assumption, ladies, is that if God expects you to help your man, the understanding is your man needs help! Admittedly, men are not complete in and of themselves. That's the purpose God created women. So, if you are finding fault with your man, he needs help; and guess who the helper is. If you are saying, “My man is messed up!” Guess who the helper is. You cannot complain that he is not what he ought to be if you're not fulfilling your role as the helper! God made you the helper because man desperately needs help. He desperately needs someone to come alongside who will be different than him, in order to complete him, thereby fulfilling the Divine plan of God.
So, whenever the faults of your husband shows up, there are opportunities for you to fulfill your scriptural duty; not simply to fuss and cuss about how messed up he is, but to analyze the kind of helper God has called you to be. In fact, if you are the complete opposite of your husband, wonderful! That means you can fill in all the blank spots where he needs help. That's not an opportunity for disgust, but an opportunity for godly assistance. You are the one to help mold and shape him into the man that God ultimately wants him to be in order to carry out the agenda of the household.
The description of a prolific helpmate is given in Proverbs 31:
The Proverbs 31 Woman
Proverbs 31:10, "Who shall find a virtuous woman? for such a one is more valuable than precious stones."
Many ladies have a low view of themselves which make them a weak wife. When you look at yourself as a priceless diamond, as you are in God's eyes, then you'll act accordingly. If you only look at yourself as substitute jewelry, you're going to live as one. It could be made to look like the real thing, but it's not. Proverbs 31 is talking about the real woman, not a plastic woman. Not a woman that's so made up you don't know what the real thing looks like, but an authentic woman. And scripture says when a man finds this kind of woman, a true and authentic wife, he's got a piece of jewelry that's very valuable. And what's the hallmark of this woman?
Proverbs 31:12, “For she employes all her living for her husbands good.”
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Now if your husband was asked what good are you to him, would he have an answer? Can he measure how you are constantly, perpetually, determinately looking out for his good? Can he raise the point, if asked the question, that every time this wife wakes up she is thinking about how to make him a better man? And if that is not your number one agenda item, you are not a godly wife. You may be a bed partner, you may be a cook, you may be this and you may be that, but a good wife seeks the good of her husband all the days of his life. That is, just as he is loving and honoring and cherishing you, you are to wake up and ask, “What good can I be to him today?”
Help him In and Out of the House
One of the first ways she helps him is around the house.
Proverbs 31:13-14, “Gathering wool and flax, she makes it serviceable with her hands. She is like a ship trading from a distance: so she procures her livelihood.”
Proverbs 31:16, “She views a farm and buys it: and with the fruits of her hands she plants a possession.”
Proverbs 31:24, “She makes fine linens, and sells girdles…”
There is a warped view among some "Christians" that if you're a Christian woman you sit home and throw your college education in the garbage. That there is no productivity, no skill. But the Proverbs 31 woman is one who is skilled, she saves money, uses money, and spends money wisely. But she's doing this to the good of her husband. This is not like modern women who are building their own career with their own money with their own bank account and they write their own checks. That's not the godly woman. Because a godly woman, while she uses those skills, always brings it back home for the embellishment of the home and the enhancement of her husband. There is no monetary competition.
And if you love your career so much that your husband is never benefiting from the career that you love, then you're not a godly wife. You bought the lie that you're your own woman, you do your own thing, and that man is your inconvenience. That is a lie! The feminism movement is born from satanic rebellion against the Holy God. But because many women have established their own bank accounts, and spend their own money for their own agenda, and the good of the husband is nowhere to be found, then the blessings of God will not rest on your life or be in your household. Your godly home will become a godless home.
When you begin to live your married life with no thought of the betterment of your husband, you have joined the adversary in dissolving your marriage. God did not give you a husband for you to still be an independent single woman. He gave you a husband so that you could partner with him, helping him by using your gifts, your skills, and your abilities that He has blessed you with, for the betterment of the whole household. Whenever your career demands of you that which negates your duty as wife and mother, you're in the wrong career, and it is not a calling from God.
The Proverbs 31 woman uses her abilities, she does not throw them away. She also helps him parentally:
The Wife's Duty
Grateful acknowledgments to Dr. Tony Evans
There are two people that can come together to become one flesh; a husband and a wife. Wedlock is an office ordained by God, a Holy union, wherein the nhusband serves the wife and the wife the husband. The worst thing a man can do is marry the wrong woman.
Proverbs 27:15, "On a stormy day drops of rain drive a man out of his house; so also does a railing woman drive a man out of his house."
Nothing can be more miserable than having to spend every day of your life with an evil woman.
What does it mean to be a godly woman? If you are married, this is what you must strive to be. If you are not married this is what you must orientate yourself to be. The duties of the wife can be narrowed down to really two thing. The first duty that a good wife must fulfil is help her man.
Help the Man
In the beginning, when Almighty God made Adam,
Genesis 2:18, "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; let us make for him a help suitable to him."
God made someone to come alongside of him, co-responding to him, to work with him, to accomplish the Divine goal that God has given man. The duty of a good wife, who wants to see a strong marriage and family, is to be the counterpart to her mate in such a way that that which God has given the both of them, she must be by his side as his helper. She is not just some extra on the side, she is an indispensable part of His Divine plan.
One of the causes why so many men are miserable and why so many marriages fail is because the woman is not out to help him, she's using the marriage to help herself. She has a faulty view of the relationship. Instead of being his partner and coming alongside to increase their relationship with God, she becomes a part of the opposition, not cooperating with God's agenda for the family, but using it as a launching pad for her own purposes. And when a woman loses site that God's first expectation of her in relationship to her husband is to be his helper, then a negative atmosphere is created in the household that is difficult to overcome.
So the question is, “What does a helper look like?” Now, the assumption, ladies, is that if God expects you to help your man, the understanding is your man needs help! Admittedly, men are not complete in and of themselves. That's the purpose God created women. So, if you are finding fault with your man, he needs help; and guess who the helper is. If you are saying, “My man is messed up!” Guess who the helper is. You cannot complain that he is not what he ought to be if you're not fulfilling your role as the helper! God made you the helper because man desperately needs help. He desperately needs someone to come alongside who will be different than him, in order to complete him, thereby fulfilling the Divine plan of God.
So, whenever the faults of your husband shows up, there are opportunities for you to fulfill your scriptural duty; not simply to fuss and cuss about how messed up he is, but to analyze the kind of helper God has called you to be. In fact, if you are the complete opposite of your husband, wonderful! That means you can fill in all the blank spots where he needs help. That's not an opportunity for disgust, but an opportunity for godly assistance. You are the one to help mold and shape him into the man that God ultimately wants him to be in order to carry out the agenda of the household.
The description of a prolific helpmate is given in Proverbs 31:
The Proverbs 31 Woman
Proverbs 31:10, "Who shall find a virtuous woman? for such a one is more valuable than precious stones."
Many ladies have a low view of themselves which make them a weak wife. When you look at yourself as a priceless diamond, as you are in God's eyes, then you'll act accordingly. If you only look at yourself as substitute jewelry, you're going to live as one. It could be made to look like the real thing, but it's not. Proverbs 31 is talking about the real woman, not a plastic woman. Not a woman that's so made up you don't know what the real thing looks like, but an authentic woman. And scripture says when a man finds this kind of woman, a true and authentic wife, he's got a piece of jewelry that's very valuable. And what's the hallmark of this woman?
Proverbs 31:12, “For she employes all her living for her husbands good.”
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Now if your husband was asked what good are you to him, would he have an answer? Can he measure how you are constantly, perpetually, determinately looking out for his good? Can he raise the point, if asked the question, that every time this wife wakes up she is thinking about how to make him a better man? And if that is not your number one agenda item, you are not a godly wife. You may be a bed partner, you may be a cook, you may be this and you may be that, but a good wife seeks the good of her husband all the days of his life. That is, just as he is loving and honoring and cherishing you, you are to wake up and ask, “What good can I be to him today?”
Help him In and Out of the House
One of the first ways she helps him is around the house.
Proverbs 31:13-14, “Gathering wool and flax, she makes it serviceable with her hands. She is like a ship trading from a distance: so she procures her livelihood.”
Proverbs 31:16, “She views a farm and buys it: and with the fruits of her hands she plants a possession.”
Proverbs 31:24, “She makes fine linens, and sells girdles…”
There is a warped view among some "Christians" that if you're a Christian woman you sit home and throw your college education in the garbage. That there is no productivity, no skill. But the Proverbs 31 woman is one who is skilled, she saves money, uses money, and spends money wisely. But she's doing this to the good of her husband. This is not like modern women who are building their own career with their own money with their own bank account and they write their own checks. That's not the godly woman. Because a godly woman, while she uses those skills, always brings it back home for the embellishment of the home and the enhancement of her husband. There is no monetary competition.
And if you love your career so much that your husband is never benefiting from the career that you love, then you're not a godly wife. You bought the lie that you're your own woman, you do your own thing, and that man is your inconvenience. That is a lie! The feminism movement is born from satanic rebellion against the Holy God. But because many women have established their own bank accounts, and spend their own money for their own agenda, and the good of the husband is nowhere to be found, then the blessings of God will not rest on your life or be in your household. Your godly home will become a godless home.
When you begin to live your married life with no thought of the betterment of your husband, you have joined the adversary in dissolving your marriage. God did not give you a husband for you to still be an independent single woman. He gave you a husband so that you could partner with him, helping him by using your gifts, your skills, and your abilities that He has blessed you with, for the betterment of the whole household. Whenever your career demands of you that which negates your duty as wife and mother, you're in the wrong career, and it is not a calling from God.
The Proverbs 31 woman uses her abilities, she does not throw them away. She also helps him parentally: