People often don't believe my hair is my own. I have 3B hair that is only shoulder length, but my curls are loose, round, and shiny. I often have women with 4A-Z hair that constantly try and clown on me for no reason. They always ask "Is that your hair?" And when I say yes they always ask if they can touch iterplexed. Hell no! I don't want anyone's grimy hands touching me. Then they always say "I knew it was a wig!" they laugh in my face and then leave. I even have people who wait until I'm leaving or turn around to grab as much hair as possible and then they yank! I have to curse at least 10 women AND men out a week for that bs!! I work on retail btw. It makes me angry that no one believes I need to take care of my hair. Like I can just leave it and it magically grows on its own. No! I take care of my hair, and I'd like some recognition for that! Ugh I don't know anyone with my hair texture and I'm tired of every other natural calling me a fake, or saying that I should be lucky I'm mixed and I have "good hair". Do people really think my hair doesn't tangle, or get dry? I seriously wanna strangle people with these thoughts
I live on the South side of Orlando.
Idk where the other 3s are hiding.... The only other type 3s i DO see are Hispanic women...but they have that fine/silky type 3 hair...mine is coarse 3c...Medium, even. It doesn't shine like the typical type 3 hair you think of...it has sheen but it doesn't shine and its not fine....for the most part.
There was only ONE other girl at my job that had my kind of hair...but she was kind of stuck up (well, that was my vibe from her...i could be wrong) and i never really spoke to her...she doesn't work there anymore.
Also....am i wrong for feeling like im in a petting zoo? I HATE when my coworkers boing my curls or feel the need to touch my hair. I think type 4 hair is amazing and when i first went natural i thought i would be a type 4 In fact i am in LOVE with the Type 4 curl pattern that is at my nape..you can't really see it though unless i lift my hair up...but even though i find it beautiful...i don't just feel the need to touch ppls hair. And they always catch me off guard! I almost popped this one girl in the nose because she scared me when she pulled on my hair!
Idk...im just frustrated...and sleep deprived....and stressed. Happy Friday all
People often don't believe my hair is my own. I have 3B hair that is only shoulder length, but my curls are loose, round, and shiny. I often have women with 4A-Z hair that constantly try and clown on me for no reason. They always ask "Is that your hair?" And when I say yes they always ask if they can touch iterplexed. Hell no! I don't want anyone's grimy hands touching me. Then they always say "I knew it was a wig!" they laugh in my face and then leave. I even have people who wait until I'm leaving or turn around to grab as much hair as possible and then they yank! I have to curse at least 10 women AND men out a week for that bs!! I work on retail btw. It makes me angry that no one believes I need to take care of my hair. Like I can just leave it and it magically grows on its own. No! I take care of my hair, and I'd like some recognition for that! Ugh I don't know anyone with my hair texture and I'm tired of every other natural calling me a fake, or saying that I should be lucky I'm mixed and I have "good hair". Do people really think my hair doesn't tangle, or get dry? I seriously wanna strangle people with these thoughts
People often don't believe my hair is my own. I have 3B hair that is only shoulder length, but my curls are loose, round, and shiny. I often have women with 4A-Z hair that constantly try and clown on me for no reason. They always ask "Is that your hair?" And when I say yes they always ask if they can touch iterplexed. Hell no! I don't want anyone's grimy hands touching me. Then they always say "I knew it was a wig!" they laugh in my face and then leave. I even have people who wait until I'm leaving or turn around to grab as much hair as possible and then they yank! I have to curse at least 10 women AND men out a week for that bs!! I work on retail btw. It makes me angry that no one believes I need to take care of my hair. Like I can just leave it and it magically grows on its own. No! I take care of my hair, and I'd like some recognition for that! Ugh I don't know anyone with my hair texture and I'm tired of every other natural calling me a fake, or saying that I should be lucky I'm mixed and I have "good hair". Do people really think my hair doesn't tangle, or get dry? I seriously wanna strangle people with these thoughts
frogkisses You're not alone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people that dont realize "black" not only comes in different shades but in different textures. I go through the same thing and you just have to have tough skin about it. Just last weekend I went out with my hair in a wng and a co-workers boyfriend decided he wanted to clown my hair and say I had a jerri curl and started singing the soul glo theme song (I hated the fact I love that song at that moment). I just laughed rolled my eyes and told him how that was the first time anyone has ever said that and how original he must feel.
I've also had cases irl where other naturals have excluded me from hair talk because "I'm not 'really' black" or because "I dont really understand what its like to be natural"
HEIFER!!! I had to get off the creamy crack just like you and learn how to deal with something my mom didnt even know how to handle! I had to learn from scratch and believe it or not a lot of the the things I do other 4b-z's do as well. But you cant educate the world.
All you can do is come here to an environment where people understand you and accept your hair as is and make crazy vent threads about Indian people talking smack about your hair
Ok... I'm done lol