Married christian women how did you know he was the one?

[blessed]

I was wondering how the married women on the board knew there husband was the right one for them. I already know the basic things that must happen like he must be saved, love God more than he loves you , respect you, a great person , good job etc etc..... But what did you feel spiritually. Did God confirm your feelings. Did you just know right away? How did you know that this was the man God had ordained for your life?

 

[GlamourGirl]

Good questions Blessed. The same ones I have. I can't wait to hear what the ladies have to say about this.

 

[dlewis]

I didn't know. Gd just happen to bless the mess I had gotten myself into. I want to hear what the other ladies have to say also.

 

[Southernbella.]

I was wondering how the married women on the board knew there husband was the right one for them. I already know the basic things that must happen like he must be saved, love God more than he loves you , respect you, a great person , good job etc etc..... But what did you feel spiritually. Did God confirm your feelings. Did you just know right away? How did you know that this was the man God had ordained for your life?

Long story short...I had stopped dating and got closer to God and I got to know me better. I had certain standards for courtship, and I told God that I would wait for Him to send me the person who could live up to those standards.

I met a counterfeit and became friends with him, thinking he might be the one, but he broke a few of my rules. I met my dh around the same time, and overlooked him. After I cut off the other guy, dh and I became friends, and he was everything I wanted, plus more, and he did every crazy thing I had asked God for.

The only way I can really explain the actual feeling is that I was excited, but also afraid. It was like knowing that something MAJOR was about to happen in my life. I just knew. And I knew that HE knew, but neither one of us said anything because we were waiting for God to reveal the right time. It was torture having phone conversations, knowing that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together but it wasn't time to make that happen yet.

Ok, that wasn't a short story.But yeah, I think you know when it's the one.

 

[michc]

When I fell in love with my husband, I persisted in asking God to take this man out of my life if he was not the one for me, even though I knew it would hurt like crazy. I did not want anyone or anything coming in between my relationship with the Lord, that's why my request was so drastic. I had asked God to do this previously for a couple of people who called themselves friends, but were not in any shape or form, and God did it (and fast) - so I KNEW that if my hubby was wrong for me, that God would remove him from my life (just my life - not from the earth or anything ). But He didn't and the rest is history

 

[chinadoll]

Sorry I don't have a story to share but I would like to read some more.

 

[nik4jesus]

Heres my story

I had organized an outing for the young adults in my church (free gospel concert in bklyn) and he was the only one to show up. From there we became friends and kept in touch just through email and at church in brief conversations. Months later I started liking this other guy at my church -I thought he was so spiritual-lol ( and he really is). Anyway I had a dream I was in a huge stadium and i was walking over to the guy I started liking..suddenly my DH stood up a few rows down and said what are u doing u are supposed to be with me. I woke up thinking -what the heezy!!. I didnt think of him in a romantic way at all. We are complete opposites. A few weeks later he took me to pick up shoes for my pastors anniversary. He told me he was bringing a friend to the banquet. I told my friends I would never date him if he bought this girl to the banquet. I told God I would welcome her and be nice to her since he was bringing her and I just couldnt imagine dating him after bringing this other person to the banquet( dont ask me why-lol- I guess vanity). So at the banquet I waited and insisted they sit with me bc I am friendly and wanted her to feel confortable BUT they never showed up. I called him the next day and found out he had rearended a car and wasnt able to make it tothe banquet. I was shocked..he was okay..and things just seemed to be going my way. ( he and the girl never became romantically involved)We grew closer and closer and with MY PASTORS support and all my close friends we are now married 4 years. This was a man i would never have dated if I wasnt saved. He is Haitian, stutters, came here to the states and pursued God and school with a vengeance to turn his life around never drank or smoked or anything else . I am a girl from the "hood" who spend years drunk, high and partying with no real goals just searching for something to fill the emptiness in my soul then got laid off one summer and as i took advantage of the system decided I would study the bible to see if God was real-and found Him! He is proper and quiet and I am loud and bold. I prayed and got counsel from godly people but we both knew God had brought us together..because there was NO other way the two of us would have crossed one anothers paths.

 

[blessed]

Heres my story
This was a man i would never have dated if I wasnt saved. He is Haitian, stutters, came here to the states and pursued God and school with a vengeance to turn his life around never drank or smoked or anything else . I am a girl from the "hood" who spend years drunk, high and partying with no real goals just searching for something to fill the emptiness in my soul then got laid off one summer and as i took advantage of the system decided I would study the bible to see if God was real-and found Him! He is proper and quiet and I am loud and bold. I prayed and got counsel from godly people but we both knew God had brought us together..because there was NO other way the two of us would have crossed one anothers paths.

Wow your story reminds me of my situation. In regards to my background and the person I had in mind when I posted this thread. But I have been raised in church all my life with only a brief moment out in the world and this guy was raised in the church be strayed away for awhile and experienced alot of things. I probably never would have even bothered giving him my number if he wasn't saved and so respectful. Thanks for sharing

 

[ms*x]

we were totally comfortable with one another and neither of us took advantage of our honesty.
we courted for almost a year and he waited as long as it took.
i'm a VERY tough cookie, and he took it and when i got unbearable, he placed me back in my proper position with the strength of a man of god.

 

[nik4jesus]

My pleasure Blessed..let me know how it works out.

 

[Moroni]

Now that I look back on it, it was quite funny! But the Spirit just gave me such peace, and there was a strong burning in my heart, you know? As we grew closer, I doubted he was the one, because we seemed to have so little in common, but for some reason yet to be revealed to me, God wanted us together. I prayed, I even fasted, and the answer was always the same: He's the one for you.

Yesterday was the 9th anniversary of our first meeting in person, after talking to each other on the phone for 3 months. We've been married for 8 years, and I know God's plan is still unfolding!

 

[dlewis]

I didn't know. Gd just happen to bless the mess I had gotten myself into. I want to hear what the other ladies have to say also.

I must have been on some type of honest juice when I posted this.

 

[Coffee]

I met my hubby via a girlfriend I worked with, and she kept pestering me to go out with him. I asked what did he look like and she said " he really has a nice personality and I"m like oh noooooo. When she told me he was a Pastor, I really said noooooooooooooooooooooo way. Well since I had to see her everyday at work, she kept asking me to meet him and I finally said yes so I could come to work in peace. Our first date was a movie and he was nice looking, great personality, but too overweight for me. I refused to give him my phone number saying instead I would call him, which I never did. About 7 months later I ran into him at a bowling alley and he made me promise I would call him when I got home, well I couldn't very well lie to one of God's Servants, so I called and we talked for about 4 hours. Well to shorten the story, we dated for 3 years, but while I was very spiritually attracted to him, I wasn't physically attracted to him, but he said God told him I was the one, he just needed to be patient. Well the spiritual attraction finally won; I remember hearing God clean as a bell one Tuesday night and God said to me "This is what you asked for in a man, either you take him or you will end up alone". I then asked him to marry me (he had already asked 2 times and I said no). Prior to meeting him, I wrote down on a piece of paper what I was looking for in a man, even the height I wanted, well my husband is exactly 5'11, which is what I asked for. All the qualities I listed my husband has and even more. He has since lost the weight without any pushing from me and still has the wonderful qualities I wanted. We've been together 11 years and married 8.5 years.

My suggestion is to listen to God and let him bring the right man in your life. It may not be what we think we want or need, but he will be the right one for you.

 

[Ms Red]

Dlewis, isn't it funny (scary) when you come across something you posted that is so honest, true and 'you'? It's crazy...

I want to read more stories too..... bump!

I must have been on some type of honest juice when I posted this.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Dh was totally not the man I would have thought I would be with. Totally different than what I liked in a man. But, God would have His way and He had to totally do it His way because if it was up to me, I would have never been with the best man in the world!

I just knew. It was as if God spoke to me and said...."yes, him." I thought it was the devil at first, but then the Lord gave me a dream and told me that He was the one. I was obedient and we have known each other for 11 years and have been married for 8 years (August). These have been the best years of my life!!!

I'm so blessed to have listened to the Lord, because He knows what is best for us and we must know this and do what He says to do when He speaks. This is why its so important to know the voice of God!

 

[MissNatural]

I love these stories, keep them coming! One question: did any of you ladies ask God for a sign before you met your husbands?

 

[Moroni]

I love these stories, keep them coming! One question: did any of you ladies ask God for a sign before you met your husbands?

Absolutely! We had known each other for about 6 months, and he was "hinting" that he wanted to marry me. I asked God specifically to show me this was the man for me by a specific action. It happened. Hmm. Could have been a "coincidence", right? So about 2 months later, I said well, if he's REALLY the one, make it happen again! It happened...again.

The next time I approached God to even ask, I was chided! I don't know if you've ever been chastened by the Spirit, but I knew in NO UNCERTAIN terms, that I had crossed the line! I had asked, I had been answered...twice!...and here I was AGAIN!!! Whew! I repented, shared the experience with my DH and said that I would marry him.

My greatest lesson has been to learn that God's ways are not our ways, and HIS wisdom surpasses ALL our understanding. HE loves us soooo much, and we grow best when we are humble and obedient in ALL things, not just the things we decide we want to do.

 

[remnant]

Awesome and touching thread, thank you ladies for your testimonies

 

[dreamer26]

I've told some of my story before so I'm going to hightlight it.

I was married before and not wanting to make the same mistake twice I fasted for 7 days for an answer from God. At midnight on the 7th day I met my husband but I was not interested in him at all. I was waiting on God to answer with a yes regarding the man I was dating.

My boyfriend at the time was sort of jealous and if he came over to my house and saw a business card with a man's name on it it automatically went in the trash. Well my husband business card laid on my dresser for 2 weeks, and he did not touch it. After about 2 weeks my girlfriend asked me if I had called and I told her he's not my type I wasn't interested.

Needless to say I did call and it was like we had known each other for a while. We found out we've been in the same places, parties, social gathering but never met. We went out on our first date and have never been apart in 13 years.

Well one last clue, my oldest son, while we were at a movie call him daddy. I said oh my God there goes the relationship. I said boy you know that's not your daddy. He said "I know he's not now but he soon will be".
He was about 9 years old at the time, and a year later we were married.

My husband was not the one that I would have picked and I thank God for being waaayyyyy smarter than me.

He's not perfect but he's perfect for me.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

I've told some of my story before so I'm going to hightlight it.

I was married before and not wanting to make the same mistake twice I fasted for 7 days for an answer from God. At midnight on the 7th day I met my husband but I was not interested in him at all. I was waiting on God to answer with a yes regarding the man I was dating.

My boyfriend at the time was sort of jealous and if he came over to my house and saw a business card with a man's name on it it automatically went in the trash. Well my husband business card laid on my dresser for 2 weeks, and he did not touch it. After about 2 weeks my girlfriend asked me if I had called and I told her he's not my type I wasn't interested.

Needless to say I did call and it was like we had known each other for a while. We found out we've been in the same places, parties, social gathering but never met. We went out on our first date and have never been apart in 13 years.

Well one last clue, my oldest son, while we were at a movie call him daddy. I said oh my God there goes the relationship. I said boy you know that's not your daddy. He said "I know he's not now but he soon will be".
He was about 9 years old at the time, and a year later we were married.

My husband was not the one that I would have picked and I thank God for being waaayyyyy smarter than me.

He's not perfect but he's perfect for me.

Wow...this is one of the best stories like this I have ever heard. Beautiful, especially the last sentence....

 

[Tee]

When I stopped trying to find 'The One' and let the Lord send me the 'The One.' The funny thing is, My DH said I was everything he prayed for. Down to the Tee.

 

[caligirl2385]

When I stopped trying to find 'The One' and let the Lord send me the 'The One.'

WOULD YOU MIND ELABORATING ON YOUR STORY, LETITIA?

 

[Dogmd]

I didn't know he was the one until ...God finally revealed him to me . If it had been left up to me...I would probably still be single now. I gave it to GOD and now 15 years later...I look at my husband daily and thank GOD for leading him to me.


Basically...I stopped trying to find the perfect man for me and BAM...along came my husband. GOD new he was the one for me.

 

[SweetlyBlessed]

Reading all these stories kind of made me paranoid however, the more I think about this guy that approached me the more I'm mad. LOL Opposites isn't the word! He angers me so not challenge. He proposed after just knowing me for only 3 weeks (prior to getting shipped off to Iraq). I didn't know to give his emotions the benefit of the doubt because of his military circumstance or what. But when he calls I can't get a word in, he questions more like a police interogation of everything that I do. I really can't stand that. I'm like, if you knew me or had the time to know then you wouldn't be asking theses questions. He is everything I have on list but there is extra items that I don't think I can tolerate.

He's in the military - that is something I REFUSE to deal with. I'm not moving and I'm not worrying abput if they will return or not. He already has it planned out where he's living the rest of his life, where the kids would be raised, etc. He wants to know every male friend in my life. He'll break his neck to introduce himself before I get a chance to do it. He put my emotions and everything else so out of line when around him I was backed up for 2 weeks and had to take a week off of work!!! I think Ima have to use another poster's term and say he's a counterfeit.

However, he claims I'm everything that he has on his list of the one that's for him.

But dangit! The feeling is not mutual and his pressure is ridiculous. I think I will have to leave him in 2007.

 

[honeisos]

I must have been on some type of honest juice when I posted this.

Girl you gave me more hope when i read this .. God is so forgiving ..
Seems like I am in the same "mess"
I have hope that God will bless it anyway !

 

[blessed]

Wow when I started this thread I never expected so many people to respond. Thanks so much for sharing. It has truly helped me to trust God in my own relationship. God Bless all you ladies.

 

[chicacanella]

Absolutely! We had known each other for about 6 months, and he was "hinting" that he wanted to marry me. I asked God specifically to show me this was the man for me by a specific action. It happened. Hmm. Could have been a "coincidence", right? So about 2 months later, I said well, if he's REALLY the one, make it happen again! It happened...again.

The next time I approached God to even ask, I was chided! I don't know if you've ever been chastened by the Spirit, but I knew in NO UNCERTAIN terms, that I had crossed the line! I had asked, I had been answered...twice!...and here I was AGAIN!!! Whew! I repented, shared the experience with my DH and said that I would marry him.

My greatest lesson has been to learn that God's ways are not our ways, and HIS wisdom surpasses ALL our understanding. HE loves us soooo much, and we grow best when we are humble and obedient in ALL things, not just the things we decide we want to do.

How long did you pray for a husband before it happened?

 

[chicacanella]

bump.....................

 

[MA2010]

Interesting thread!!!! BUMP!!!!

My husband and I had a DEEP conversation before we married. We talked about God, true love, Being good Christians together as one, and all that.

That conversation sealed the deal for me. We wanted to seek God and let God rule our marriage. Yes, we had a falling out with God (becoming wordly again)..... but boy are WE BACK!!!

Thease threads are amazing!

 

[neenzmj]

God gave me a peace about him. I knew there was something different about him the very first time we spoke (of course the difference was the Christ in him.) God even saw to it that he had the physical features I like in a man -- down to the size and texture of his hands. It was if he made him just for me!