Yes, I've been very honest... one of the set backs WAS trying to do what the other ladies were doing...
I mean, I TRIED CW, Bagging, bunning, and the like on a VERY consistant basis and apparently my hair hated it... with a passion.
erplexed
So, what I did after a while was realize my hair doesn't like all the tricks. I was not using direct heat on my hair for at least 3 years before LHCF, so I knew that wasn't the problem. What I did find works best for me is shampooing once every 5-7days with a deep condition, moisterizing, no heavy combing, and low/no direct heat, and I was relaxing every 10-12 weeks (texlax now). That's what turned me around. I don't baggy, I don't pony/bun unless I want to, and I don't do much else from what I've described here. And of course now it's thriving
The other set back was that I did try to transition for the first 7 months when I came to LHCF. Let's just say, I personally want long hair more than I want natural hair right now. Eventually I'll revisit, but at the time it was too much for me to grasp as a newbie.