I think the best thing to do is fall in love with your hair. I have type......idk, kinky? hair and surprisingly, it thrived most off of daily wash/rinses and some scurl. I stopped doing this because I was insecure about the length and texture of my hair, and in return my hair suffered. Now that it's winter, I either straighten or use banding. I don't think our hair should be that hard, it's only hard if we make it.
unpopular opinion: products don't really mean that much. Everything I own for my hair costs less than three dollars. I buy more expensive things if they look pretty or smell good (my version of expensive is 6-8 dollars), or if I get curious I may splurge on something from another country just for fun. I don't stress about ingredients as much as what I like, smell, textures, colors, and how my hair reacts to it. No ph strips, powder mixing, and other expensive time consuming things. We don't need all that. When I first went natural it was so terrible I had no idea what to do, but now that I've learned my hair, I realize that less is more. Piling products causes narsty hair and breakage. Washing your hair will not kill you. Grease and mineral oils increase your shrinkage and lock out moisture. If you wanna know what your hair REALLY, truly honestly looks like, grab a cheap 2-in-1 like suave or vo5 and wash your hair with it, maybe a couple times to clarify. When you remove all that gunk from your hair and strip it, you might be surprised. I thought my hair was type 4xyz before I stopped using grease and washed my hair a few times. Miraculously moisture returned to my hair, it wasn't snapping, it was softer than I remember it, and it stopped tangling. My hair actually had a unique pattern to it. It was like twilight zone.
I think everyone's hair works differently. Some people can live in braids and there hair thrives. People like me, however, have hair adhd and don't like hair in a single style. I put my hair in twists and fell in love at the ease, but then I wanted to play. Basically, you gotta figure out what you want your hair to be like and how to get it there. If you're kind of like I am, growing your hair out to suit a specific purpose, than for now ps-ing might be for you. Once I reach my hair goal I'll straighten occasionally but wash and go for the rest of my life, because my hair likes it and I like my hair. If you truly don't like your natural hair, you can always press it and see how you feel about it before deciding to relax, or you can just be a (carefully) straightened natural. I went that route for awhile, got tired of it, switched up, got tired of that, switched back.
You can do whatever you want with your hair. Don't be intimidated by all these mixtures and concoctions and strategies, it might just not be for you. Try to remember the easiest time you ever had with your hair and do it like that. It's a mind over matter thing, once you stop stressing it you'll be surprised of the process you can make. Of course, keep up the basics, but maybe set aside all this porosity, hair type (heck I still don't know mine and i ain't asking either) and what other people's hair is doing. I found out the hard way that my hair isn't like most people's and some things people can do with their hair will have mine crying bloody murder. Just because somebody has buttlength hair doesn't mean yours will thrive under their regi.