glamazon386
Well-Known Member
Okay so, I've been thinking about going natural for quite a while now. I've been seeing a lot of healthy natural heads around lately. I'm not sure what I want to do. I've continued to have problems with relaxers eating up my hair. I don't know if it's stylist error or what. Once it starts getting a good length it starts breaking off and I end up cutting and starting over. I have a patch in the back on the left side that won't grow in at all. It's been broken off for almost two years now. It'll start coming back in, and then start breaking again.
My hair dresser has continued to treat it and the spot got smaller. But now it seems like it's spreading in a different direction. She said it had gotten bigger since the last time I was there. She said I should cut my hair. Try to cut the damage out. But that doesn't make sense to me seeing it as how, if i cut my hair you'll see the bald spot. And the rest of my hair isn't damaged why so I need to cut it? In order to even it all I'd pretty much have to chop all my hair off. That was why she was cutting it gradually when it first started breaking. And it doesn't really matter if I don't cut because I don't really wear my hair out that often anyway.
I was thinking about just getting a short cut, but I really don't want the back tapered. Which is what I'll have to do. The way my hair is now, when it's down it covers the bald patch. And even if I did get a short cut, I'd rather keep it all one length. I've been stretching my relaxers to 12-14 weeks for the past year and wearing weaves which have really helped me gain/retain some length. I usually wear the weave for 6-8 weeks. Then my hair for 6-8 weeks. And then relax at about 12-14. Get the weave put back in 2 weeks later and then start the process again. At this point I'm really frustrated because it's growing fine everywhere but that one spot. I've been to two different hair dressers over the past two years (my regular one went on maternity leave for a while so I went to my mom's hd for a spell) and neither one of them can figure out why that one spot is like that nor how to stop it from breaking.
I'm thinking about going natural because I feel like the relaxer is the culprit. I'm coming up on time for me to get a relaxer, and I'm tempted just because I feel like I need to go. I could use a deep condition and probably a trim. And I know as soon as I walk in there with 3 months of new growth she's going to push the relaxer. I planned on continuing to weave for all of 2006 and hope to reach my goal of shoulder length by 2006. If not, I think I'm just gonna cut the relaxed hair off and go natural. I mentioned it to my mother and she wasn't very supportive. I just think it'd be easier to deal with. My new growth is pretty manageable. It doesn't really bother me to stretch even when my own hair is out. But she keeps pushing the relaxer on me too. She never misses one but that's her perogative. That and she and I have different hair types. The things she does to her hair don't work for mines.
Any advice ladies? Should I hang in there until June? Or just go with my instinct and cut it? What should I do about the bald spot? I mean what really am I accomplishing by cutting though? I still have that damn bald spot to worry about. Sorry this is so long. TIA...
My hair dresser has continued to treat it and the spot got smaller. But now it seems like it's spreading in a different direction. She said it had gotten bigger since the last time I was there. She said I should cut my hair. Try to cut the damage out. But that doesn't make sense to me seeing it as how, if i cut my hair you'll see the bald spot. And the rest of my hair isn't damaged why so I need to cut it? In order to even it all I'd pretty much have to chop all my hair off. That was why she was cutting it gradually when it first started breaking. And it doesn't really matter if I don't cut because I don't really wear my hair out that often anyway.
I was thinking about just getting a short cut, but I really don't want the back tapered. Which is what I'll have to do. The way my hair is now, when it's down it covers the bald patch. And even if I did get a short cut, I'd rather keep it all one length. I've been stretching my relaxers to 12-14 weeks for the past year and wearing weaves which have really helped me gain/retain some length. I usually wear the weave for 6-8 weeks. Then my hair for 6-8 weeks. And then relax at about 12-14. Get the weave put back in 2 weeks later and then start the process again. At this point I'm really frustrated because it's growing fine everywhere but that one spot. I've been to two different hair dressers over the past two years (my regular one went on maternity leave for a while so I went to my mom's hd for a spell) and neither one of them can figure out why that one spot is like that nor how to stop it from breaking.
I'm thinking about going natural because I feel like the relaxer is the culprit. I'm coming up on time for me to get a relaxer, and I'm tempted just because I feel like I need to go. I could use a deep condition and probably a trim. And I know as soon as I walk in there with 3 months of new growth she's going to push the relaxer. I planned on continuing to weave for all of 2006 and hope to reach my goal of shoulder length by 2006. If not, I think I'm just gonna cut the relaxed hair off and go natural. I mentioned it to my mother and she wasn't very supportive. I just think it'd be easier to deal with. My new growth is pretty manageable. It doesn't really bother me to stretch even when my own hair is out. But she keeps pushing the relaxer on me too. She never misses one but that's her perogative. That and she and I have different hair types. The things she does to her hair don't work for mines.
Any advice ladies? Should I hang in there until June? Or just go with my instinct and cut it? What should I do about the bald spot? I mean what really am I accomplishing by cutting though? I still have that damn bald spot to worry about. Sorry this is so long. TIA...